Why are men expected to provide and protect?

Paradise

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Just wow... But I'm not mad at you for thinking the way you think.

Society is making young men and women more independent... Thus the why should I be the sole provider attitude. Since the beginning of time men were to expected to provide and protect. If I had a husband that wanted to be the bread winner I would let him do so if we could afford it financially. I know that this doesn't happen most of the time because in most households it takes two incomes to live.


Even though it makes sense... It kinda sounds like you guys are trying to get out of doing things that most men do by default.

Sounds almost like a message sponsored by MGTOW.
 

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What the hell you talking about? :dahell:

And Why can't I have a relationship without giving up my independence and personal goals?
What I said is clear enough bro.:comeon:

First off, u starting the race backwards.
If you have to ask somebody else to find value in something FOR U, it's already a lost cause.

It's like applying to a job that you don't really want. You can't make life decisions based on why others value it. You need to understand what YOU value.

If u value independence, why are u even talking about a relationship? If I'm fire oriented, why the hell am I gon try to understand the value of water?:dahell:

Secondly, if all of what u have said is true, there is nothing wrong with that but relationships may not be for you. Relationships are a union and mutual sacrifice and compromise.

Thirdly, you are basing all relationships on the dysfunctionality. You have the right to make a relationship on your own terms.

I can't tell you why relationships are valuable b/c what I value and what u value are two different things. I grew up surrounded by a loving family in a multigenerational household. My parents have been married for 49 years. I'm close to my mother and my father and if I have children I want to give them the love, stability, fun, positivity, support, laughter and joy I received in my childhood. I also saw my parents treat each other as equals, looked out for one another, were pragmatic about gender roles and just got shyt done. I grew up safe, protected, supported and nurtured so I value that in a partner and in a relationship.
My mother was a stay at home mom and my dad provided for my family. But when he lost his job, HE was a stay at home dad and my mom went to work. When we got to high school, EVERYBODY was working and contributed. My mom handles all the money and my dad gives it to her no questions asked.

But it's more responsibility b/c he doesn't have to worry about bills or credit or anything. We make decisions together and ego doesn't get in the way and it just works. In my family people lead at what they are good at. My dad has good ideas, my mom is practical. I'm the positivity person and my sister is the realist. My dad never has to go rah rah about submission and shyt b/c he's naturally a reasonable person and listens to people so they respect him.

So I value family b/c of how it's benefited me and how strong we are together. If u feel like u would be better off in a different set up then do u.:manny:
 

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@ItsMeButters fukk you for disrespecting the goat
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nah..... I dont believe you :manny:

If I beat the dogshyt outta your wife in front you, you are gonna to kill me, or at the very least desire to kill me :manny:


Whole thread premise based on a lie :manny:
Lol that's an outlandish scenario that I don't see coming to fruition.

I wouldn't even allowed it to get that far
 
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