Who Pays on a First Date?

[SadimirPutin]

Absolutely.
I tell them not to lead anyone on, that they wouldn't like that shyt to be done to them, so don't do it to other people.

They shouldn't waste their own time nor the young man's time if they are not really interested.

I tell them to be honest and upfront, if someone asks or expresses interest.
Don't dangle that "friend" bullshyt.


I'm a firm believer in the idea that doing trife shyt to other people will guarantee you some trife shyt to come back to you in return.

I fukk with this response heavy

Respect

 

[SadimirPutin]

oh and one other semi-related thing

If a woman I take out is rude to the wait staff without reason there is never a second date

 

[Wargames]

I think I could honestly convince a group of women that water is dry as long as I didn't have no real competition.

Its almost like women want to agree with everything you say.


Pretty sure pimping and Christianity are built on that same principle

#facts

Unless they are on their period......

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

I by no means think I HAVE to pay, I think that's kind of ridiculous. Do I end up paying? Often enough I do and I don't mind at all. I do appreciate the gesture when women offer to split or something like that. I think that's the key take away from the video. Also, sometimes it's like I'll cover the food you can get the movies or the ice cream or a drink or two next time.

I usually don't mess with women who are averse to paying here and there. I don't go on too many traditional dates so this is kind of a non-issue, but I wouldn't mess with a woman where we didn't want to pay for each other when we go out and do things.

 

[Liquid]

Men should pay on the first date because regardless of what the media and some women themselves tell you, gender roles do still play a part in how we progress.

Men GENERALLY want to pick up the check to show the woman that they can provide. The entire "first date" is a period of feeling each other out. The man provides security that the woman feels safe, has a good time, gets taken care of financially (meal) and gets home safe. These are all signals that this can be a routine worth exploring. Leaving any doubt is bad news for the man.

WOMEN tend to respond positively to that because they are obviously out with you and there is a chance of reproduction down the line. Why is this important? Women are the ones who get pregnant, need time to recover and are the primary caregiver to the newborn baby. Men are in a much better position to return to work and keep the resources coming in.

NONE of this shyt is as complicated as people are trying to make it seem. There is nothing wrong with gender roles as long as there is respect and benefits being provided to each other.

Just STFU and pay the $60-$80 on the dinner and keep it moving. If you are broke work an extra shift, dumbass

 

[StickStickly]

id pay for my half so i can get what i want and drink what i want and not feel obligated to anyone after

 

[Jahmal]

Going out on a date and spending and never hearing back. Or one time I went out with this girl, I brought lunch, smoothies, water etc. Then she starts suggesting we go to dinner later that same day. When I lived in a southern country city the women weren't like that. Things were cheap so it wasn't a problem. If ended up with us hooking up fine, if not it's whatever. A lot of women in my current city ATL like to play that game. So I had to change my ways, it's now coffee or ice cream unless of course I know I'm getting a guarantee lol.

I live in ATL and I dont take any of these chicks out on dates. They are known to finesse nikkaz out of free meals and not smash. I just have chicks either meet me at the park or come straight to the crib. I dont spend a penny on these ATL chicks

 

[jwonder]

Cacs are the ones who started this man pay for everything bs. I guess these foreign cacs are fed up with it. ha ha.

Bottom line and I've said this plenty of times. If you are a guy and you pay ALL THE TIME and all you get is sex. You are paying for p*ssy. It might be indirectly and you are paying to fukk a broad. No man should want a woman that expects you to pay all the time. It screams entitlement and selfish behavior.

 

[jwonder]

If a woman paid It wouldn't make me feel like no less of a man.

If she ends up curving me later I may have wasted energy and time, but at least not my money

First date. We getting frozen yogurt. I don't do the dinner thing at first. I used to because people talked on the phone and I can tell the free meal getters out the gate. This texting shyt is crazy. So either we doing that or we not going out.

 

[Sunalmighty]

Buy her a cup of coffee, park somewhere where you can see the city skyline and build until the sun sets and rises.

 

[blackslash]

I mean I pay but it's also implies that my girl understands I lead and I wear the pants and that I'm daddy at the end of the day so ayye it is what it is

 

[Originalgangsta317]

Dude speaking truth,society and things that has been going on for hundreds of years makes it seem like what's been going on is right.

Men always pumping gas
Men always paying for dinner
Men work,women stay home.
Men do this that and the 3rd.

Naw man,but see society has made us believe its OK and if that's how as a man you want to treat your lady that's cool as well. But I believe everyone should take turns,move they own weight and contribute together, and when I have kids, son or daughter I'm going to teach both of them these things.

Some may not agree,but I'm pretty sure I don't agree with what you think as well.

 

[Neuromancer]

Close thread. On the real tho, my father told me that men should not invest copious amounts of money in a woman early on. That's prostitution. Which is exactly what u described.

LMAO! Instead he should go on little outings to get to know her. Then you can begin truly dating.

But see this goes back to what I was discussing with @Nelomaxwell in another thread. Courtship should work both ways. I've never had a guy even bring this up with me. So I feel sorry for any girl trying to date these internet dudes.

Men have always paid for me on dates. But I try to find ways to take care of them in return as well. I'm not the chick that will suck your dyck in exchange for a date because im not a prostitute. But any man that invests the time and effort in me will always receive the same time and effort in return.

I like doing little shyt and surprising people with stuff. The key is to date generous people.

The fact that you aren't married is a sin.

 

[Neuromancer]

Buy her a cup of coffee, park somewhere where you can see the city skyline and build until the sun sets and rises.

Not bad.

 

[Neuromancer]

How many people in this thread are actually in happy relationships?