Why are so many men and women so bitter?

[King Poetic]

From my view and in my community

1. Fantasy hasn’t come to Reality

2. A lot of black men thought they would have that beautiful feminine woman that would be submissive and cooperative and that career that would have set them up for life… then reality hit and financially it’s been hard to get the career u wanted and u have a job u really don’t want to work but u have bills to pay… the women u run into are masculine, not submissive or cooperative and a boatload of kids , so love life isn’t there and nikkas become so bitter

3. A lot of black women thought they would have that white woman tv/movie lifestyle of having a husband and kids and doing family shyt and they can sit home while their husband work.. then reality struck about 80% of them when they ended up getting knocked up by pretty Ricky and smooth talking Eddie and them nikkas broke camp and left them with kids and now u have 30,35,40 year old bitter women who made bad choices in men more so than their career they chose and now almost every black man they come in contact with is a cheater or creep based off of her past relationships and choices in men

Look at our numbers in terms of not being married and look at the high rate of mental illness in our community and you’ll be like damn.. we fukked up out here

 

[Shadow King]

Of course!

But the same way dudes complain about women wasting time with trash ass dudes is the same way women watch men “have fun with” or “run through” certain women and then come around when it’s time to toss those women to the side. Both sexes do the same thing. Women get caught up when they play the game too long or try to play it like men.

There's not that many men doing that. Nor that many "good girls" truly sidelined.

 

[Astroslik]

This is very real and very accurate.

I moved to a suburb about 2hrs outside the city I grew up in 4ish years ago and the lack of a third place was one of the first things I noticed although I didn't have the language at the time.

I had family that lived here up until I was about 23 so I visited once or twice a year. When I was younger the hangout spot was the bowling alley and then after I turned 18 there was a banquet hall that was booked nearly every night because someone was throwing a rent party or NYE event, birthday etc. There was even a restaurant that turned into a lounge/after hours spot past 11PM

Fast forward a few years to when I bought a home in the area and all that stuff was gone or turned to shyt. The bowling alley was rundown and hardly ever open, the banquet hall changed owners and had essentially become a "no nikkas allowed" Quinceanera hotspot for Mexican families and that restaurant stopped being a lounge allegedly due to "on-site criminal activity".

Covid was the final nail in the coffin. That banquet hall doesn't even exist anymore in any form. It's a law office now.

The only "third places" we have now are shytty chain restaurants, a handful of small breweries that are white supremacist strongholds and a few semi-casual spots that close at 10 faithfully. The rest are hick bars that - like dude said in the video - only serve the same few dozen drunk patrons each and every night. And those are definitely not places non-regulars would go to congregate and socialize with new people.

You must live in palmdale/lancaster or some shyt

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Nobody escapes this life without a little cynicism/feelings of jaded
People who are labeled “bitter” are just people that haven’t done the work to heal/checked the aforementioned sentence above
Being hurt multiple times will do that to a human being
Whether platonic or romantic
Each relationship you have through out this long life
Leaves scares that aren’t visible
Plus not dealing with the accumulation of childhood shyt
Makes everyone fearful
Which “bitter” = fear
As much as people are starting to talk this healing journey ish
I find many people(especially on this forum)
Love to languish in the cloak of darkness/nihilism
shyt is down right an echo chamber for hurt people at this point
Like the old saying goes
Either shyt or get off the pot
Ain’t no extra men in this bytch
Either do the work or get gone

 

[Roger king]

The internet by its very nature breeds and fosters resentment and hate, it creates a false sense of reality through social media, adverts etc

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

it's a hard life and relationships are hard too
but most people don't know how to DEAL with emotions, so they end up harboring shyt and carrying baggage
you have to be strong, secure, and have ability to processes feelings to withstand the everyday bullshyt life comes with. some people never learn those skills!

 

[010101]

all your success & failure starts with the family you come from

so many women & men are bitter because so many women & men are emerging from shyte family pedigrees

you are your mother.father you are your family

*

 

[MrBillCollecta]

Come on now lol

It's like a badge of honor to be that way. It's weird and definitely a trend.

 

[Goat poster]

Life getting harder in the world.....rent rising, salaries falling, inflation rising, home ownership being out of reach for most people under 40, social media showing people your age doing it big while sitting in the car mentally preparing yourself for the bullshyt at work....debt, inequality getting worse and loneliness......its real out here.

Not to mention the damage that an unprecedented global pandemic has done to people’s mental health.

 

[Shadow King]

It's like a badge of honor to be that way. It's weird and definitely a trend.

No, it is not.

 

[Swahili P'Bitek]

They need to learn to talk to each other as humans rather than targets or means to an end.

 

[Astroslik]

It's like a badge of honor to be that way. It's weird and definitely a trend.

Wtf are you talking about?

 

[AMcV'88]

doesn't even need to be about sex or men vs women shyt.. its just in general that people are being miserable.

that tweet that went viral from the woman who says she loves starting her day off just talking with her husband in their garden with some coffee proved it. the reaction from every race and gender was wild.. just miserable people projecting.

 

[Loken]

I think its just life man..like when you grow up you have all the innocence in the world as a child but the world shatters your illusions hard... and it just weighs on you...and the older you get the less optimistic you become because you see the dark side of things...the truth of the world...

this lost my mom and a brother same year when i was young sister to cancer (took care of her for the year she lived PTSD and all)

dad had stroke not to long after was hit by a car walking home from the store about a year later he lived but broke an arm an dislocated a shoulder

and through all of that shyt women i thought had my back at the points in time those things happened couldn't be bothered i'm not bitter i just know better then to fully trust anyone now

and to be honest only reason i'm still here is my dad needs someone to look after him some days it really feels like ive done everything but die

 

[Taco]

Misery loves company. Just a bunch of people not living the life they wanted and are projecting it to everyone else.