When y’all say focus on yourself, what exactly does that mean?
- Thread starter Kwabena
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Figure it out
How vague
I’ll give you the real answer no one wants to hear:
It honestly means you have to focus time and effort away from vices and possibly guilty pleasures. The club, women, alcohol, drugs...Usually when guys say this it means going to the gym, getting your money up, getting a degree, a cert, etc...Anything that helps your life on paper.
What they won’t tell you is that this is going to be a very lonely road. At times it feels like a chore. At times it can feel like you’re just chasing a goal that takes forever. And, it can be very boring at times. But the journey is what makes you focused.
There was a point where I ignored women for months and just focused on the gym. They didn’t want me anyway when I would approach and pursue, so I just went ham on my fitness... Not even for women neither, because at that point I internalized it that getting someone to like me back was a lost cause, so let me just love myself. It sounds weird but it’s true. Anyway, I would go to the gym day in and day out. My health was on point and I felt invincible. Fell off the path for a bit, but I’m steadily getting back to where I was. It was VERY boring at first, but once I made it a routine it wasn’t that bad. You’re gonna get frustrated and you might spend some Friday nights solo.
But, it’s worth it.
It honestly means you have to focus time and effort away from vices and possibly guilty pleasures. The club, women, alcohol, drugs...Usually when guys say this it means going to the gym, getting your money up, getting a degree, a cert, etc...Anything that helps your life on paper.
What they won’t tell you is that this is going to be a very lonely road. At times it feels like a chore. At times it can feel like you’re just chasing a goal that takes forever. And, it can be very boring at times. But the journey is what makes you focused.
There was a point where I ignored women for months and just focused on the gym. They didn’t want me anyway when I would approach and pursue, so I just went ham on my fitness... Not even for women neither, because at that point I internalized it that getting someone to like me back was a lost cause, so let me just love myself. It sounds weird but it’s true. Anyway, I would go to the gym day in and day out. My health was on point and I felt invincible. Fell off the path for a bit, but I’m steadily getting back to where I was. It was VERY boring at first, but once I made it a routine it wasn’t that bad. You’re gonna get frustrated and you might spend some Friday nights solo.
But, it’s worth it.
DatLBCGuy562
Superstar
Fire post and so relatable to my current life and mindset. fukk these women. This generation of women are trash anyway and the payoff isn’t worth the payout. They want you to jump through a million hoops so they can live out these outdated, unrealistic “princess” fantasies while they make minimal effort and bring very little, if any, tangibles to the table. Making a decision to disconnect from the rat race of dating and focus on the gym and pursuit of my money, as cliche as it may sound, has been literally the best decision I’ve made for the progression of my life
This is so true. Dap + Rep.
BlackAchilles
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A big part of it is examining your life from the standpoint of reconciling contradictions between your stated goals and behaviors
WaveCapsByOscorp™
2021 Grammy Award Winner
It means to build yourself
Calling women trash is the definition of not focusing on yourselfFire post and so relatable to my current life and mindset. fukk these women. This generation of women are trash anyway and the payoff isn’t worth the payout. They want you to jump through a million hoops so they can live out these outdated, unrealistic “princess” fantasies while they make minimal effort and bring very little, if any, tangibles to the table. Making a decision to disconnect from the rat race of dating and focus on the gym and pursuit of my money, as cliche as it may sound, has been literally the best decision I’ve made for the progression of my life
Do you have a talent or passion that only involves you and what you get out of it? If so focus on that. Can you make a career out of it? Even better
DatLBCGuy562
Superstar
OP knows exactly what it means 
DatLBCGuy562
Superstar
Yeah. Because some simp living in an alternative reality who doesn’t wanna acknowledge and accept the TRUE nature and current status of the social media era woman can make judgements and cast aspersions about my life. I’ve reached a pinnacle of success most only hope for by focusing on my goals and not letting a no good, money grubbing bytch distract me or sidetrack me. Wanna play big bank take little bank?
It could mean a variety of things..
It could mean..to reset..
It could mean..walk if a way from a toxic situation..
It could mean working on personal issues whether it be substance abuse, emotional issues or healing from a tragic loss whatever that may be..
It could mean simply resting the mind, working out, eating right..
It could also mean seeking help whether it be from s close friend, relative, sieitusl advisor or going to seek professional help such as a therapist, counselor or going to a group session..
It simply could be a myriad of meanings which may vary from person to person..
It could mean..to reset..
It could mean..walk if a way from a toxic situation..
It could mean working on personal issues whether it be substance abuse, emotional issues or healing from a tragic loss whatever that may be..
It could mean simply resting the mind, working out, eating right..
It could also mean seeking help whether it be from s close friend, relative, sieitusl advisor or going to seek professional help such as a therapist, counselor or going to a group session..
It simply could be a myriad of meanings which may vary from person to person..