Which One Y'all Think Gets More Women, Chasing or Ignoring?

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

What i meant by ignoring is ignoring trying to get at her.
I gave an example in here. When i was new at walgreens, i came in and never tried to get at the plethora of women. 3 of em ended up choosing up on me at the end of the day even though i came across them and didnt do what guys typically do (chase).

Could i have gotten them by chasing? Maybe..maybe not. But me ignoring any thought of choosing up on em made them come at me.

Boom

Again, that only works if someone is checking for you in the first place. I have never in my life noticed a guy I never noticed before because he wasn't interested in me.

I recently had a guy try this "I'm not gonna do what other guys do" shyt on me and frankly it wasn't interesting to me. It felt like dealing with him would be a downgrade based on how I socialize. I have friends, hobbies, I go out, have fun etc. I set time aside for things I want to and having someone pretend to be nonchalant is silly to me because I have plenty of other things to do so if you're not showing interested I keep it pushing.

But whatever works for you breh. I personally have never gravitated towards disinterest but I guess some women go for it. But, I would think a better strategy would be to show interest but act like you have so much going on that fitting her in is a "big deal." That would be more interesting to me then someone acting like they aren't interested.

 

[010101]

if she's choosing you don't have to do a thing

if she's not choosing ain't a thing you can do

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[Marzupial]

Badness.

My friend is ALWAYS, ALWAYS thinking about money or doing something that gets him money. He keeps a knot.
When he meets "the female version of himself" or a "female he can get money with" he is on a totally different playing field. He treats those women completely different and the contrast is so very startling. He actually pours into them, directs them, then extracts. He manages to flip things to make them dependent on him when they have the money and/or resources i.e. He'll get them to invest in something (his latest scheme is trade lines & transportation/cargo) and give them just enough knowledge. He looks for money in any situation - when he's at the strip club he's not there for T&A, he's in the corner schooling the dancers on increasing their credit score and real estate . The man is a trip.

Sounds like a genius to me

Instead of focusing on bullshyt and faking jaxs like lames do, he's focused on what really matters and making moves

 

[I'm Blackman]

It’s not so much ignoring women.

It’s valuing yourself and your time.
DOV)Demonstration of Value

You still approach women. You just don’t do the thirsty shyt. Like text the girl all day.

Majority of your time is spent bettering yourself financial, physically , mentally.

Once I learned this, I had girls that shot me down trying to climb back into the fold.

/thread

 

[phcitywarrior]

Chasing.

But a mix of both is ideal. Showing interest because all women like to be pursued, but not to act thirsty is key.

I find, if you're never gonna see the chick again you need to holla. If you'll see her from time to time, you have time to figure out how to play it. If you're glowed up, women will choose up on you.

I generally give a chick the eyes, and if I see she's receptive I'll approach. Sometimes I just cold approach because you'll never get that opening and you have to make one. But in my experience as long as you are well spoken, courteous, and not thirsty I get the digits on occasion.

You have to know how to play it though; sometimes I'm looked at like a creep, sometimes a chick was waiting to play any nikka, sometimes they respectfully say not interested or I have a boyfriend, but knowing how to play it only comes with trial and error.

/thread.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

all things being equal?

Chasing. You may not always get what you want...but you will get something. Like people have said, it's a numbers game.

Ignoring women though? You'll probably end up with nothing.

Ive gotten a few whilst ignoring

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Sounds like a genius to me

Instead of focusing on bullshyt and faking jaxs like lames do, he's focused on what really matters and making moves

Yep.

It's tiring sometimes though. When we hang out and I just want to smell the flowers, he's thinking about how to make money from the flowers. Him - "How much money does flowers bring in besides BS holidays like Valentine's Day?"

Another thing -

He told me that he never let's a woman tell he him 'No' more than once. She has just 1 time:
We had a debate once because I said that women say no and mean it.
His stance - In some instances women say no but actually wants to be convinced to say yes or feel safe and/or not judged if she says yes.
My stance - I know that when I say no, I mean it. If I say yes initially even that yes still could potentially turn into a no contingent upon what the guy does or doesn't do.

Through show & prove with a few chics that told him no at first, I lost that debate.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Again, that only works if someone is checking for you in the first place. I have never in my life noticed a guy I never noticed before because he wasn't interested in me.

