So many examples in here of why our community foundations are so broken.
Your wife should be the recipient of what you learned from your mom and the example for your daughter. Your wife is your help, amongst numerous other things. She is also everything that your mother and daughter could and should never be.
Want to make your mother happy? Raise a family with a good woman. Want to make your daughter happy? Treat her mother well and be an example of what she should expect from her husband.