Why do men get so mad at the "confidence" advice?

Mandarin Duck

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Bro calm down I am attractive and I am confident I myself. But I'm keeping shyt a stack, being confident really doesn't help that much. Hell having money is more of a help than being confident
False.

There's simps right now Paying for apartments of bytches they've never even met in person.
 

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I was just curious.

Seems like whenever a dude who has trouble with women hears the confidence advice they lose their shyt.
I don't know about dating wise but when a nikka on here who "supposedly" makes good money makes an advice thread and all they say is a bunch of cliches rather than something tangible than that annoys me. Don't even take them dudes seriously no more most of the time. And a lot of times these nikkas don't even post where they work, no receipts to back up their claim.
 

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It is the delivery, not the message, that is the issue.

Unsolicited advice will receive resistance from some people. Solicited advice may be received well, if delivered well.

Tactfulness goes a long way, if the intent of said advice is without malice.
 

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I don't know about dating wise but when a nikka on here who "supposedly" makes good money makes an advice thread and all they say is a bunch of cliches rather than something tangible than that annoys me. Don't even take them dudes seriously no more most of the time. And a lot of times these nikkas don't even post where they work, no receipts to back up their claim.
So for you, do you feel like the advice of having confidence is too broad?
 

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So for you, do you feel like the advice of having confidence is too broad?
It's ambiguous in the sense of how it relates to the thread they created. But just in general no I guess.

Edit - You know what it's like if a nikka makes a thread on How to bake a cake and in that thread he type long as essays basically saying you should do a bunch of cliches but never actually get into the recipes, oven temperature, etc.
 
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Quickest way to acquire confidence is

Hit the gym, those meatheads addicted to the gym & confidence it gives them

Dress in the dopest outfit, nothing like looking sharp, gives u automatic confidence

Having money in ya bank account gives u confidence & the "nobody can tell me shyt" aura
 

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False.

There's simps right now Paying for apartments of bytches they've never even met in person.
Idk I can only speak from my experience and it seems that people really like money. Obiously some people are dumb and can be taken advatnge of but that don't mean if u smart and got money it's easy to get bytches.
 

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Because not all confidence is the same? Like the foundation can be faulty.

Build you confidence to get women? So your confidence is now tied to how someone else treats you which A. is a lot of pressure on both and B. shouldn't be on that other person to make sure not to knock you down.

Most people with the kind of confidence that attracts people, is usually build through something else.

Why are women attracted to musicians? Cause they're going something that have interest in that requires skill. So his confidence in his skill is automatic(even if in reality he's not that good or someone else is better).
 

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"Confidence" means hardly anything. Most people are confident in themselves to a certain extent.
It's like saying, to pass a test, you just have to be "confident". That doesn't mean jack shyt. Knowing the material will get you the pass and if you are well versed in the content and practiced whatever the test is on, you will be confident

Its unlikey a breh with 0 people skills will pull any dimes even with confidence unless he gets more experience by actively making an attempt to talk to women and picking up on cues, bringing the energy, etc.
It's unlikely a really out of shape breh is pulling any dimes without working on their stature etc.

Also "be confident" generic advice that is easy to give.
 

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Because it comes off as disingenuous. "It must be your confidence" is a go to term for when you don't have any concrete advice to give. Some nikkas are just tired of hearing "Maybe it's your confidence" every day,whenever they need help in a specific area.

 

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To be confident, you need self improvement.

Most nikkas don't got nothin to be confident bout... nikkas broke... Living in mama's basement... No car so they walkin on the pavement..... Dont know what they wanna do in life... Fat or short... Swagless.


To be confident... You gotta improve your life... And that takes work... And nikkas aint tryna work... They wanna get the bytches without putting in the work.

this..............
 
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