Why Do Men Handle Break Ups So Much WORSE Than Women?
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Men don't have the same support systems as women have . We're told to suck it up and internalize our probelms since childhood . And bottling things up lead to issues
Key words, or phrases in my post:
Not every...
Some...
A lot ...
Not all guys...
I believe with either sex...
Most of the time...
Some of it can be applied to both. I stated that in part of my post. Some of it can't and is specific to men in relationships. If you have never dealt with men on that level, how would you know?
Women are taught from an early age to acknowledge and process their emotions
Men by contrary are taught to deny it all. So then when we cant take it anymore shyt goes off like a powder keg.
Say bruhs. It's OK to feel some way when a relationship ends. U can even cry. Just let all the shyt out and get over it... instead of pretending like everything is cool while u choke ur ex to death
Thats why when people say men are "the rational gender" I laugh. What is rational about the genocide in Chicago? White supremacy? Donald Trump? Pursuing a rap career in 2016? These are all things perpetuated by or for men. The sooner men get out of denial on our emotional issues the faster we will be able to get back on our shyt.
Men by contrary are taught to deny it all. So then when we cant take it anymore shyt goes off like a powder keg.
Say bruhs. It's OK to feel some way when a relationship ends. U can even cry. Just let all the shyt out and get over it... instead of pretending like everything is cool while u choke ur ex to death
Thats why when people say men are "the rational gender" I laugh. What is rational about the genocide in Chicago? White supremacy? Donald Trump? Pursuing a rap career in 2016? These are all things perpetuated by or for men. The sooner men get out of denial on our emotional issues the faster we will be able to get back on our shyt.
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Of dikks.
I think some of what you put in OP is immaturity. Not every guy or person lashes out like that. Also men cannot take rejection, especially if they opened up to you. A lot of women seemingly wear their emotions on their sleeves and they are "supposed" to because they are women. But most of the time guys are taught not to do that. So if he opens his emotions to you and you hurt him or leave him he takes it hard. I also find dudes who are controlling, think they are in control take it bad as well.
I also believe with either sex, the person who initiates the break up leaves with the less baggage.
Also, men can't take what they dish
You right tho
Its all yall fault!
I just want to love yall, but you make it so hard
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He actually has a point...women are emotional and usually are in their feelings...men arent built to be vunerable and opened up...so when we do open our hearts and get rejected..it hurts and we lash out and become bitter.salty
That's because men are following women now. Gender lines have been blurred and men have been conditioned to deal with their emotions like women.
I handle mines well.
To the point where all my exe girlfriends and flings still talk to me years after the break up. Which tends to create a problem with the current girlfriends sometimes but oh well
I'm a big big big proponent of "never burn bridges". Sometimes I'll bend over backwards and even swallow a little bit of my pride if i have to.
There are so many benefits to keeping a friendly relationship with exes. I honestly cannot stress this enough
To the point where all my exe girlfriends and flings still talk to me years after the break up. Which tends to create a problem with the current girlfriends sometimes but oh well
I'm a big big big proponent of "never burn bridges". Sometimes I'll bend over backwards and even swallow a little bit of my pride if i have to.
There are so many benefits to keeping a friendly relationship with exes. I honestly cannot stress this enough
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As a man, especially a black man your expected to become an emotionless rock or discipline and strength never taking anything to heart and only being able to joke, laugh and trudge through all mental and emotional trauma.... Your only exceptions to that are your girl, your kid, your mom and your brothers and sisters for most not even there fathers.
So when we open up to a woman, even if we screw up and its completely our fault its hits us hard, harder than women most the time because its doesn't feel un womanly to cry or be emotionally or get emotional support for your friends and family.
What I look like as a grown man crying over a ex anything, up under my boys,
being emotional or anything like that. Most yall ladies probably read that last sentence like in the back of your head while acknowledging its not fair but
Men dont have that emotional or mental outlet like women do, and ironically nowadays that needed more than it has ever been. Everything nowadays is a physiological and emotional war.
So when we open up to a woman, even if we screw up and its completely our fault its hits us hard, harder than women most the time because its doesn't feel un womanly to cry or be emotionally or get emotional support for your friends and family.
What I look like as a grown man crying over a ex anything, up under my boys,
being emotional or anything like that. Most yall ladies probably read that last sentence like in the back of your head while acknowledging its not fair but Men dont have that emotional or mental outlet like women do, and ironically nowadays that needed more than it has ever been. Everything nowadays is a physiological and emotional war.
Bless't
Living the dream
I handle mines well.
To the point where all my exe girlfriends and flings still talk to me years after the break up. Which tends to create a problem with the current girlfriends sometimes but oh well
I'm a big big big proponent of "never burn bridges". Sometimes I'll bend over backwards and even swallow a little bit of my pride if i have to.
There are so many benefits to keeping a friendly relationship with exes. I honestly cannot stress this enough
I always get nervous to have a random ex hit me up when I'm in a relationship with someone else.
I've seen both genders having a tough time dealing with heartbreaking. But with women...people don't question woman as much as men. For example...if a woman let a man go...people may question the man's masculinity and wonder if he is man enough for the woman. Some may question the man's ability to satisfy a woman and assume she left him because he is weak, can't supply good D, can't provide and pay for everything, or just isn't masculine enough.
However, a woman's femininity is rarely in question. Women aren't demanded to provide as a man is. And even if a woman has a loose, dry, or just wack vagina...there won't be much criticism on her unlike a man would have to endure.
However, a woman's femininity is rarely in question. Women aren't demanded to provide as a man is. And even if a woman has a loose, dry, or just wack vagina...there won't be much criticism on her unlike a man would have to endure.
If you treat women right, you can always get the ass, Plain and simple.I always get nervous to have a random ex hit me up when I'm in a relationship with someone else.
But thats not why i do it. But it's one of the +'s
