to answer OP's question:
they expect you to WANT to be like them. You shouldn't be proud of who you are because you're black...being black means you aren't white (which in their minds is the best thing ever)
so they first look at you like "what are you even proud of...you conquered person'
they then get upset at the realization of why you are proud of yourself and have good reason to be. This evokes anger and the constant 'putting you in your place' attitude from whites.
they expect you to WANT to be like them. You shouldn't be proud of who you are because you're black...being black means you aren't white (which in their minds is the best thing ever)
so they first look at you like "what are you even proud of...you conquered person'

they then get upset at the realization of why you are proud of yourself and have good reason to be. This evokes anger and the constant 'putting you in your place' attitude from whites.