Why do nikkas abandon their friends when they got a girlfriend.

KillerB88

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I wonder if there are brehs out there with that real sitcom life..

where the ace boon/day 1 homie come to the house everyday like he live there ...get along with the misses and you can trust him round ya girl..

the kids call him uncle,and The brehs hang out and get into comedic antics like when they were younger..No issues perfect balance..

Too bad im an introvert. Or that would be pretty cool lol.
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I actually have that with my boy from HS. He transferred to my college and I introduced him to this girl I was friends with. Even lied to get them on their first date since they were both shy. Now they’re married with a kid on the way. I was the catalyst for the official wedding story and all that. I’m excited for this baby to be born like it’s mine.
 

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They really weren't friends with you like that, op.

I'm married w/ kids so rarely can I do some random shyt. So me and the homies just have a routine where we hang. We shoot pool and shyt on Thursday's, wifey cool wit it :yeshrug:. If we do something major we kinda plan it out ahead of time.

This and this. From the jump, real friends should know and expect you to fall back a bit when you're in a relationship and vice versa. When we wanna link up, we make it happen but outside of that, we just have a group chat that we're in daily and stay in touch like that.
 

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I really wonder what type of social circles some dudes got.

Just cause you got a girl don't mean you can't see your friends. Maybe not as often or in certain environments but you can still hang with your boys from time to time. Heck, my dad is married with a wife but still goes out and plays golf with some of his buddies from college at least once or twice a month.
 

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Gotta shorty now. Only reason i dont hang with the homies now cuz im across the country. Id be damned if i kick all my homies to the curb . Its a balancing thing.
 

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If you're in a healthy relationship with your woman where ya'll give each other enough space it's easy to maintain friendships with your male friends.

Now if you have female friends, that's a different story...
 

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Even if you have a good woman..
You need to balance that shyt..
I love my wife to death but she is not my best friend..
You still need a breh to tell you when you are fukking up, bounce plans off of or simple breh conversations..
That’s where a lot of nikkas fukk up at..
They put all their eggs in one basket with a woman..
And when shyt goes sidewys..
They don’t have anybody around them to pick them up..
If it wasn’t for my three brehs( two in Cali, one down here in the H)..
After my first divorce..
I would have been Willy Lump Lump status..
When you have a good woman..
They encourage your relationships with friends and family..
Will damn near pick a fight if you haven’t called your bredrens in a while..

Balance is the key to everything in this fukked up world..

Facts. Me and my best friend had a huge argument earlier this year and likely would've ended our friendship if my fiancee didn't convince me to let go of my pride and squash it with him
 

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Facts. Me and my best friend had a huge argument earlier this year and likely would've ended our friendship if my fiancee didn't convince me to let go of my pride and squash it with him
Bruh!...just curious...what the hell was the argument for originally? Probably something stupid.
:stopitslime:
 

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I actually have that with my boy from HS. He transferred to my college and I introduced him to this girl I was friends with. Even lied to get them on their first date since they were both shy. Now they’re married with a kid on the way. I was the catalyst for the official wedding story and all that. I’m excited for this baby to be born like it’s mine.

nikka! We need more brothas out there like y'all!
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Bruh!...just curious...what the hell was the argument for originally? Probably something stupid.
:stopitslime:

Eh not gonna get into it too much but he's an extremely opinionated person and came at my girl in a way I thought was disrespectful while they were debating/arguing about something. I stepped in and the shyt escalated, ended up saying some shyt to him that cut deep. Turns out I was more mad about it than my girl was and in hindsight it wasn't a huge deal. We just got caught up in the bullshyt and were too prideful in the moment to step down
 
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