Why Asian American kids excel. It’s not ‘Tiger Moms.’
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Camile.Bidan
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The tiger mom strategy builds character. I don't want weak minded kids who are always "winners". Althrough I have routinely critized Amy Chua and Thomas Sowell on their regular talking point (culture!)
There is more to life academic performance. I want my sons to know how to bag chicks and want my daughters to know the importance of being selective and keeping their legs closed. I had all kinds of chicks in high school, and juggled multiple girlfriends at once. If my sons don't do the same, I would consider them to be failures.
Honestly, i dont think that parents have much control over how their kids turn out. it's a crap shoot. Its all probability. that is why it is best to have a lot of kids with a quality mate an just pray for the best. I mean, twins-reared-apart studies seem to show that parents have about 30% .control over their child's outcome through environment. It seems better to me to invest the time in the 70% with selective dating based on personality traits, and diversifying with multiple children. Polygamy would be the ideal i guess.
There is more to life academic performance. I want my sons to know how to bag chicks and want my daughters to know the importance of being selective and keeping their legs closed. I had all kinds of chicks in high school, and juggled multiple girlfriends at once. If my sons don't do the same, I would consider them to be failures.
Honestly, i dont think that parents have much control over how their kids turn out. it's a crap shoot. Its all probability. that is why it is best to have a lot of kids with a quality mate an just pray for the best. I mean, twins-reared-apart studies seem to show that parents have about 30% .control over their child's outcome through environment. It seems better to me to invest the time in the 70% with selective dating based on personality traits, and diversifying with multiple children. Polygamy would be the ideal i guess.
Insensitive
Superstar
1. Asian Students "sticking together" is no anomaly, a lot of people after a certain ageI noticed this too with my Asian friends. Getting low scores were simply unacceptable and it was required that they earn high marks. Quite a few of them didn't even have wealthy parents or come from top tier schools, they just busted their ass and their parents pushed them to excel. Not every single one of them was some math whiz but they worked crazy hard to do well. One thing I noticed besides crazy high expectations were really well grounded support groups and connections. This probably had the greatest impact.
The asian students stuck together, studied together, partied together, and the asian family unit was VERY supportive of their child. I see this form of bonding with a lot of Indian and Muslim students at my school as well. I see A TON of extremely bright black kids that fall through the cracks and into trouble because we don't have the sense of community, expectations or connects that other minorities display. Even the Africans over here are smart enough to have these bonds/connects which is how a lot of them are much more successful than us African Americans. My jewish friends have the hold community aspect ON LOCK. When a african american gets an education, he gets ridiculed, ostracized and ignored. There are often times where college educated black women are referred to as "that college bytch" in an envious tone of inflection. We can't build strong communities off of that nonsense.
We need very strong communal support, high expectations and standards for excellence if we ever want to succeed.As African Americans, we have a very unique story to tell and its a shame that we won't get to share it due to low expectations in life.
segregate themselves based on "Race". You see this with Black kids, White Kids, Hispanics kids etc.
2. African Americans getting an education don't get ridiculed, ostracized and ignored.
There's too many African Americans going to college for that to be even remotely close to the norm.
3 And your third point about "College bytch's" doesn't reflect reality whatsoever
Black Women outpace just about everyone including white women and asian men as far as college
enrollment goes. Based off of what you state
There are a whole host of Black women who should beOstracized, ridiculed and ignored "College bytches"
http://www.blackyouthproject.com/2014/02/black-women-lead-all-groups-in-college-enrollment/
http://bossip.com/922203/a-lil-posi...ntly-ranked-1-in-us-college-enrollment-video/
http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2014/02/know-black-women-lead-groups-college-enrollment-watch/
ltheghost
Payin Debts.... N40
Let's just call it what it really is...The kids are afraid to disappoint their parents. They see how much the parents strive to make sure the kids succeed and if they fail they feel double the shame. Shame in themselves and shame in shaming their parents. I know of plenty black families that do a form of this but it's not geared to academics, it's towards athletics. The problem with what the Asian kids are doing now is that they are achieving too much success. Watch what is going to happen over the next couple of years. The Latinos and Whites are going to have a problem with this. Rules are going to be changed. Like the verbal part of the SAT or Affirmative Action.
I have asian cousins (asian father, cac mother) and he just holds them to an incredibly high standard so that's what they aim for. its all about the parents, asians have a culture where academics are extremely important and failure is shameful/unacceptable. My american cac parents were like "well if you tried your best then thats all we can ask for!" if i got a bad grade on something
No direct barriers help. Learning different learning styles help.
lol, you want your son to bag chicks??? Kinda hoeish expectations and then your daughters to keep their legs closed and be selective on top of that. I would prefer both to be highly selective.
