Gain interest, gets passionate, grows into a relationship, live together, have children (or not), both have careers (Or not), Buy a house (Or not
But alas, eventually the novelty wears off, the new exciting feelings fade, and the strain of sustaining whatever lifestyle a couple built becomes taxing. So one, or both parties accepts it as is, life's slow, hard working moments that provide very little return for ones efforts, and guess what you get to do it tomorrow too. Yes, I have to be a parent tomorrow, and a homeowner, and employed, and a husband (or Wife). And what do these things unequivocally demand?! In unison now, TIME & MONEY!!!.
. Spend more time at home vs at work and she complains about not having any money or being able to provide for the familys growth or amenities that people feel they need in life to feel fulfilled or satisfied. Its a reason to cheat.
Work, work, work, suffer the lash of the financial demand imposed by your family's needs. Home, car, insurance, electric, heat, food.....and internet, newer car, new furniture, cell phones, children's sports, clothes and other activities, and whatever else the Mrs. says would be great for the family "I want to provide to my children the things I never had growing up:.. So time, precious time is sacrificed. Time from you wife, your children, hell maybe even you dog too. Your home becomes strange to you and whatever time you have at home ends up being another demand. Fix this, take care of this, mow the lawn, time to read storied, get children taken care of, fix the dryer........................ Each do represents something, here lets add some more...............Add what you see fit. I am now neglectful and checked out. I have not met her needs as well as being a failure for not reading her mind. I must simply not care or love her. It is a reason to cheat.
If your nice, your not assertive enough or aggressive enough to show you care or wish to pursue ones spouse, especially if your a guy, and the other party, especially women, find your eagerness to please revolting and disrespectful. She needs someone who'll take charge, make the decision for her, lead without even considering opinions, be the Alpha. "He never listened to me, he never noticed or cared about my feelings, I felt like I didn't matter, I had no say....." It is a reason to cheat.
The internet, work, home, church, school, wherever is a place to cheat. With cyberspace cheating is more than ever now isn't it. "It's ok, cause I never Fvcked him/her so what's the big deal?" is the normal response. But the Pics, statements, conversations and feelings involved with them invite danger and heartache.
But in short, modern day marriage sucks, unlike past ones (Which were also not perfect or free from infidelity) in nearly all cases if something was broke they fixed it, now, people simply toss it away and move on, as if marriage is now just a consumable item. It just plan ol' sucks.
