This is true.
This is also true.. just gotta hope get more like minded people there. It's crazy how important your coworkers are to your work experience. More about that then the actual job alot of times
Who else has a hard time connecting in a white dominated career field?
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I’m not sure what type of connection you are trying to make. What are they talking about that you don’t relate to? At my place I rarely talk about outside stuff with my older coworkers. It’s a hi, bye, how is your day type stuff and we KIM.
I don't know maybe I'm jaded but I just don't trust them in general. Had too much underhanded shyt happen to me.
JamesJabdi
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its hell to only work with CACS.....the bullshyt they be talking about is so draining man. Everybody got the urge to not have that akward silence so they talk and talk....motherfukkers be talking about the weather for 8 hours...."Ohh its getting cloudy...it might rain"...."ohh its getting more cloudy....it might rain"......"ohh its getting more cloudy now....its definetly gonna rain".....fukk building relationship with these stale ass corndogs.....dry and boring.
Since I moved into IT, I don't worry about connecting anything but the check to my bank. I fake the funk with everyone and focus on my next come-up. Real friends: how many of us have them?
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I initially did. I'll circle back.
I initially did. I'll circle back.
Ah there's your problem. They're not just white. They're also older. How old are you OP?
If they were younger, I don't see why it would be difficult to hang with them
I've gone on brunches and ski trips with my white coworkers. But most are around my age so it's a lot easier.
Best bet is it to keep it generic and put out some feelers to see their interests.
Stay away from religion and politics.
Keep it simple "gas prices, taxes, mortgages, places to travel, places to get good food, things to do on a weekend, new technology, how much everything is going up, furniture, hitting the gym, diet" eventually u get a feel of what the person likes
Nah this is true thinking on it. I'm 33, alot of these dudes are in their mid 40's to 50's.
I've run out of small talk things, and I feel like I'm just a young black dude to these dudes.
Ah I see. Look at it from their angle. let's see, a 45-50 yr old talking to a 33 yr old is kinda like a 33 yr old talking to a 20 yr old
It's a big gap but not too crazy. If anything older people like young energy around them. You're 33 so you're not exactly showing them tik tok bs dances either.
If you've run out of small things to talk about and it's not connecting, then you can only keep it professional and do your best.
My last attempt (and this is if you feel like this person has been good to u career wise). On their b-day or holidays get a small gift like a nice pen or journal or something. Sometimes the reaction will surprise you.
Its really not that difficult. Read what they read and watch what they watch.
Its kinda like how everyone gotta watch the superbowl or march madness whether they do or do not give a damn about the teams playing, just so they can talk about it at work/school/social events later.
For your work environment, I highly suggest picking up a copy of the economist, watching white 90s sitcoms, and start going hiking(or pretending that you hike)
StretfordRed
Afro-European
Cyber security = white ex military.
It’s a pain.
It’s a pain.
This.... Heavy thisAviation community ain’t nothing but maga cacs
There was a couple of older black brahs that were super cool, took me under they wing but they're gone now
