Who Pays on a First Date?

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Who should pay? It depends on the specific people in question. But it's not only about gender.

I've said it before but dudes need to start dating girls that actually like them. Sounds simple enough but a lot of dudes dont even do that. If you do, you'll realize that it doesn't even matter who pays. She doesn't have to be in love with you but she should like you very much. That's why i used to say you should only take girls on dates when you already fukked. If you have strong sexual chemistry with her, either you will pay or she will pay, either way it really won't matter to her (or even to you). Then i learned you don't even have to fukk a girl to have sexual chemistry with her. You just have to establish a "me and you against the world" vibe with her but with sexual energy. But for that you have to kind of believe it too. Problem is dudes go in already thinking "how do i trick this bytch to pay" or thinking "man, why do i have to pay for this bytch :martin:". Their mindset is already "me against you" and the girl will just follow that lead. So now with the vibe you established yourself, you have a girl actively trying to give you the least while getting the most instead of a girl cooperating...

tl;dr fukk with girls that like you. Stop outsmarting yourself out of connecting with people/getting ass/etc.
 
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kuts said:
First off a date should be with a woman that you have a connection with and are looking to get to know them better in a scenario that is implicitly romantic. If you are taking chicks out on dates just to get laid then you're hustling backwards and might as well have used that money for a pro or something. On a real date you're allowed to want to pay for the woman as a sign of courtesy and means. It's not that you have to it's that you should want to as dates are a form of courtship where both parties must display their attractive qualities as a long term commitment. If you really like a woman and want to impress her then you would take control of the evening.
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:ehh: good post, agreed.
 
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#SOG_soldier said:
Dates :mjlol:




bytch can come over to my crib for some free weed and a 5.5 inch rod. :stopitslime:
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pump it up to 6 inches breh

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cocoabutter27 said:
I do not understand why guys are so reluctant to be men. It's like y'all think every woman is out to use you and cheat on you. You get what you give. Be a good person and 9/10 you will attract good. Start off playing games and being paranoid about your pockets and a woman will act accordingly.
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Well modern women don't want to be women. You want to keep it traditional take yo ass to the kitchen:stopitslime:
 
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cocoabutter27 said:
It's a date though. Not a wedding. If you were interested enough in the first place then why is she not worth $20 at Starbucks? Why would a woman invest in a man that hasn't proven that he can provide? Chicken/egg kinda thing. If everyone thinks like that then dating is complicated for no reason.
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What exactly do women typically invest? (And please dont say time because that still leaves men typically investing both time and money.)we are no longer in a hunter gatherer society so don't bring that up again because it no longer applies. The wage gap is getting closer to closed and black women surpass black men in education meaning the potential for better employment. You want it to be like the old ways then women need to get into the kitchen and out of the work place.
 
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Nelomaxwell said:
What exactly do women typically invest? (And please dont say time because that still leaves men typically investing both time and money.)we are no longer in a hunter gatherer society so don't bring that up again because it no longer applies. The wage gap is getting closer to closed and black women surpass black men in education meaning the potential for better employment. You want it to be like the old ways then women need to get into the kitchen and out of the work place.
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They invest the same thing you do: time and money, even if the guy pays for the date. We spend $$ getting ready for dates you know lol. Women don't need to get back in the kitchen for a man to still be a hunter and provider:stopitslime:. So a woman who is your equal doesn't deserve to be treated well and have a date paid for??
 
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