Why are men expected to provide and protect?

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

I've seen bums with bad women taking care of them lmao

And I'm not a man cause I expect her to pay a few bills lmao

Men AND women need to stop.

shyt like this tells me some have either never been in a real relationship or seen a real relationship.
Because real people in relationships who aren't concerned with power struggles and psychological warfare POOL resources to get shyt done.

It's not my money or your money it's OUR money. If u aren't building with somebody with that mentality or if that isn't your mentality then stay out of relationships. People trying to fit square perspectives into circle realities.

 

[Knowledge]

OP should’ve left protector out of the title, it would’ve made for better convo. I’ve witnessed many homeboys play that take care of my woman role (financially) only to get nothing out of it. So much money lost over the years. Not to mention the #1 thing black females brag about these days is being educated, well if you’re that educated why do you need a man to provide for you? Shouldn’t it be an equal partnership?

This right here

 

[Prynce]

Because I'm a man and I have pride and balls.

The strong either protect and take care of the weaker of they group or they take advantage/abandon them. It's nature.

Lmao

Animals kill their babies

So if humans do the same is it nature?

 

[Prynce]

Men AND women need to stop.

shyt like this tells me some have either never been in a real relationship or seen a real relationship.
Because real people in relationships who aren't concerned with power struggles and psychological warfare POOL resources to get shyt done.

It's not my money or your money it's OUR money. If u aren't building with somebody with that mentality or if that isn't your mentality then stay out of relationships. People trying to fit square perspectives into circle realities.

Lmao

 

[MaxPain]

you're suppose to provide and protect in regards to your family, significant other or if you're considered a head of influence in your community

that's the context of that line of thinking

So how come u don’t do it

Ur unemployed and u let u other men borrow ur baby mother for 20 minutes at a time

 

[Prynce]

Just wow... But I'm not mad at you for thinking the way you think.

Society is making young men and women more independent... Thus the why should I be the sole provider attitude. Since the beginning of time men were to expected to provide and protect. If I had a husband that wanted to be the bread winner I would let him do so if we could afford it financially. I know that this doesn't happen most of the time because in most households it takes two incomes to live.


Even though it makes sense... It kinda sounds like you guys are trying to get out of doing things that most men do by default.

Sounds almost like a message sponsored by MGTOW.

Women get out of gender roles all the time lmao

If I made my wife a stay at home mom, who only cooked and cleaned with no say in the household, people would rightfully call me a monster.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Who ever makes her happy

that response isn't exactly in line with some of your past debates on here but i guess you have a different point to prove today lol. carry on bro

 

[MaxPain]

OP that’s literally what men are supposed to do. Its in our nature.

We are problem solvers.

Unfortunately, these days a lot of men can’t do both or either, willingly or unwillingly.

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

Lmao

Animals kill their babies

So if humans do the same is it nature?

It's funny how humans pick and choose what to take from nature and what's outdated.

Y'all funny

 

[MischievousMonkey]

@Prynce
@Daredevil

yall said it all in this thread.

But watch how just mentioning the idea of a partnership instead of having a pet infuriate some people backwards and sexist as hell

 

[13473]

Women get out of gender roles all the time lmao

If I made my wife a stay at home mom, who only cooked and cleaned with no say in the household, people would rightfully call me a monster.

the only part i can see a significant amount of people having issue with is giving her no say in the household. even if u guys have a setup where u both are fine with u being the leader who makes the decisions it'd help to listen to her opinion since she is the one actually in the household all day taking care of the kids & enforcing household rules.

 

[invalid]

Lol cause somebody told you it was the right way to be a man?

Society typically dictates things like that. Chivalry, all that shyt, was dictated by society.

Anyway, I’m pretty sure westernized perspectives on gender roles are dictated by religion. Specifically, Christianity.

When you step out of that westernized paradigm, and look at, for instance pre-colonial Dahomey, women made up the warrior class and protected the king. And apparently some took each other as lovers.

Dahomey’s Women Warriors | History | Smithsonian

 

[Prynce]

Society typically dictates things like that. Chivalry, all that shyt, was dictated by society.

Anyway, I’m pretty sure westernized perspectives on gender roles are dictated by religion. Specifically, Christianity.

When you step out of that westernized paradigm, and look at, for instance pre-colonial Dahomey, women made up the warrior class and protected the king. And apparently some took each other as lovers.

Dahomey’s Women Warriors | History | Smithsonian

This also gives me a concept for a thread.

Why do black people try to mimic European morality, standards and ethics?

Especially when western style of thought is inherently racist towards and makes it impossible to live up to it.

I mean in africa our concepts of family and love were so different than what we do now. Maybe its why we maybe fail at it so much

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

reminder that there is no one "African" concept..... there are many different cultures there lol

 

[southern.girl]

Then don’t expect to lead your household either.

Y’all dudes love to talk about the emasculation of black men, but y’all seem to have no issue with feminizing yourselves.