Why aren't good looks correlated with self-esteem?

[Music Fiend]

I've been asking myself lately, in the world we live in today, if you were a below average woman in the looks department. would you expect to have any self esteem?


We're so superficial these days, If I was a woman without good looks, I would probably feel worthless (no offense, just saying feel). Obviously not true.

But the baddest chicks I've pulled had the lowest self esteem. The women who were average tended to be more happy with themselves, their lives & circle.

Why?

 

[Throwbacksample]

For me, most average or below average women know they have to bring more to the table so they are usually happy. They know a good personality-mindset will have to reel in and keep a guy since mostly their looks wont.

 

[JahBuhLun]

Attraction is subjective.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

I've met some very, very handsome men who were insecure as fukk. Looks don't have as much influence on self-esteem as people think.

 

[Blackout]

Personality > Looks

 

[Ashley Banks]

We're so superficial these days, If I was a woman without good looks, I would probably feel worthless (no offense, just saying feel). Obviously not true

wtf

 

[FeloniousMonk]

Self esteem isnt tied to vanity.

 

[VFib]

Maybe these women had experiences that caused them to have lower self esteem? Trauma, rape, molestation from family members who found them "so pretty"?

Also upbringing. There are parents who say the cruelest things to their children and others who lift them up. Then you have members of the opposite sex who feel the need to 'drop them down a notch' as a way to control them.

They are many reasons and experiences that can contribute to a person'a level of self esteem. Many of these start in childhood and carry over into adulthood.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Much like money, if you look good and that's all you have going for yourself or something you value highly, more than likely your worried about losing it at some point. You tend to focus on looks and less on other important things in your life. Looks are one of the most temporary things we put a high emphasis on.

Alot of really attractive people become jaded too, when you know women or men will tell and do anything to get with you it makes you keep people at a distance.... Well or so I've heard lol.

 

[MikeyC]

 

[O.iatlhawksfan]

I've been asking myself lately, in the world we live in today, if you were a below average woman in the looks department. would you expect to have any self esteem?


We're so superficial these days, If I was a woman without good looks, I would probably feel worthless (no offense, just saying feel). Obviously not true.

But the baddest chicks I've pulled had the lowest self esteem. The women who were average tended to be more happy with themselves, their lives & circle.

Why?

Maybe these good looking chicks have put their looks to the test and have gotten humbled. I kno chicks who were good looking and felt they deserve a baller or a entertainer and had to find out the hard way that wasn't the case.

 

[JudgeJoeForilla]

I used to think the same thing until high school when I discovered that both me and my girlfriend from high school were cheating on each other with ugly people.