Why does a man do this?

[mannyrs13]

Had this happen with a guy I found attractive back when I lived in the college dorm.

You should've told him how you felt. Maybe he felt the same way but was unsure if you did. Can't hurt to go up to the guy and talk to him. You gonna either succeed or fail. And this is for guys too. Most men or women will reject you nicely, just gotta try. You could've talked to him about school stuff and go from there if you needed an opening. You pass up so many opportunities and never know what might've been. What's the worst that could happen if you try?

 

[Fandroid]

You should've told him how you felt. Maybe he felt the same way but was unsure if you did. Can't hurt to go up to the guy and talk to him. You gonna either succeed or fail. And this is for guys too. Most men or women will reject you nicely, just gotta try. You could've talked to him about school stuff and go from there if you needed an opening. You pass up so many opportunities and never know what might've been. What's the worst that could happen if you try?

Females can't handle rejection.

 

[L&HH]

Had this happen with a guy I found attractive back when I lived in the college dorm.

Either fear of rejection, he was taken and didn't want to cheat, or he wasn't as into you as you think he was. Likely the first option but the latter 2 aren't out of the question.

 

[Poitier]

My biggest aspect of why I feel pressure is my physical aspects. Other than that. Its not as bad.

Yeah, thats that hyper-aware "spotlight on you" feeling I was talking about. Its plenty of men of every kind of physique out here eating...but closed mouths dont get fed.

 

[Cant Ban The Snow Man]

You should've told him how you felt. Maybe he felt the same way but was unsure if you did. Can't hurt to go up to the guy and talk to him. You gonna either succeed or fail. And this is for guys too. Most men or women will reject you nicely, just gotta try. You could've talked to him about school stuff and go from there if you needed an opening. You pass up so many opportunities and never know what might've been. What's the worst that could happen if you try?

Yeah I was thinking back and decided to ask other men out of curiosity.

 

[(Lean Ambrose)]

Only way you develop it is by jumping in the paint.
Introducing yourself to a woman isn't some stage with a spotlight on you where laugh track comes on if you get rejected lol and once you realize that...its much easier to casually approach a woman like you already know her.

...
shyt is so simple...
And I wish these nikkas would cut out all this "game" shyt too...
Me personally I always thought the best game was just being yourself...
Women (not all) ain't stupid they can smell that fake shyt a mile away...
Luckily for me I'm just a really likeable mothafukka...
Mom and Pops blessed me man...

 

[Lo-Co]

Yeah, thats that hyper-aware "spotlight on you" feeling I was talking about. Its plenty of men of every kind of physique out here eating...but closed mouths dont get fed.

I'll keep that in mind.
Maybe I'll snap out of my bullshyt

 

[Regular_P]

Here's why:

This is hilarious, but shows one of the major differences in cold approaches by each sex.

A guy could approach and get savaged like that, whether they're good looking or not.

A good looking woman will never get shredded like that. Even if the guy shoots them down, they'll do it gently.

 

[L&HH]

That was horrible.

But sending your friend to speak to a woman for you?

Ya'll lying if ya'll never asked your homie to put you on with a chick. Ain't nothing wrong with that it breaks the awkward barrier somewhat. The only thing wrong with that was him saying "hey my name is patrick can I get your number" Terrible opener.

 

[Afro]

I'll keep that in mind.
Maybe I'll snap out of my bullshyt

Practice homie, practice

I took a girl out to the movies and afterwards I was gauging how far this was going to go. She told me straight up this won't go anywhere.

I damn near did a backflip in the parking lot

I told her thank you, appreciate it, and kept it moving. She tried to get me as her "movie buddy" later and I'm like .

Look for either a def yes or no. Inbetweeners get kicked

 

[AlainLocke]

I don't approach women...because just because a bytch is pretty doesn't mean she is a good person.

I just network with people and get to know bytches and then bytches become interested cause they actually know you.


Plus, if you got something, they'll want something from you...so it's easier to leverage that into getting the draws.

That cold approaching shyt works if you just type of dude that is always on the prowl.

If you ain't the prowling type then play your role.

 

[Lo-Co]

Practice homie, practice

I took a girl out to the movies and afterwards I was gauging how far this was going to go. She told me straight up this won't go anywhere.

I damn near did a backflip in the parking lot

I told her thank you, appreciate it, and kept it moving. She tried to get me as her "movie buddy" later and I'm like .

Look for either a def yes or no. Inbetweeners get kicked

I feel relieved when that happened to Me once. I think its the lead up to the rejection mor than the rejection itself that freezes me up

 

[street heat]

responses about what id expect from the coli.....

 

[Afro]

I feel relieved when that happened to Me once. I think its the lead up to the rejection mor than the rejection itself that freezes me up

I go out thinking about having fun first, rejection isn't on my mind as much. I also ask myself questions as the date/meetup goes on. Keeps me in the moment instead of in the clouds.

You start daydreaming, you'll dread rejection even more because now shes up in your mind.

Hell, I try to be more polarizing now so I can hear yes or no quicker. Aloofness and being indecisive is the new standard.

 

[NeilCartwright]

Why is it that a man will always stare at you as a woman but won't even come up and talk to you? Like literally just stare and even at times tell other men he likes you but will spend months not even saying anything to you. Just curious.

I wont lie, i need definite signals before i approach.

I'll look in their direction to see if they're looking at me. When i catch them doing that then ill approach.

In class im more hesitant. If that shyt goes left it'll be awkward as hell afterwardsbut if im in public i dont give a damn