I just got tired of the black woman drama. And, when black
men who date white women say that they choose to do so because
of "black woman drama" I know exactly what they are talking
about.
Women who could not disagree without getting loud. Women who
gotta talk about what other women do or don`t have, what does or
doesn`t look right on them, who "got their nerve", or "who does she
think she is", or "no, she didn`t".
I got tired of all that "black" mentality. I got tired of disagreements
having to always end up with a loud argument. I got tired of taking
sisters to a nice restaurant and, if the food isn`t prepared right,
watch her get an attitude with the waiter.
I got tired of "you can`t run my fingers through my hair...that will
mess it up". I got tired of planning a romantic weekend, then have
it ruined because she had an attitude because something didn`t go
her way at work on Friday. I got tired of planning social events,
then not having my woman want to go because she didn`t like the
"attitude" of someone who was going to be there. I got tired of
trying to plan for the future financially but dealing with women who
ran to the mall soon as they got paid and didn`t want to leave until
they were nearly broke.
I got tired of sisters who didn`t try to work out or take care of
their bodies but had nothing but nastiness to say about those who
chose to have enough self respect to take care of themselves. I
got tired of taking sisters to elegant affairs and then watch them
have nothing better to do but to comment on what was wrong with
the affair. "That music gots to go", "The salad don`t taste right",
"That woman over there needs a breast reduction". It`s amazing,
but when we went to "black" movie like "Friday" or some Master P
garbage - nothing was ever wrong.
I got tired of sisters who could never find or make time to go to the
gym, but always made their nail and hair appointments religiously. I
got tired of sisters who felt success always had to have a financial
aspect. Tired of dealing with "successful" black women who were
just all into keeping up with the Joneses. Women with bad credit.
Shopping at Sak`s when they have a K-Mart budget. Buying stuff
they can`t afford to show off. Sick of it. I got tired of women who
never have time to read a decent book, but make it a point to buy
every issue of Sister 2 Sister, Essence, Ebony, and never miss a
soap opera.
I got tired of planning adventerous sex and then having it blown off
with "I don`t do that" or "Uh huh". Now, I am not talking bondage,
S&M, or anything like that. But, maybe turning on some blacklights
and painting each other with flourescent body paints or oiling each
others bodies down or making love in my hot tub, or maybe even in
the greenhouse that I built last year behind my home.
