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Why are cousins treated like distant relatives in white families?
- Thread starter FeverPitch2
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"I don't know why we are so involved with extended family to be honest.", "Cousins come after that" - You probably didn't get to the opportunity to even be around your cousins growing up to develop a bond.
This is likely because your uncles and aunties became distant and it filtered down to their children
I was around some of my cousins but never really grew that close with them except for 2..and honestly thinking about it they don’t mess with many of them neither. We have a lot of cousins and mixed families (I have one uncle with 18 kids in Cincinnati alone and another with 9) that’s what made me get clipped after my 4th
…I think it’s those of us who escaped the city moreso who don’t mess with the rest of the cousins.
I notice that cacs really don't fukk with their cousins.
You'll meet their in-laws before you meet their cousins.
I do know that cacs like to disown each other at the drop of a hat.
As compared to Black folks where our cousins are damn near our siblings, because they actually are.
I don't know where you are from but most cacs I know are tight with their cousins, especially if they are close to the same age. In a lot of the cases if we have to be brutally honest, cousins are obligated to be friends. I can't tell you how many times I've kicked it with cats who if they aren't super tight with their cousin like for real best friends still have them go to club, bar, party, kickback or be a part in the wedding on some "He's my cousin....he doesn't really get out much, but he's cool......"
I was going to say this. There's a whole group of cousins from my mom's side of the family that I don't even speak to. They were close when they were kids, but things broke down in adulthood. Now with my dad's side of the family, there's a family reunion every year. We see each other on a regular basis.
FeverPitch2
Superstar
EXACTLY what I'm talkin aboutBeen working out of state up North and told the company we are helping that I was taking time off to go home and see my cousin's first child and all them white folks was like...
taking off... for...a...cousin?
TaxCollector13459
2018 Coli Rookie of the Year
I notice that cacs really don't fukk with their cousins.
You'll meet their in-laws before you meet their cousins.
I do know that cacs like to disown each other at the drop of a hat.
As compared to Black folks where our cousins are damn near our siblings, because they actually are.
I think it has alot to do with making secondary familial bonds during the slavery days. that cousin become a brother because your real one got sold
FeverPitch2
Superstar
I'm gonna say whatever the fukk I feel like saying and you'll read every letter of it.
You aint gonna do shyt about it either.
Are you? Hell naw.
Yeah..
I believe that your story is quite common in the Black community. I also believe that the Black family structure is too fragmented to be pointing fingers at other communities talking about what they are "perceived" to be or not be doing....
Of course we have families who are tight & have strong family bonds. But, we also have families who are not.
I got cousins that simply don't fukk with me. I didn't do shyt to them, but as they got older, they decided to focus on their nuclear family & fukk everyone else. I got closer relationships with coworkers than some to many of my family members. Lol Smh.
But, let any of us hit the lottery and see how many of our relatives blow our phone up trying to hold something. Lol
I just think that American families, regardless of ethnic & cultural backgrounds, deal with dysfunctional family dynamics.
*shrugs*
Yeah white people hate their families for the most part
Fillerguy
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Yooo this a great question. They always talk about theor buddies or step family.....never cousins. I never thought to ask growing up. That explains why my coworkers make these dumbass comments like, " oh thats your cousin too?" whenever I mention going out