Why do people hit 30 and get all depressing n shyt?

Olmec

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What hit me most was friends not being as close anymore. Friends get successful jobs, branch out, and move out-of-state..it's bitter sweet. It's also hard due to people starting their own families and ya'll just can't go out every weekend like it's been for years :mjcry:.

I wouldn't change it though, because I'm happy for all of our success.
 

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pop culture makes us believe we're supposed t check off all of the bullet points for an amazing life before we're 30 and when people dont fit that description they get depressed because they dont measure up to the expectations society places on them.

Most of us either went to college to earn degrees with little to no ROI, dropped out because we lost interest and got privy to the games these indoctrination diploma mills play , OR skipped college altogether only to arrrive at the same point in life (generally speaking). Varying degress of effort towards accomplishing the american dream for the same result.

That's where I think the depression comes in; Humans have far more access and a better glimpse into each other's lives than ever and can immediately see how unfair the game of life is. The guy with a master's degree making 55k after 5 years of experience in his field can see a highschool drop out who didnt get his life on the right track until much later in life and eclipse his salary doing something like being a train conductor. The train conductor will see someone who is debt free, travels all the time and is balling on comparatively lower income and be envious of them because they have all the free time to travel. The nikka slinging boxes in a hot ass UPS truck for shyt pay, during peak season, day dreams about having any one of these 3 gigs, Just so he doesnt have to beat his body up anymore. what they all have in common is that theyre not living the life theyr desire regadless of income etc. This is why its so critical to figure out whats important to you.

we spend the better part of our 20's hoping to find our "passion" and we eventually become weary and hopeless going down the path of bouncing from one socially accepted path to another hoping to fill some void in our spirits. People fall into the trap of thinking "passion" is this one particular thing a person was born to due with autistic proficiency and make a get rich doing so. It's unrealistic and unnecessary.

At the end of the day, we all have the SAME fukking passion; to live our life on our own terms with most or complete autonomy and make a decent living doing something that feels like you're not at work, Doesnt have to be one particular thing, doesnt even have to be long-term commitment. It's the contentment, The luxury of time or the the feeling of freedom you're chasing, not the act of basket weaving, not your liberal arts degree, and starting a taco truck business or becoming a powerlifter. It's whatever gives you that "feeling of freedom" for the moment, and having the discernment to know when to move onto something else once your "sense of freedom" or "passion" fades or at very least cycle back around t it in the future once you've experienced other shyt if need be.

nothing's good forever and nothing's bad forever. Whatever changes are on the horizon, embrace it and make it your bytch, When you've mastered the fine art of surfing between chaos and order, uncertainty and security; being able to adapt on a dime and slip all the bullshyt life throws at you. Then you have achieved nirvana, complete serenity. unphased by good or bad because you can balance the scale's and re calibrate your mind to help your get out of a bind or ascend higher than your already are.

I'm aware my rantings are bordering on scatter-brained and only slightly relevant to the premise, and if I dont stop while im ahead, This shyt will probably devolve into a bunch of taoist lsd-fueled ranting,

Sometimes I articulate with the accuracy of a sniper, and other times im like the drunk dude whose stream of piss splits off into 3 streams and goes everywhere but inside the toilet. :yeshrug:
 

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Like someone else said, you reap in your 30s what you sow in your 20s. People that put more of an emphasis on social life and partying over education and career stability, and make irresponsible choice after irresponsible choice start to pay the long toll on those shyt choices. Having kids when they barely have the means to cover their own finances is no question most of their biggest regrets. No real career. struggling financially even if they happened to dodge the kid during your early 20s life altering bullet. if they did have a kid it’s even worse. Infinitely worse if they fukked around and had more than one kid. Honestly it just sounds depressing. Working dead end Or entry level jobs just to cover your day to day expenses and no energy to focus on better yourself and no time to try and better your education for a career move.
Basically all of this if you don't have a solid foundation underneath you, everything will crumble putting you in a whole that will forever have you playing catchup.
 

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Life get real at 30. I went through severe depression from 27-29. I wasn’t where I wanted to be financially. I was fukked up out there and felt like I’d never catch up. That’s the millennial generation in general. Things are better now. Im finally at a point where Im stable but, now like alot of people, I know I can do more and trying to figure out how to get to where I want to be. Still I have to remind myself everyday to be humble and appreciative of what I do have because I was fukked up only 3 years ago. Most dudes can’t deal with that pressure. There was days a couple years ago I deadass wanted to hop off a bridge. Only thing I can tell anyone feeling like that is to keep going and eventually everything will get better. At 30, you still got 40-50 more years on this planet, with 30-35 of them being working years. It’s not even close to being over. It’s only over if you decide it’s over.
 
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Bills & responsibility?

The devil always comes for his due.

The key to living past your 20s is not to peak in your 20s.

Your 30s is mostly paying for the wages on sins committed in your 20s.

Real muhfuggin shyt :wow:

What's really strange is seeing gen x'ers, and boomers as a 35+ year old and truly understanding where they went wrong.

That's part of the reason why I don't like seeing some family members for the holidays...the regret and shame is palpable. I try to rap with them and feel them, but I'm guccie and they know it :gucci:.

It be like, damn unc, how you still trying to spit game and wisdom when I've surpassed you breh...it wasn't supposed to be like that :mjcry:
 

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I can’t say that I feel the same. I’ll be 33 in a couple weeks and I feel like I’m really coming into my own as a man. I have a much more thorough understanding of who I am and what I will and won’t stand for. I’m about to finish up my time in the Air Force and move into my next career. Everything is looking up for me. Fortunately I was able to avoid being shackled to the wrong kind of woman and I don’t have any children.

As far as my friends go, some are starting families. Others, are still making headway in their chosen professions. I quit social media a couple years ago so I only keep up with the people who actually matter and they’re all doing well for the most part. Might just be your circle, OP.
 

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A lot of people don't feel adequate enough to fit in this place.
Funny thing is, I don't blame it.
shyt is not stable for the dream to be that real.
People want that though, they want the real "U.S. America Is Great" feeling and then they come out dissatisfied that the paper just isn't adding up right.
Instead of feeling embraced, others are left divided to themselves. Yeah, what a melting pot this is.
NOT! Lol see these are still fundamental things that need fixing at a core though. The way people are and in the steel made environment treat eachother symbiotically along with the paper stacked up makes a difference in cleaner attitudes.
Because that's the stuff you old heads should be worried about for hell you nikkas got me so pissed off for not being shyt but blame others for everything else. Shout outs to my DJ for that One! That's the word and it is REAL out here!
 
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