Rakim Allah
Superstar
Yeah, that rant was a modern day classic, friend.
Why do we blame single mothers for their situation?
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LiveFromLondon
Superstar
Nothing worse then men abdicating responsibility and not wanting to be accountable
Wear My Dawg's Hat
Superstar
Before the white folks Sexual Revolution of the 1960s and 1970s (that too many Black folk are still somehow abiding by...), the laws and culture of the society did place responsibility for reproduction and child-raising on both females and males. The enforcing institution was called MARRIAGE.
Folks were supposed to be married BEFORE they had children. In fact, having a child out-of-wedlock was grounds for having the child taken away by older relatives or the state back then.
Our parents and grandparents will tell stories of how pregnant teen girls and young women would be "sent down South" from the North once they became pregnant out of wedlock. In those instances, the baby would be taken away from the mother, to be raised and cared for by older, married relatives (grandparents, aunts and uncles).
This is also why we had "shotgun marriages" when an unmarried pregnant couple would suddenly head to the altar.
When marriage was rejected in the 1960s and 1970s by the Sexual Revolution and the Feminist Movement as a tool of the "patriarchy" and "male control," so-called "casual sex," women's contraception called The Pill, and a woman' unrestricted right to abort pregnancies were all heavily promoted. Marriage and religious doctrine was rejected.
It was during this period that the out-of-wedlock birth rate skyrocketed, and for vulnerable Black folk just coming out of the 1960s Civil Rights legal battles, the concept of the married, two-parent Black family was irreparably harmed. The fabric of the stable Black community was forever negatively impacted.
The women's movement chant "My Baby, My Body, My Choice" said everything that needed to be said about the big shift in where modern responsibility has been placed for when children are brought into the world. And sadly, children have been the biggest victims of this change.
Fanservice
Bih call me senpai
Bars
When I was 25, I was gettin serious with this 23 yr old with 4 kids by 4 different baby daddies. She got pregnant and I thought it was mine, but she told me to meet her at outback steakhouse and when I got there, we ate and when we were just about finished, she told me the baby isnt mine, it belongs to the father of her 2nd child and he is gonna be in the delivery room. Then she told me she really wants to be with me. I told her I needed some time to make my decision
The Devil's Advocate
Call me Dad
Cause those are the same bitter ass nikkas mad they didn’t get chose. So now they on some “hahahaha I told you so. Look who you chose.”
Meanwhile almost every guy I know or met or seen is a lying ass cheater. Facts. Y’all know you cheat, your boys cheat, y’all sell dreams, your cousin selling dreams, nikkas know they ain’t gonna be there but nutting up in them anyway, lying bout saying they gonna step up, lying and saying they love you, play a good dad for 5 months, 5 years, and then up and leave, try and run from it, hide from CS, quit jobs or get paid under the table to avoid it.
Like let’s be real out here. Most guys are not stand up guys. And most good guys aren’t trying to do anything more than fukk and lie as well. But they pretend they would have wifed her if not for her terrible choice. Man please.
Joe Budden
Banned
This post was beautiful.
Formerly Black Trash
Philosopher, Connoisseur, Future Legend
People are good to who they want to be good to
Women included
LiveFromLondon
Superstar
Was you story in telling people that you only wanted to have a baby thus be a single mum or did you run with the aforementionedwhat?
Was you story in telling people that you only wanted to have a baby thus be a single mum or did you run with the aforementioned
Y’all can’t get over the fact that I’m nfg about being a single mom lol. I don’t go around selling a sympathy story, or talking shyt about my son’s father.
It takes two to tango...
I don't believe it is always a man's fault nor always a woman's fault.
Both play a huge part on a relationship thriving or not....
As for single mother's, I think they receive static based on how they treat the men they are dealing with more so than them being single mothers.
I don't believe it is always a man's fault nor always a woman's fault.
Both play a huge part on a relationship thriving or not....
As for single mother's, I think they receive static based on how they treat the men they are dealing with more so than them being single mothers.
IsThatBrothaMouzone?
Veteran
It should be 50/50.
Reason women get blamed is because they are the choosers. Men are the product and women pick the product. That's why men approach women.
Men try to sell women on a dream and women have to decide whether they buy in or not.
Some women have a knack for finding good men and don't have a bunch of hard luck stories. Other women fukk up once and get stuck with a baby by a deadbeat.
Women choose so we put the responsibility on the chooser. They don't have to chase...but they get the burden for bad decisions. If ladies want to increase the odds of getting better men, they have to be proactive.
Problem is that women tend to flock to the same handful of dudes when choosing is left up to them. Not diverse enough in their tastes...bites them in the azz every time.