When is a good time to "Settle" in a relationship?

[HopeKillCure]

You ever gonna get to the point where you just settle for your partner because you done gave up on that superwoman or superman you looking for?

What's the point where you say, "screw it, they aint that bad."?

 

[PeridotPuss]

I think for most people it's around 40ish

 

[StickStickly]

No one will ever have all the traits you want or think you deserve in a partner

 

[DanniC]

Thats the quickest way to divorce

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Never. Anything less than perfect does not equal settling. The goal is to be happy and satisfied with your choice.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

When you start having raw sex

 

[HopeKillCure]

I think for most people it's around 40ish

Is it 40 because we gonna be less attractive

Few of my people settled because of babies and had to make it work. But a single, kidless person in they 40s should just settle to avoid dying alone?

 

[HopeKillCure]

No one will ever have all the traits you want or think you deserve in a partner

So it's hopeless?

 

[HopeKillCure]

When you start having raw sex

You going in raw you married! That imprint there forever

 

[PeridotPuss]

Is it 40 because we gonna be less attractive

Few of my people settled because of babies and had to make it work. But a single, kidless person in they 40s should just settle to avoid dying alone?

they should do whatever they want ....I've noticed men and women over 35 start to look at things differently start thinking about "what really matters" and shyt. idk... seems like 35-40 is the threshold

 

[The BasedFather]

settling is for migrants

always strive for the best and find that one person for you.

youre all beautiful people and deserve the best

love

-The BasedFather

 

[StickStickly]

So it's hopeless?

No, it's just not as bad as what OP is making it out to be. Settling doesn't mean you take someone who you don't like or don't want. It just means you stop trying to find the mythical and elusive "better option" and find the person who you like and who likes you. The problem with trying to find the better option is it's easier to focus in on a flaw (that we otherwise would have minimized) and use that to negate everything good about a person in hopes that there is a person out there with all the good and no flaw. But everyone has flaws. We just have to accept that we are flawed human beings ourselves in search of love with other flawed human beings. Maybe the guy isn't a genius but he's dedicated and funny. Maybe the girl doesn't have a fat ass but she is great with your family and friends and laughs a lot. Etc etc. it's not hopeless. thinking like OP, like settling is a death sentence, is what's hopeless

 

[HopeKillCure]

No, it's just not as bad as what OP is making it out to be. Settling doesn't mean you take someone who you don't like or don't want. It just means you stop trying to find the mythical and elusive "better option" and find the person who you like and who likes you. The problem with trying to find the better option is it's easier to focus in on a flaw (that we otherwise would have minimized) and use that to negate everything good about a person in hopes that there is a person out there with all the good and no flaw. But everyone has flaws. We just have to accept that we are flawed human beings ourselves in search of love with other flawed human beings. Maybe the guy isn't a genius but he's dedicated and funny. Maybe the girl doesn't have a fat ass but she is great with your family and friends and laughs a lot. Etc etc. it's not hopeless. thinking like OP, like settling is a death sentence, is what's hopeless

Real talk!

Agree with almost everything you saying, but settle like accepting that the person you with is a better option than your other options is a struggle.

Think we all have that 1 partner who on point with everything they do for us. They uplift us, honest, down, etc., but for whatever reason we dont fukk with them like that. We don't appreciate them like we should. We may never have somebody love us more than that 1 individual but it feels like settling to treat them the same way they treat us.

 

[AlainLocke]

Few of my people settled because of babies and had to make it work. But a single, kidless person in they 40s should just settle to avoid dying alone?

Uh no, they should enjoy their freedom...

Just think about it, you made it to 40, you should be at the peak of your career...no kids..money to yourself...



Sounds fukking wonderful and fun to me