i asked about if you had a job servicing whites because the tradition you are saying you adhere to also puts blacks in a position to service, cater to and respect authority of whites.
you chose to stick to keeping traditional gender because it puts you in a position of authority. you don't stick to racial tradition in this country because it puts you in a position of inferiority. don't you think that as humans, women would seek out exactly what you seek out? not to be inferior?
you say these modern women dislike gender roles,

i don't understand why black men expected for black women to feel empowered enough to challenge racial supremacy but that somehow those seeds of empowerment would not grow to see that gender supremacy is very similar to racial supremacy. i realize you did not mention bw specifically, but as the conversation relates to race and gender intersecting i think it is a little relevant. sometimes i feel like you guys want girls to have just enough pride so that you aren't embarrassed to date her but not so much pride that she thinks she's as good as you are or better
like you're saying "you don't belong in the white man's kitchen"
"you belong in
my kitchen"