Why do we expect reciprocity for acts of kindness?

[MischievousMonkey]

Because both people were in need and only one person seemed to recognize that...

Would you agree that empathy is at its core a selfish sentiment?

 

[DragonKnight]

If I hold a door open for a bytch and she don’t say thank you before she cross the door I slam the door in that hoe fukk HER

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Would you agree that empathy is at its core a selfish sentiment?

No, do you even know the definition of empathy?

it’s based on the ability to look outside of yourself and sense others. There’s nothing selfish about that...

 

[bigdaddy88]

I mean i grew up in a judeo christian household so u kinda dont expect much back just do it because i can and want to.....

but what i find weird is people that dont like people who try and help them with a favor because they feel obligated to return the favor..am like nikka just say thank you


I know some chicks that wont accept any type of favors from dudes because she thinks shes obligated to do something in return am like .......but then i see her point some dudes really are funny style




basically humans are complicated and this issue differs from person to person

 

[King Khufu]

So are most acts of kindness really selfless or are they just caresses to our ego and reaffirmations that we're up to our standards?

Depends on intent.

I think if someone is truly kind they share to show they truly care.

If not, then they secretly expect something even if it's their own ego boost.

#NeverExpectRespect #TakeCharge

 

[MischievousMonkey]

If I hold a door open for a bytch and she don’t say thank you before she cross the door I slam the door in that hoe fukk HER

I feel that. Would you say you held the door for her appreciation?

 

[MischievousMonkey]

No, do you even know the definition of empathy?

it’s based on the ability to look outside of yourself and sense others. There’s nothing selfish about that...

Empathy: the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another

Definition of empathy | Dictionary.com

The point I'm arguing, which is not innovative, is that empathy is precisely seeing yourself in others. Which makes it selfish by nature and explain why we feel slighted when reciprocity is absent.

An empath feels as if he was feeling himself the ordeals of another person. That means when he helps that other person, he's really helping himself.

You disagree with this stance?

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Empathy: the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another

Definition of empathy | Dictionary.com

The point I'm arguing, which is not innovative, is that empathy is precisely seeing yourself in others. Which makes it selfish by nature and explain why we feel slighted when reciprocity is absent.

An empath feels as if he was feeling himself the ordeals of another person. That means when he helps that other person, he's really helping himself.

You disagree with this stance?

You’re really just waffling on now, mate

 

[Auger]

Unfortunately most of our acts of kindness are conditional. The closer the other person is in proximity to our family. (Gender, race, familiarity, religion) the less conditions we require from that other person before performing a truly selfless act with no-strings attached.

That's why most people truly don't mind doing selfless acts of kindness for our children>parents>siblings>cousins>childhood friends etc...

That and the eternal dilemma of resource scarcity is still baked into that lizard part of our brain.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Unfortunately most of our acts of kindness are conditional. The closer the other person is in proximity to our family. (Gender, race, familiarity, religion) the less conditions we require from that other person before performing a truly selfless act with no-strings attached.

That's why most people truly don't mind doing selfless acts of kindness for our children>parents>siblings>cousins>childhood friends etc...

That and the eternal dilemma of resource scarcity is still baked into that lizard part of our brain.

 

[MajesticLion]

An innate sense of justice, a mental/emotional grasp for cosmic balance. This, despite ample evidence to the contrary. Hope springs eternal and all that.

 

[MalickSyXShabbaz]

Because that's how things had to be in order for our tribes and species to survive.

Picture the hunter-gatherer days where certain resources were very hard to come by.

If everyone in the tribe just ate whenever they got a lucky catch and no one shared, then the tribe would probably die off pretty quickly from people going long periods without catching anything and starving to death.

If instead people shared whatever lucky catch they got, then it's more likely that you have at least something to sustain you on a given day, since the odds of someone in the tribe getting a lucky catch is far greater than the odds of one individual (you) getting a lucky catch.

European propaganda

 

[cheek100]

Can’t even get a bytch to say thank u nowadays

 

[Nobu]

European propaganda

It's propaganda that social reciprocity exists in literally every social group worldwide?

There are virtually no 'lone wolf' humans outside of modern society, where you are living in a cushy apartment and getting your food from the grocery store. Humans virtually always exist as part of a group, and part of the contract of being a group member is a degree of reciprocity.

The whole point of being in a group is that you give some to get some.

 

[analog]

Someone approaches you at the park hungry, looking to have some of your food is more than likely homeless.

Share, yes, but you an a$$hole for asking them for food the next day.