Why are these young girls so clingy nowadays?

[Cowboyz89]

I have a very similar situation. Im 26. Have a 23 year old that gets mad if I dont talk to her in some way every day. There was 1 day last week where I didnt talk to her cuz I was legit busy as fukk from sunup to sundown, and last night she was complaining about it.


Luckily, texting satisfies this attention craving and thats easy so it is what it is I guess.

 

[StickStickly]

Today's social climate is one of instant gratification. Chicks want attention, when they want it and now. That's why the makers of social media devices, applications and platforms dropped the 'read receipt' and people make a killing finding ways to disable it. Ain't nobody want to be ignored, but in this day and age alot of people equate not responding right away to being ignored and being ignored is often seen as being cheated on. So she 'blessing' you with her attention and you ain't reciprocating? She's gonna throw a fit and level you with accusations.

I feel you on the calls and facetimes breh, but if she sending a text, just zip her one back, ain't too hard but you got to let chicks know that you ain't the lovey dovey, attention all the time types before you even begin to break ground on a serious relationship. I read chicks the riot act on the weird shyt I'm into, the odd tendencies I have and shyt I'm prone to doing before she even THINKS on lacing her arm through mines in public.

But then again I'm a firm believe of "Do on to others" so, I text back and I go to sleep at like midnight the earliest so..stuff of this nature ain't a bane to me as it is to others. Unless she talking about nothing or calling to bytch and moan about her day that was the just as horrid and catty as the last one.

no it's always been like this. young people are needy. 10 years ago, if someone wasn't hitting up your myspace page after you posted on theirs, you were wondering what went wrong. 2 years before that if you struck up a private message on aol and the other guy didn't respond in a minute, you closed the window. 15 years before that people were waiting by their phone at home for days wondering if the girl they met at taco bell was ever going to call , legit afraid to leave the living room in case they missed the call . " you if maxine hasn't called me in one week does that mean it's over? ". they were on the phone for 4 hours a day, tying up the lines, pissing mom off, because if they were on it a minute less their girl would think they were talking to someone else. they passed hand written notes in class and if you didn't get one back by the end of last period you were going home on the bus like . current social media just exacerbates the tumultuous emotions of unrequited love.

 

[TEH]

take it from an OG girls were always clingy ... grown ass women aren't though

 

[Address_Unknown]

truth, the scary part too is it's just gonna get worse

I can see alot of arguments stemming from this one problem, breh. I ain't going to tell you what to do with your relationship, but seeing as to how you already said you thinking twice about cuffing, you prolly already done made a decision on your own. Y'all gotta talk that shyt out 'cause if you leave it alone, it's gonna manifest into problems, like her creeping or blowing up at you at the wrong time and all sorts of other counter productive shyt. Best of luck to you, man.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

the main girl i'm talking to right now is 22, she will get legit heated if i don't talk to her but she sees me active on social media

she will get pissed if i don't facetime or call her in a day

i'm a lowkey dude so i barely be out there like that and like to stay elusive to an extent, but these chicks age 19-23 need CONSTANT contact or they start feeling some type of way

i'm 26 and hella introverted so i don't even know, i was bout to cuff her up too but this has me reconsidering

coli females get in here and shed some light

IDK probably insecurity and the fear of being alone/loneliness. Many people cannot be alone. That's why a lot of people deal with BS in relationships.

 

[Address_Unknown]

no it's always been like this. young people are needy. 10 years ago, if someone wasn't hitting up your myspace page after you posted on theirs, you were wondering what went wrong. 2 years before that if you struck up a private message on aol and the other guy didn't respond in a minute, you closed the window. 15 years before that people were waiting by their phone at home for days wondering if the girl they met at taco bell was ever going to call , legit afraid to leave the living room in case they missed the call . " you if maxine hasn't called me in one week does that mean it's over? ". they passed hand written notes in class and if you didn't get one back by the end of last period you were going home on the bus like . current social media just exacerbates the tumultuous emotions of unrequited love.

It has, and you nailed it, the shyt got exacerbated with the read receipt 'cause now people know the exact time the other party read the message and didn't respond as opposed to just having a time stamp as to when the sender sent the message, giving the receiver all sorts of leeway to make up excuses that could potentially calm the situation.

I hate being ignored to all hell, so I try my best to answer the minute I get it if I can, but I hate the type of chicks that feel as if you apart and you miss a call at ANY time you off running around behind her back or ignoring her. I mean distressed people been irrational, but that shyt's at a whole 'nother level now with some of these chicks, especially if you ain't the type to keep accounts on social media 'cause that wee bit of mystery has 'em thinking you hiding something as opposed to just not having a need to be located on the shyts all the time.

Like I tell chicks, you can call me anytime no matter where I'm at and I'll pick up. If I don't, I'm away from my phone/computer but I'll hit you back the minute I get back to it. If that happens and you got a problem with it, lose my number, 'cause I will never sweat you like that shyt unless I feel it's deliberate and at that point, we should be talking about what the fukk we have ourselves in and not just missed communication.

 

[cocoabutter27]

What is needy and clingy though? Hitting someone up 20 times a day by text or phone seems clingy to me. Texting someone wyd? in the middle of the day when I get a break is not. But some guys act like when a woman wants to talk to them more than once a day that she's insecure, needy, or clingy. Or worse they assume because the woman wants some attention from someone who claims to like them, that the woman is now sweating them and wants to marry them or something. Yet, we have these threads wondering why women don't call or text back. If someone gets the feeling that they are just your ego boost why should they keep feeding into it?

 

[Bless't]

i'll be the weirdo boring single nikka with money then

 

[Suleiman Bey]

Where? You don't want her pass her over here. All these bytches I run into is out there.

 

[Gold]

What is needy and clingy though? Hitting someone up 20 times a day by text or phone seems clingy to me. Texting someone wyd? in the middle of the day when I get a break is not. But some guys act like when a woman wants to talk to them more than once a day that she's insecure, needy, or clingy. Or worse they assume because the woman wants some attention from someone who claims to like them, that the woman is now sweating them and wants to marry them or something. Yet, we have these threads wondering why women don't call or text back. If someone gets the feeling that they are just your ego boost why should they keep feeding into it?

I think it has more to with the reactions.
Wanting to txt someone you're with all the time isn't a problem. If he has time he'll txt you back, if not, chalk it up to being busy.

But creating crazy drama over it is a huge problem.

 

[AB Ziggy]

LOL... where do you coli dudes pickup these women at?

But anyway most young women are clingy and needy. I once too was needy.

If I texted you I needed you to text me right back. The late night phone calls. The come see me I'm bored.... yep done it all.

Now if you text me you "might" get texted right back... and if you call me after 11:30 p.m. it's going straight to voicemail.

You wanna see me I have to check my schedule because most of the time I'm only free after 8 pm.

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