I recently had a guy try this "I'm not gonna do what other guys do" shyt on me and frankly it wasn't interesting to me. It felt like dealing with him would be a downgrade based on how I socialize. I have friends, hobbies, I go out, have fun etc. I set time aside for things I want to and having someone pretend to be nonchalant is silly to me because I have plenty of other things to do so if you're not showing interested I keep it pushing.

But whatever works for you breh. I personally have never gravitated towards disinterest but I guess some women go for it. But, I would think a better strategy would be to show interest but act like you have so much going on that fitting her in is a "big deal." That would be more interesting to me then someone acting like they aren't interested.

Again, im not talking about "acting uninterested". Im saying not trying to get at a woman vs tryna shoot at every woman thats not ugly. For example, a decent looking woman as a cashier might be used to dudes coming in and tryna choose. A dude thats not acting as thirsty and goes in to buy what he wants and leaves might be a breath of fresh air to her.

(Im not saying the dude who just treated her normal is interested but that could possibly make her interested. Its happened to me)

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Again, im not talking about "acting uninterested". Im saying not trying to get at a woman vs tryna shoot at every woman thats not ugly. For example, a decent looking woman as a cashier might be used to dudes coming in and tryna choose. A dude thats not acting as thirsty and goes in to buy what he wants and leaves might be a breath of fresh air to her.

(Im not saying the dude who just treated her normal is interested but that could possibly make her interested. Its happened to me)

If you say so.

 

[Ohene]

Nah. Its human nature. Even women who are extremely shy will hold eye contact for longer than custom when she meets the gaze of a guy she finds sexually attractive. She'll likely look away eventually (and a man should ensure he doesn't look away first) but they will return the gaze. Usually, how long the eye contact is held -- and the frequency the eyes meet- dictates the level of interest.


A second longer than usual? She may be interested if you make eye contact again moments later or she could have just been absent mindedly surveying her surroundings. Three seconds or so? She's definitely into you and you should approach when possible. Eye contact that last 5 seconds or more? That's intimate. She's legitimately handing her panties over and the only thing stopping that from happening is the guy talking himself out of them.

Interesting you say this...i find that if a woman is staring at you FIRST, and then you turn around and catch her...she will look away immediately. And that that...in itself...is a signal that shes feeling you.

For her to look away theres something about you that makes her uneasy believe it or not. If she stares for too long shes prolly looking through you and not paying attention.

 

[Ohene]

Again, that only works if someone is checking for you in the first place. I have never in my life noticed a guy I never noticed before because he wasn't interested in me.

I recently had a guy try this "I'm not gonna do what other guys do" shyt on me and frankly it wasn't interesting to me. It felt like dealing with him would be a downgrade based on how I socialize. I have friends, hobbies, I go out, have fun etc. I set time aside for things I want to and having someone pretend to be nonchalant is silly to me because I have plenty of other things to do so if you're not showing interested I keep it pushing.

But whatever works for you breh. I personally have never gravitated towards disinterest but I guess some women go for it. But, I would think a better strategy would be to show interest but act like you have so much going on that fitting her in is a "big deal." That would be more interesting to me then someone acting like they aren't interested.

like @Ask a Serious Question said...it is HIGHLY HIGHLY dependent on whether or not you will see the person again i think.

@FLYINHAWAIIAN is with these girls daily at Walgreens so its different. They get to see him in a different light and compare him directly to other men in the vicinity. In such cases, if these other men are thirstbuckets then him not saying anythng can help him stand out a bit. But if he's ugly or a cornball then it isnt gonna help much. And joining a work environment youre almost forced to check for someone by virtue of doing work with them, being introduced to them on the first day, seeing them in confined spaces like the office/lunch room etc

But if it is a random spot with lots of people, like a party, a subway, or out on the street...ignoring a girl isnt going to get you shyt. Period. Even if the girl checkin for you, she will likely walk past you , think he was attractive and forget you exist by the top of the hour. A closed mouth dont get fed for men, its that simple. At parties, on public transit, on the street, the likelihood youll see someone again is very slim so you HAVE to chase to some degree

 

[ReadOneBookAWeek]

Being a man. Try that out one time.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Being a man. Try that out one time.

So a mam is spos to shoot his shot at every woman he comes across?

 

[Killer Instinct]

Interesting you say this...i find that if a woman is staring at you FIRST, and then you turn around and catch her...she will look away immediately. And that that...in itself...is a signal that shes feeling you.

Very true.

 

[Worthless Loser]

The whole ignoring thing only works if the dude is actually attractive. People in here are being set up to fail.