Why couples are taking out loans to pay for their weddings

[Address_Unknown]

It's a status thing. Plain and simple. I can't even front on females wanting big weddings they daddy can't afford 'cause Brehs be pulling up in the limo too all the groommen Crip walking in Margellis(sp) Ferengamo shyts and be doing the most with multiple photographers on Deck.

It's supposed to be a joyous day and I feel them on that but alot of these folk that go hard cobbling together weddings they can't afford are the same ones paying off credit cards with credit cards continuously, and stunting on social media.

I been to a few of these weddings in America helping out a Breh who got a Photographer/Catering business that gets booked for these things and he be giving me the run down on why he don't take cheques from them folk no more who do this shyt, it's that bad.

And the fukked up thing is, the wedding photos and stunting only last as long as the marriage which can be over by mid honeymoon 'cause once they divorce that shyt is discarded while the bill remains. Eh.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Municipal Hall wedding costs about $25-$75.

My wedding cost about $6,000.

Build money as a couple and for your anniversary, throw a big wedding......or don't.

Spend money irresponsibly, brehs/brehettes.

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[Karb]

I'm sayin breh.

And considering this is a Nigerian wedding where you get sprayed with money for 4 hours, imo they already gave you a gofundme.

Have some self-pride

I know this couple where the woman demanded to arrive by a helicopter. Wedding was at an expensive hotel. Poor nikka had to take out a loan to afford her crazy demands.. they got divorced a couple months later

Nah, I'm never going out like that. The moment she starts making these ridiculous demands, I'll take that as a sign of extremely poor judgement and just dip..

 

[YouMadd?]

Lol Both my parents and my girls parents have already expressed that if we get married, we are going to the courthouse, wedding with be in someone’s yard, and we are using the “wedding money” to buy a house

 

[Karb]

If you're gonna ball out, at least spend that money on a nice honeymoon somewhere nice instead of on one night.

Even if I was a billionaire, I just couldn't get myself to waste money on some frivolous bullshyt.. plus I already hate weddings anyway

 

[666 ReVeNGe 666]

Waste of money.

My wedding was nice asf and affordable.

I know people who spent so much in the wedding they couldnt afford the honeymoon

 

[TTT]

This is a HUGE growing trend in the Naija community and it's sad

My people love to stunt so much.

I went to a Naija wedding reception at the W where the bride and groom arrived in a Maybach that they drove into hotel.
They had 7 outfit changes during the receptoin (each outfit probably 4k).

The guy works at his parents home health, and the girl is a CNA.
Their friends are doctors and lawyers so i guess they wanted to outdo them.


Btw they got divorced earlier this year and even had a gofundme to help pay for wedding debts.




My American wedding is not going to have any extra shyt I don't want, my traditional wedding gonna be rough tho

Isn't that website bellanaija focused on showcasing weddings, it always shows up on Instagram. Social media also compounds the problem.

 

[ignorethis]

Man, if I ever get married, I really want to elope.

I don't know how to break that shyt to my girl though, because I know she has big wedding fantasies.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I'm fine with it as long as the tradition of the wife's father pays for the shyt

Yep. My current girl talks about wanting an extravagant wedding. Cool! Let her pops foot the bill.

In truth, he can’t and won’t.

 

[Karb]

Isn't that website bellanaija focused on showcasing weddings, it always shows up on Instagram. Social media also compounds the problem.

People just want to compete and outdo one another. Oftentimes it's the mothers (at least in my culture) that are the main drivers behind this bullshyt.

Starting your marriage off with a huge debt is probably the dumbest shyt you can do. You're setting yourself up for failure.

 

[Gold]

People just want to compete and outdo one another. Oftentimes it's the mothers (at least in my culture) that are the main drivers behind this bullshyt.

Starting your marriage off with a huge debt is probably the dumbest shyt you can do. You're setting yourself up for failure.

Here is the worst part about it... the normally conservative Naija parents are all for this because deep down... they wanna stunt just as bad

So when all your relatives and people you trust are telling you to stunt... you end up making dumb decisions that they dont have to live with but YOU do

 

[Karb]

Here is the worst part about it... the normally conservative Naija parents are all for this because deep down... they wanna stunt just as bad

So when all your relatives and people you trust are telling you to stunt... you end up making dumb decisions that they dont have to live with but YOU do

People are so shortsighted

 

[Weaver31]

People (not just blacks but other races as well) tend to wanna stunt and be seen. Some folks just don't grasp fiscal responsibility and living within their means.

If u want those Keyshia Ka'ore/Gucci weddings....u need to marry someone who is rich and is comfortable with spending that much money. Marrying a person who is just a working person isn't the way to go if u want that lavish wedding.

U can have a wedding at a church social/fellowship hall or some community center or some spot where shyt can be affordable and have a cheaper company cater or have people in ur family cook. U can go get married at courthouse and have reception later.

Point is...don't go in deep debt for one day. It isn't worth it. Then if u get in deep debt....u may have issues with credit...which could fuk up ur job (for example u work with govt job or contractor and u cant get or lose ur clearance cuz u a risk and cant manage ur finances and debt). People don't think long term enough.

 

[Aceofspades404]

There is no pro in financing a wedding.

 

[AB Ziggy]

I'm sayin breh.

And considering this is a Nigerian wedding where you get sprayed with money for 4 hours, imo they already gave you a gofundme.

Have some self-pride

Some of us Ghanaians are also adopting some of bullshyt yall Naija brehs do in your weddings.

The past summer, a family friend of ours hosted an entire wedding on a fukking luxury yacht in Miami(you would be surprised how deep Africans are down there) with rented Mercedes for him and his soon-to-be wife. And the family friend JUST finished medical school yet to begin making the big bucks. So he obviously can't pay for the wedding by himself.

Guess who paid for the whole wedding, the cars, and the money showers? Both his parents and MY parents(just off their strong friendship with the family friend). And the bride nor her parents contributed NOTHING.

And keep in mind this was about 500 of us from both the bride and groom's friend network as well as immediate and extended families of with relatives coming from here, back home, and some from the UK. My parents told me the whole wedding budget came out to be around $50k