Who do you call when your at the lowest? Men answer "No One" VIDEO

[basedlawd]

I'm tired of this woe is me shyt

Get some friends and a therapist. Fix your own problems.

 

[MaxPain]

Brothers of the coli, do y’all lend an ear to your bros who may be dealing with something?

Irl or on here?

 

[AllHolosEve]

-At my "lows" I generally just write a song, think about how many people have it worse than me & move on. I don't te
-When I need advice or to vent or something I talk to one of my sisters.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

Well some of y’all have my number so if y’all need to, hit me up.

 

[Be Strong Blackman]

I talk to my bros but the difference between men and women is that when a man wants to talk about what he's going through, he's not trying to download his negative feelings onto you, he's looking for advice, encouragement or an activity to distract him.

Women get mad at you if youre offering advice. They want to talk just to talk so I've gotten adept at asking early on "what is it that you think you need right now?" When they tell me about their problem.

First instinct is always to solve the problem but they want to talk until they feel like its no longer something on their mind or they want to get into an argument with you to distract them from their pain. I just ask them "what do you think you need right now?" And if they say "I don't know" then I just say "your answers will come in time" and stay silent. They usually change the topic afterwards. Thats just my experience.

I understand...Sometimes i think ppl need to just vent as well.

i feel you tho

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Sometimes I need to vent, but I also know, for myself, I need that tough love as well. During my lowest, I’d talk to my dad, and he’d listen, but then he’d always ask me why did I let it get to the point that it’s gotten to. He’d help, but he’d always tell me that if I’d had talked to him beforehand before it got to where it got, that he could’ve helped out before it blew up and don’t be afraid to talk to him.

That tough love sting, but it’s needed. I take it when it’s dished out, and learn from it. I think a lot of us, now a days, can’t handle criticism and want to lash out. Sometimes you gotta take the medicine

 

[VertigoKnight]

Even when you vent to someone what are they really going to do to fix your situation? 9/10 they are just going to run their mouth about it to a bunch of people that you didn't want in your business....who also can't/won't do a damn thing to help you

I’ll say, anything a friend has told me in the past in confidence. I’ve kept to myself but you right a ton of people have no discretion or honour at all.

If I can help, I’ll help but sometimes just having someone listen is helpful.

 

[Ziggiy]

Now that my father is deceased no one.

I’m the guy everyone reaches out and comes to FOR advice. I take a certain amount of pride in being able to figure my own shyt out, i feel like it makes me a better leader over all.


If i’m REALLY at a low point i’ll meditate and think about what advice my father would have given regarding the situation.


Also listening to music helps. Artists like Nas, Jay-Z, Little Brother, Common, and The Roots always have some little gems that help me rethink a situation or motivate me

 

[King]

I talk to my bros but the difference between men and women is that when a man wants to talk about what he's going through, he's not trying to download his negative feelings onto you, he's looking for advice, encouragement or an activity to distract him.

Women get mad at you if youre offering advice. They want to talk just to talk so I've gotten adept at asking early on "what is it that you think you need right now?" When they tell me about their problem.

First instinct is always to solve the problem but they want to talk until they feel like its no longer something on their mind or they want to get into an argument with you to distract them from their pain. I just ask them "what do you think you need right now?" And if they say "I don't know" then I just say "your answers will come in time" and stay silent. They usually change the topic afterwards. Thats just my experience.

Hmm…

I don’t think I would ever listen to women talk about their problems and shyt.

Just knowing I couldn’t do the same without them holding shyt over my head to use when we fall out is a serious double standard for me

 

[Nesto90sKid]

Stoicism & music helped a lot
Yes I have family & friends but I've always been strong & independent. So I have no choice...

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Hmm…

I don’t think I would ever listen to women talk about their problems and shyt.

Just knowing I couldn’t do the same without them holding shyt over my head to use when we fall out is a serious double standard for me

The only woman that will ever sincerely care about your feelings are your mother and grandmother, and most of the time they will be the ones to tell you to toughen up.

nikkas keep getting tripped up thinking they can come to their girl and reveal their insecurities. You can only talk to them about flaws that wouldn't bother you if they got out e.g. being worried that all women want you for is sex, thinking you work too hard, being worried that you'll never be able to own more than one house. E.g. 'problems' that make you look good.

Women like the idea of a vulnerable man more than the reality. In my experience I've seen it happen to me and other men where we open up and then women lose respect and the 'spark' is gone. Most women not prepared to actually deal with the problems men disclose to them.

 

[Robo Squirrel]

Nobody. You ride that bytch out.

*Especially not a female unless she is your wife because all they do is throw that shyt in your face WHEN NOT IF they get angry

 

[MikelArteta]

I got God

 

[MikelArteta]

The only woman that will ever sincerely care about your feelings are your mother and grandmother, and most of the time they will be the ones to tell you to toughen up.

nikkas keep getting tripped up thinking they can come to their girl and reveal their insecurities. You can only talk to them about flaws that wouldn't bother you if they got out e.g. being worried that all women want you for is sex, thinking you work too hard, being worried that you'll never be able to own more than one house. E.g. 'problems' that make you look good.

Women like the idea of a vulnerable man more than the reality. In my experience I've seen it happen to me and other men where we open up and then women lose respect and the 'spark' is gone. Most women not prepared to actually deal with the problems men disclose to them.

Look at Samson
You tell a woman what you struggle with she might form a weapon out of it

 

[King]

The only woman that will ever sincerely care about your feelings are your mother and grandmother, and most of the time they will be the ones to tell you to toughen up.

nikkas keep getting tripped up thinking they can come to their girl and reveal their insecurities. You can only talk to them about flaws that wouldn't bother you if they got out e.g. being worried that all women want you for is sex, thinking you work too hard, being worried that you'll never be able to own more than one house. E.g. 'problems' that make you look good.

Women like the idea of a vulnerable man more than the reality. In my experience I've seen it happen to me and other men where we open up and then women lose respect and the 'spark' is gone. Most women not prepared to actually deal with the problems men disclose to them.

Had that very thing happened to me in real time.

I was so shocked I was like damn this is how the game really works


These hoes ain’t shyt

Still tho it is a cheat code to immediately turn women off