Why couples are taking out loans to pay for their weddings

[Heafcliffe]

This is a HUGE growing trend in the Naija community and it's sad

My people love to stunt so much.

I went to a Naija wedding reception at the W where the bride and groom arrived in a Maybach that they drove into hotel.
They had 7 outfit changes during the receptoin (each outfit probably 4k).

The guy works at his parents home health, and the girl is a CNA.
Their friends are doctors and lawyers so i guess they wanted to outdo them.


Btw they got divorced earlier this year and even had a gofundme to help pay for wedding debts.




My American wedding is not going to have any extra shyt I don't want, my traditional wedding gonna be rough tho

All kinds of fukkery above.

I'll tell anybody to please work your network to get them expenditures down.

We married one day and was "wedding debt"-free the next.

 

[Gold]

Tell me about it. Planning my wedding now and my fiance and I are paying for it outright and my mom has been a pain. Suggesting and demanding and trying to invite the whole community to the wedding when tables, chairs, meals are priced per person. Plus I'm doing both traditional and Christian wedding.

Can't wait till this is over.

Are you the first in your family to get married? If so I don't envy you.

My brother didn't even go to his traditional wedding he was so mad, he got my cousin to stand-in for him


Traditional wedding is usually more expensive for the bride if you do it in Nigeria due to your family having to host. You better ask for a bride price

 

[Gold]

Chai! dey have killed me ohh

 

[Ezigbo Nwanyi]

Are you the first in your family to get married? If so I don't envy you.

My brother didn't even go to his traditional wedding he was so mad, he got my cousin to stand-in for him


Traditional wedding is usually more expensive for the bride if you do it in Nigeria due to your family having to host. You better ask for a bride price

Yes I am, my sister already said based on what she seeing with my wedding that she is just going to Nigeria do the traditional stuff and coming back and go to the court and do the paperwork and call it day. Kinda upset that I felt pushed into this position to have this wedding go the way my mom wants instead of speaking up early. Now my sister will go off scott free with all these expenses we could of put into a house.

 

[Gold]

Yes I am, my sister already said based on what she seeing with my wedding that she is just going to Nigeria do the traditional stuff and coming back and go to the court and do the paperwork and call it day. Kinda upset that I felt pushed into this position to have this wedding go the way my mom wants instead of speaking up early. Now my sister will go off scott free with all these expenses we could of put into a house.

It pays to not be first

Nigerian weddings aren't about you... or me... they are about our parents lets be real.

If you dont let them have their way, they'll never forgive you

 

[beenz]

is it mostly the women that want these big weddings, or are the men totally in to it as well? I mean it seems kinda if ur a dude and want a big fancy wedding.

 

[Rekkapryde]

Taking it a loan to throw yourself a party is beyond fiscally irresponsible.

We all know this is cacs for the most part.

nikkaz can get a wedding throwed for far less than that.

 

[El Bajo Negro]

Society has been brainwashed into wasting money on so much pointless shyt related to weddings. Waste money on expensive engagement ring, waste money on expensive wedding ring, waste money on expensive wedding, waste money on expensive honeymoon.

All that money could have gone toward putting a down payment on a house and towards the kids' future, and toward lawyers for when they get divorced a few years later.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I would bet the percent of a couple's income spent on weddings is proportional to divorce rates

For what it's worth wifey and I made money on our wedding :scumbag:

 

[filial_piety]

Word of advice for you lil nikkas who wanna wife up ya instathots....all that rah rah "i aint payin for that shyt" to the females aint gonna work--you gonna be in a war with them and their family and friends if you go that route..... Now just about every man since Adam knows that these weddings are just stupid beyond belief....but you gotta operate like a heart surgeon with care, compassion, and poison em slowly with logic when you bring this stuff up to them.

For example....take them to look at houses....sit down with brokers so that they can explain what the price of stuff costs in the real world....even if you have no intention of buying one anytime soon...eventually they'll start to think of these weddings as a "waste."

It takes time and patience....and with a little luck, if you do it right, you just might have a chance at getting out of these things

 

[Rell Lauren]

Women were sold a dream as girls and want to make it come true as an adult. Due to the advent of social media, these women want to outdo their friends. Going into debt over a couple of hours is pure idiocy. What happened to having a ceremony because you actually loved the person you're marrying?

 

[ShadowBroker]

I feel you could have a cute little wedding for under 5k. Anything more than that is wasteful even if you have it like that. Especially given how high the divorce rate is. No sir.

 

[filial_piety]

Utter nonsense

We went to the courthouse, had a decent reception, then went on a nice honeymoon.

The money we received as gifts helped pay for a house; people out here moving like chumps, for real. No wedding is worth going into debt.

Funny thing is....this is how humans have been doing it for only about 10,000 years.

These big extravagant "break the bank" weddings are a recent phenom.

My great grand parents and grand parents all had very simple small weddings in a church on in their homes....and god bless their souls...but I never heard one ounce of regret about their marriage or how they got married...I never heard anyone complaining about ring sizes or any of that....all that complaining and well-wishing was created by the "wedding industrial complex" as someone else termed it before.

 

[Big Blue]

There was a show on one of those lifestyle networks where brides actually COMPETED to see which one can throw the best wedding. It's crazy.

 

[Shadow King]

Has them 3 magic letters taken a loss yet?