Who struggles with getting women?

[DarkmanX]

Be patient brehs
Honestly in my twenties sometimes I'd struggle to even get a date. Now in my thirties I've had weeks where I went on 4-5 dates with different women. I think in 2019 pre covid I prob went on like 50 plus dates with different women and like 95% were drop dead attractive . I'm not saying this to brag or boast just that I've been there.

What did you feel changed about you or your approach that made your results go up? Not looking for advise (with all due respect) just curious.

 

[MikelArteta]

What did you feel changed about you or your approach that made your results go up? Not looking for advise (with all due respect) just curious.

Honestly just no longer caring. The nerves and all that I had before disappeared. As well just realizing I'm in a different zone. I'm in my mid to late thirties, no kids, no baby mama drama, still in shape and have a excellent job. I've been on date with women as young as 24 and as old as 38, from dates with doctors to dates with women working retail.

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

So this summer has been really interesting for me and if I could offer anything to this thread for those struggling, it would be to give yourself a chance.

In my case, this summer I have gone to a downtown block party and two music festivals. The thing for me was I wasn't going with the intent of hitting on women. I was hungry as hell and went to the block party with some people I'm cool with. Went solo to Summerfest to see 2Chainz and Lupe. Went to Lollapalooza solo to see Denzel Curry and J Cole. Had a fantastic time at all of them and met some nice, cordial, attractive ladies there as well as some cool people in general.

I mean at the festivals alone I had a handful of ladies coming up to dance right beside me, dance with me, or sit/stand beside me. One chick sat down so close to me while waiting for Lupe's set, I thought she was trying to sit on my lap. And it was plenty of space to sit elsewhere. She and her friend looked extra extra young so I just kept to myself, though. And I'm not anything extraordinary aesthetically or fashion-wise. But just being in the space and setting and being somewhat sociable was the important part for me.

So maybe hit up an event or music festival and be open to chatting up and meeting someone. Put yourself in a setting where you give yourself a chance.

 

[Big Mountain Hélà]

 

[Rick Fox at UNC]

I would like for someone to answer these questions...

If a man is struggling getting women, then is it his fault? If it is, then why is it a fault or deficiency on his part? How come it is all on the man and not the woman choosing poorly?

Yes. All the women out here and none of 'em like you?

Probably your fault.

 

[Commish]

Yes. All the women out here and none of 'em like you?

Probably your fault.

How so? It would be impossible for all women to not like a man unless he was some sort of serial killer.

Also, how can anyone make anyone like them? We are talking about the initial attraction.

No man can control which women find him attractive or not?

More than likely, a man may be trying to talk to the wrong type of women. He may need to move or go to social spaces where there is a bunch of women.

I have been rejected by a bunch of women in my life, but I certainly wouldn't say that it was my fault. Women have a right to not like someone. That isn't their fault, so why should I take fault in not being liked by them?

In my case, I had women like me and I didn't like them for whatever reason. Wasn't my fault nor theirs.

I don't believe in a man being at fault for not being attractive to someone. I would only place fault if a man's demeanor/disposition was unpleasant or if he was exhibiting creepy behavior or his hygiene wasn't up to par.

Other than that, it could be happenstance that a man is in a drought.