For me, a man can exude those qualities without being an extrovert. You can have a quiet aura that draws people towards you.
You can't exactly have a
"quiet aura that draws people towards you" in a crowded room / large social setting. As an individual you can have that energy and draw in women or like minded men for serious conversation in a corner somewhere, but that's not what I'm talking about.
Class clowns are just that... they should be left in the classroom. Once you reach adulthood, as a man, you can still be the life and soul of the party without being obnoxious. There’s just something very feminine about a man who competes with his woman for attention.
I know guys like that who have to be in every selfie, that have to be heard the moment they enter the room. Ones who can’t shut the hell up.
That kind of behavior is acceptable from women because we expect that, but from
Straight men? Nah.
Of course you can do it without being obnoxious, that's almost exactly what I said. But you can't be a
life of the party type while being an introvert. I mean, that shyt is damn near an oxymoron. Introverts don't WANT to be the life of the party. In fact, they'd rather not be at the party at all.
You're still thinking of extros solely as loudmouthed attention whores when really extrovert just means outgoing, can talk to just about anyone, etc. And trust me I KNOW the type you're talking about. I'm from LA, nikkas who
need to be the center of attention at all times are abundant, but that's not the only type of extrovert.