Why Do Men Tease Women They Like?

[Killer Instinct]

Like i said previously, I can take a joke. I just don't understand 'mean' teasing that is used to gently put someone down. I don't mind if a guy who is my friend does it, but I'd prefer my significant other to uplift me rather than poke fun of me. Maybe I do take relationships too seriously. If my SO was short, I'd never use that to take a jab at him. I just wouldn't. The world is already filled with shytty ppl.. your SO is supposed to be equivalent to a shelter/refuge; a place you can go when everywhere/everyone else just brings you down. But when you take pops at each other, diss each other in a teasing way... you risk becoming competitive and hurting each others feelings.

Just my perspective.

There's a time & place for everything. It was nothing for my mom & dad to rib each other in front of me while cooking dinner and even I'd get it on it.
Laughter creates happiness. It's innocent to me.
It's human and if you can't laugh at it, you just may in fact be taking the relationship too seriously.
My gf had braces and she used to catch it over her teeth. Afterwards, she was clowning the size of my feet and we were laughing our asses off and wrapped up together throughout the entire exchange.
If those imperfections were monumental enough, we wouldn't have been together in the first place.
Every moment can't be spent reminding your SO how perfect they are. They know you love them.
Just not that serious to me but to each their own.

 

[MikelArteta]

omg, kinda off topic, but on my way to Target this morning I hear someone honking their horn and shouting at me so I rolled the window down thinking he was gonna tell me there was something wrong with my car or something, then he goes "where you headed beautiful, what's up with you?" my heart was beating hella fast I thought it was something serious like my car was about to blow up or something.

that made your day didnt it

 

[aXiom]

nikkas out here playing mental battleship with females

 

[Ashley Banks]

that made your day didnt it

No

 

[Dwolf]

No

What were you wearing when this happened?

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

I THINK IT MIGHT BE THAT YOU DO IT BECAUSE THAT PERSON THROWS YOU OFF YOUR COOL. A LITTLE BIT OF FEAR MAYBE.

 

[DrX]

gotta insert dominance....

 

[36 Chambers]

When a chick can roast you back

 

[Mr. Manhattan]

I make them laugh instead

 

[KOOL-AID]

@TheFemalePerspective I like ur curly hair, and would love to hear ur accent

 

[Mwrex]

Guys tease anything and everything though... nothing's off limits

 

[LezJepzin]

I'm just too old for the mind games myself.








But a little self-depreciating humor won't hurt

 

[Hagendas]

We do it cause no matter what we say it's still classed as street harrassment

 

[rogue_riezo]

I prefer to practice self deprecating humour instead of tease when it's someone I'm not in a relationship with to keep the comedy going and not offend the woman who panties I'm trying to melt.

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

There's a time & place for everything. It was nothing for my mom & dad to rib each other in front of me while cooking dinner and even I'd get it on it.
Laughter creates happiness. It's innocent to me.
It's human and if you can't laugh at it, you just may in fact be taking the relationship too seriously.
My gf had braces and she used to catch it over her teeth. Afterwards, she was clowning the size of my feet and we were laughing our asses off and wrapped up together throughout the entire exchange.
If those imperfections were monumental enough, we wouldn't have been together in the first place.
Every moment can't be spent reminding your SO how perfect they are. They know you love them.
Just not that serious to me but to each their own.

I love harmless jokes like that, but I've seen too many relationships take a twisted turn, whereby the man's teasing turned into actual genuine insults and he'd use his lady's insecurities to have social dominance over her. I think it also depends on how the teasing is done and if any boundaries are crossed. Some people use teasing/jokes to say how they really feel so the passive/aggressive vibe is very real. And sometimes too much teasing can lead to resentment if you hit a weak/soft spot.

My family always tease each other and it's great fun! But have you ever seen a husband taking pops at his wife e.g. 'this woman can't cook to save her life! And the house.. don't get me started on the house, it feels like I live with a crackead sometimes!" From an outsiders perspective, this is hilarious. The teaser is probably laughing his head off too. But those who are teased often report feeling embarrassed and aren't so quick to laugh if there's an element of truth in the statement. I understand that men use teasing to bond with each other and teasing can be completely harmless, but men and women perceive teasing differently. When we like you, we want to say loving things. We grow up teasing those we don't like. On the other hand, men call each other nicknames that expose their weaknesses e.g. Fat joe, Skinny Sam, 1-Leg Moe... and so forth. This denotes comradeship and strengthens their bizarre friendship. But then they meet a woman they like and use the same tactic (teasing) to get closer to her. Some women entertain this (myself included sometimes) but that's because we're afraid of being called sensitive. Deep down though, that's just not how most women want to feel closer to their partner. It's cringe-worthy to see a man tease his woman and you watch her fake a smile.