There's a generational gap I'm assuming but thorough women are needle in a haystack for the under 25 crowd. I'm not saying they don't exist but it wasn't sold to millennial/gen z men as a something you'd have to put in mad work and have some fortunate timing to find. And damaged women have hoe attributes or are hoe adjacent in terms of behavior so while they may not be promiscuous they're not wife-able. Though hoes are the most identifiable/loudest variety of unwife-able women and they generally encourage unwife-able women to embrace flaws, join them in fukkery instead of get right. So the animosity is easiest to direct towards them as the leader of unwife-able set.
To your points on setting yes, but no. While avoiding clubs/bars other lowest common denominator spots can free you of excessively promiscuous women, it doesn't protect from trifling/scheming women and these type women are one in the same one just knows how to pick their spots. To draaw a parallel they're all QBs some Brady, some Bortles, but they play the same position in the same game they have variant skillsets however.
They could more aptly, be called ain't-shyt women