when you cut a homie off do you ghost them or confront them?
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EarlyEarly
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I don’t ghost anybody. I answer all calls and texts. They’ll ghost me eventually though 
u ever had friends u been thru real shyt with? you know their mamas? shared your secrets or pain with?
hear u; sometimes things go left and situations can get funky.....it is what it is.....as we grow we change 2....it happens u made it sound foreign
like its regular that yall go from the sandbox 2 the nursing home all smiles and laughs all day
T'Challa Trillmonger
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if theres love and history but they movin weird for a while, i just create some distance to preserve my own peace of mind
if theres an issue where direct lines were crossed, then there needs to be a convo
if theres an issue where direct lines were crossed, then there needs to be a convo
I told my ex best friend that he was fukking up too much and had way too much drama after another incident..he stayed in drama and he tried to drag me into something I wanted no parts of and did something he wasn't suppose to do..this was back in fall of 2004..haven't talked to him since
When you go back and shyt the same? What you do?
Damn thats grimeyi confront.
cut my older brother off for trien to slick hate on me to his kids.
they love the boi so they told me.
confronted the fakkit. couldnt look me in my eyes
stuttering n shyt.nah fukk u for life.
T'Challa Trillmonger
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accept it might not be the friendship it once was
it depends on the rift/tension ... if its something they can change, or a phase, a convo could help (even if people get defensive in the moment, they could come back around when their situation hopefully improves)
but if its because they started abusing the friendship or your trust/history shared, or its become one sided like they only ask you for help or money but never reciprocates, then its better to just understand and accept it for everyone's sake, esp if you still care (like if its a childhood homie, etc)
Yea recently it turned into that last part just asking for help when needed but they been saying funny shyt/abusive shyt too skatin and shyt so the combo of being takers and saying disrespectful shyt made me cut them off… but after I confronted and asked if I did anything wrong to cause their behavior? They said no so I just moved onaccept it might not be the friendship it once was
it depends on the rift/tension ... if its something they can change, or a phase, a convo could help (even if people get defensive in the moment, they could come back around when their situation hopefully improves)
but if its because they started abusing the friendship or your trust/history shared, or its become one sided like they only ask you for help or money but never reciprocates, then its better to just understand and accept it for everyone's sake, esp if you still care (like if its a childhood homie, etc)
People don’t have to accept others negative changes in relationship dynamics… I’ll only do that with family blood or if I’m with a chick and it’s worth it but a “friend” its over for that too old now
T'Challa Trillmonger
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i agree, when i say "accept it" i don't mean stay and tolerate it at all ... just more so understand that this is how things are now and fighting it only makes it worse
from my experience, people who ask you for help but sayin passive subliminal comments are either projecting their insecurities onto you or are crashing out cuz of they own shyt ... neither of which anyone is obligated to tolerate esp if its repeated behavior
