When I was 20/21. I fell for this pretty girl with an amazing personality.There was only one problem
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No lie one of the best chicks I ever met had a kid.
She wasn't a 10 more like a 7 to be honest. But everything else about her life was a 10 outside of the kid. She was my idea woman outside of the looks department and even then if she hit the gym she'd more often she'd probably be a 8, but I really can't go into a relationship with someone else having a kid already. Chicks get mad at me for saying that, "but thats just how I feel"
Hell even the kid was like me, it was pretty wild.
I wonder why it takes a kid for chicks to get there mind right nowadays.
At 31, im looking at being single for ever or with some young immature thang
She wasn't a 10 more like a 7 to be honest. But everything else about her life was a 10 outside of the kid. She was my idea woman outside of the looks department and even then if she hit the gym she'd more often she'd probably be a 8, but I really can't go into a relationship with someone else having a kid already. Chicks get mad at me for saying that, "but thats just how I feel"
Hell even the kid was like me, it was pretty wild.
I wonder why it takes a kid for chicks to get there mind right nowadays.
At 31, im looking at being single for ever or with some young immature thang
malbaker86
Gators
I understand the OP's logic and can't fault him for it
illwittdeez
aka Breh Wyatt
1 year old? lil man would have grown up thinking you were his father, I think the first few years of the child's life would give that view but 5 years and up is a different story.
Incogni' Rodney
not2c
i was just like some of u when i was a teen, saying i dont care if she got a kid and all that
been down that road, sh1t just doesnt work. call me a fukk nikka if u want but i just cant raise a kid thats not my own
unless shortys on some JLo in her prime sh1t
been down that road, sh1t just doesnt work. call me a fukk nikka if u want but i just cant raise a kid thats not my own
unless shortys on some JLo in her prime sh1t
DONT DO IT breh
if the father aint around not even caring about her son, what kind of dudes was she allowing to bust in her raw, poor choice in men
o the other hand if the father is around hes tapping
you cant avoid the L
Thanks breh, you're right, I always appreciate your advice. I know what you're saying is fact and my brain understands it but being a human with emotions sucks sometimes breh. But I said its a long shot, mom dukes gonna body me if I mess with this chick
you probably did the right thing breh. I understand we all have emotions and aren't robots but there's a difference between acknowledging (and managing your emotions) and being a slave to your emotions. IMO the key to happiness is to find ways to manage your emotions logically. Chick had a kid. Father is still in his life. You could probably see all the potential drama and issues. and although she could have been a cool chick, you probably felt like you had better options in life.
you got the other girl. you prefer the first girl BUT you prefer the second situation or "package". You did good breh cause the second chick is still a great girl as you said.
remember one thing in life breh. There is no such thing as "unconditional love". The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be. Don't let people try to guilt trip you into "if you would have loved her you would have accepted her kid as your own"
You loved her while you were with her but you felt like it wasn't right for you. now the left over emotion is attachement. advice i'd give you is to try and focus on the good things your wife does for you (without comparing) and whatever you would like from her to be happier. Maybe you'll realize that your wife has an even bigger potential to support your happiness than Kay ever could.
Personally, the only way i could be with a single mom is if the father is dead (even then i probably wouldn't unless i have no other option but that's the only way i would consider it.)
you got the other girl. you prefer the first girl BUT you prefer the second situation or "package". You did good breh cause the second chick is still a great girl as you said.
remember one thing in life breh. There is no such thing as "unconditional love". The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be. Don't let people try to guilt trip you into "if you would have loved her you would have accepted her kid as your own"
You loved her while you were with her but you felt like it wasn't right for you. now the left over emotion is attachement. advice i'd give you is to try and focus on the good things your wife does for you (without comparing) and whatever you would like from her to be happier. Maybe you'll realize that your wife has an even bigger potential to support your happiness than Kay ever could. Personally, the only way i could be with a single mom is if the father is dead (even then i probably wouldn't unless i have no other option but that's the only way i would consider it.)
even then you know if the father is say dead or not in hte picture and you come in and date and say break up, she can go after you for child support
see i hadn't even thought of that...
]you probably did the right thing breh. I understand we all have emotions and aren't robots but there's a difference between acknowledging (and managing your emotions) and being a slave to your emotions. IMO the key to happiness is to find ways to manage your emotions logically. Chick had a kid. Father is still in his life. You could probably see all the potential drama and issues. and although she could have been a cool chick, you probably felt like you had better options in life.
you got the other girl. you prefer the first girl BUT you prefer the second situation or "package". You did good breh cause the second chick is still a great girl as you said.
remember one thing in life breh. There is no such thing as "unconditional love". The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be. Don't let people try to guilt trip you into "if you would have loved her you would have accepted her kid as your own"
Personally, the only way i could be with a single mom is if the father is dead (even then i probably wouldn't unless i have no other option but that's the only way i would consider it.)
Turbulent staying dropping them gems brehs
Myrical Lyfe
In the Gutter, of the Tunnel
Exactly.
I'm raising my fiance's son as my own, and we have a daughter together. ..never think twice aboutit. My lame ass biological wasn't man enough and my step father stepped in and did the same for me. I feel weird even typing step father. I can't blame you or anyone for not being able to do what I did, but I'm glad I didn't find out the type of person I'd have been without his guidance.
so because your daddy wasn't there , and you saw your fiance and her son, you thought of that boy as you and the mom as your mother?