When y’all say focus on yourself, what exactly does that mean?

[ExodusNirvana]

What the fukk is wrong with nikkas in 2019 that they don't know that focusing on yourself means FOCUSING ON YOU????

 

[Kwabena]

What the fukk is wrong with nikkas in 2019 that they don't know that focusing on yourself means FOCUSING ON YOU????

Sounds selfish. Can you focus on yourself and have people who are dependent on you?

 

[phcitywarrior]

Sounds selfish. Can you focus on yourself and have people who are dependent on you?

Of course. If you have people that depend on you then you're building responsibility. That could part of why you're on your grind, you have to put food on the table.

 

[lightbearerchef]

I’ll give you the real answer no one wants to hear:

It honestly means you have to focus time and effort away from vices and possibly guilty pleasures. The club, women, alcohol, drugs...Usually when guys say this it means going to the gym, getting your money up, getting a degree, a cert, etc...Anything that helps your life on paper.

What they won’t tell you is that this is going to be a very lonely road. At times it feels like a chore. At times it can feel like you’re just chasing a goal that takes forever. And, it can be very boring at times. But the journey is what makes you focused.

There was a point where I ignored women for months and just focused on the gym. They didn’t want me anyway when I would approach and pursue, so I just went ham on my fitness... Not even for women neither, because at that point I internalized it that getting someone to like me back was a lost cause, so let me just love myself. It sounds weird but it’s true. Anyway, I would go to the gym day in and day out. My health was on point and I felt invincible. Fell off the path for a bit, but I’m steadily getting back to where I was. It was VERY boring at first, but once I made it a routine it wasn’t that bad. You’re gonna get frustrated and you might spend some Friday nights solo.

But, it’s worth it.

I ain't gone lie, this gone be tha realist post in this mf. This currently what I'm centering my life around rn. I done had niccas cut me off cuz majority of what I talked about was positive progressive shyt, I rarely talked about doing ignorant shyt, never talked about doing it without a purpose.

Alotta people is lazy/content out here and 2 busy playing victim to ever be something. I guarantee anyone of you in 5 years tha majority of yo people gone be in tha same position doing tha same shyt or worse. It realli takes discipline patience hard work & dedication to get something out of life and even then you still may not get watchu want.

But that adds up to, is you basing yo metric of success on watchu see another mf having or is it based on some outlandish ass shyt? Tha goal ain't to be tha richest, tha goal is to get rich doing watchu love so it dont feel bothersome.

 

[Mr Rager]

Ironically, the "focus on yourself" twitter crowd spends a lot of their time telling everyone that they're focusing on themselves

 

[Kwabena]

If "Focus on yourself" is synonymous with self-improvement, how can you improve your social footing/social circle when you’re minimizing contact with the opposite sex?

 

[Abraxus]

Figure it out

Brutal but ok, I’ll try. Invest in you as a person. Are you where you want to be in life? No goals or ambitions to better YOU? If not, then get on your purpose whatever that may be. You want to start a business, do school, learn to play the guitar or get that one fine ass girl you like? ( or smh, dude you like) then make a tentative plan and execute it. Ok, I’m done.

 

[Kwabena]

Brutal but ok, I’ll try. Invest in you as a person. Are you where you want to be in life? No goals or ambitions to better YOU? If not, then get on your purpose whatever that may be. You want to start a business, do school, learn to play the guitar or get that one fine ass girl you like? ( or smh, dude you like) then make a tentative plan and execute it. Ok, I’m done.

"Focus on yourself" but this entail focusing on another person

 

[Abraxus]

"Focus on yourself" but this entail focusing on another person

Don’t read into it too deep. If you only have one goal then maybe you can’t allow other goals. Last time I checked I could walk and chew bubble gum.

 

[phcitywarrior]

If "Focus on yourself" is synonymous with self-improvement, how can you improve your social footing/social circle when you’re minimizing contact with the opposite sex?

They aren't mutually exclusive. The reason most guys say forgo the opposite sex for some time is because often times, dudes are sub-par in other aspects of their life. Improving said areas would boost their confidence and increase their chances with the opposite sex.

If part of focusing on yourself if improving your social life, then I'd tell said person to explore their interests, develop them and then engage with like minded people. But there has to be personal development along the way as well.

 

[ℒℴѵℯJay ELECTUA]

?

basically she telling you that she is on to her next move, her next main squeaze, her next cock in the throat and guzzle guzzle guzzle..

so don't sweat it Keith, keep doing you, focus ON YOUR JOB, CAREER, SCHOOL ETC.

 

[Abraxus]

basically she telling you that she is on to her next move, her next main squeaze, her next cock in the throat and guzzle guzzle guzzle..

so don't sweat it Keith, keep doing you, focus ON YOUR JOB, CAREER, SCHOOL ETC.

Roflmao yeah they do try to butter it up when they put that dagger in your heart lmao

 

[Wink Beaufield]

Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.

Thats how I see it.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

I’ll give you the real answer no one wants to hear:

It honestly means you have to focus time and effort away from vices and possibly guilty pleasures. The club, women, alcohol, drugs...Usually when guys say this it means going to the gym, getting your money up, getting a degree, a cert, etc...Anything that helps your life on paper.

What they won’t tell you is that this is going to be a very lonely road. At times it feels like a chore. At times it can feel like you’re just chasing a goal that takes forever. And, it can be very boring at times. But the journey is what makes you focused.

There was a point where I ignored women for months and just focused on the gym. They didn’t want me anyway when I would approach and pursue, so I just went ham on my fitness... Not even for women neither, because at that point I internalized it that getting someone to like me back was a lost cause, so let me just love myself. It sounds weird but it’s true. Anyway, I would go to the gym day in and day out. My health was on point and I felt invincible. Fell off the path for a bit, but I’m steadily getting back to where I was. It was VERY boring at first, but once I made it a routine it wasn’t that bad. You’re gonna get frustrated and you might spend some Friday nights solo.

But, it’s worth it.

post of the year?

 

[Fresh]

usually mind your business