Why Introverts Are Prone to Sadness and Ruin

[Another Man]

To the fellow introvert brehs...(not the socially awkward motherfukkers that can't operate social mores...I mean introverts)

You have to understand something about being an introvert...it's not just about how you respond to people, but it's also has to do with motivation.

You are internally motivated. Extroverts are externally motivated.

You as an introvert wanna take your inner world and impose it on the "real" world and extroverts wanna change the outer world to their will.

The sad thing is...this is world is built and made for extroverts. Everything in this world is about external motivation.

Nobody really asks what you want and what you would like to do, they tell you what you want and what you should do. It's bad for introverts...it's a shytty way to live.

But it is fine for extroverts, that's how they normally function.

They see a shiny new car...they want it. They see the baddest bytch or the sexiest man alive...they want it. They see the biggest house in the neighborhood, they want it. They get told the highest grade a student can achieve, they want it. They get told what best college in the world is, they want to get into it.

And when they get the shyt...they feel like they achieved something.

Introverts aren't motivated like that. Introverts are motivated by "becoming". An evolution of our character or being...which has a physical manifestation in the outer world. Which is why we gravitate towards art and science and even sports. Mastering yourself and your craft has a physical manifestation.

Prime an example of an introvert is Kobe Bryant. Watch his interviews and how he approached basketball. He's a fukking introvert.

But there's hardly anytime or space for this...since we are in an extroverted world and we are ultimately made to conform to being extroverted while the more talented of us get into fields like the sciences and the arts and sports...where we can be introverted.

So getting the nice car, the big house, the baddest bytch or sexiest man, the highest grade, going to best college..it doesn't make us fulfilled...don't get me wrong...it's nice, it feeds our ego...but we wouldn't be fulfilled...


So while you are unhappy as fukk being pushed along the extroversion path which starts at elementary school..you think something is wrong with you...you don't feel anything...you feel dead...you aren't motivated to do anything.

So you overwhelm yourself with physical sensations...

You overeat or you overexercise

You masturbate a lot or you become promiscuous

You do drugs

You immerse yourself into fantasy worlds via videogames or television...where you can drift away into your inner world


Or even worse...

You end up like Van Gogh...locking yourself away and surrendering yourself to the craft of your choosing at the expense of everything else. Which is cool in some masochistic way...but who wants to starve and paint all day


Find a way to break away from the extroversion. Find a way not to conform. Find your path. Resist extroversion, find your internal motivation and listen to it and pursue it.

That's basically what you just did. What extroverts want outta life doesn't invalidate what introverts want. You also assume that being an introvert is a shirty way to live. I'd say the opposite. Extroverts constantly need validation, admiration, attention and approval from others or they'll fall apart. Introverts can draw this all from within and keep it pushing. I actually find extroverts to be mentally weaker when faced with adversity too.

 

[eastsideTT]

OK CHARLIE

IntroGang

 

[Mr. Negative]

It's rough cause I really stopped giving a shyt.

Like I'm really just one step away from changing my name to Boo Radley and going to live in a shack in the woods with a wifi signal and a bunch of books.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

What you doing outside of HL breh

I was in a conference all day. Just browsing Coli on my phone

 

[AlainLocke]

facts

im a stone cold introvert everything you said resonates with me

grew up talented in music and instead went to school and pursued several shadow careers and did the exact opposite of what the universe and my inner gut tried telling me to do when i was younger

finally started focusing on what i really want to do, but at an older age... and its a young mans world and a young mans game. imagine kobe finally starting to practice when he was 27

shadow careers bro

i recommend the book "Turning Pro" by Steven Pressman. its a short read. real short. explains the cursed artist / introvert mentality well

whats really rough is i've never had a problem with females but after a while they get it twisted and think im really not about shyt when its just because im an introvert ive scorned a lot of people with my internally motivated ways. its not that im selfish... im just trying to progress as a person

Yup introverts need to learn that you only live once...

And yeah bytches think you ain' t about shyt but you try to tell a bytch what you wanna do a bytch ain't interested.

bytches be like..."Okay whatever nikka, where the money at tho..."

"But I am trying to explain to you my thought process since you were curious about what I am doing..."

"nikka I am just trying to make to see where money comes into equation..."

All you can do is just

Being an introvert sucks because the default way of the world is external motivation and people really don't get how internal motivation works.

Parents: What you wanna do with your life....

Introvert: Whatever I wanna do...

Parents: What is whatever you wanna do nikka...


Introvert: Exactly that...I just wanna be me...



All you gotta do is make it and you can make your world...I am just trying to make it to that point where external motivation is minimal in my life

That's really the goal of an introvert, to make his or her own world

 

[AlainLocke]

It's rough cause I really stopped giving a shyt.

Like I'm really just one step away from changing my name to Boo Radley and going to live in a shack in the woods with a wifi signal and a bunch of books.

I stopped giving a shyt too...and I be talking about disappearing all the time.

I really am close to getting a one way ticket to Cambodia or some shyt and just living my life backpacking through SouthEast Asia, smuggling heroin to make ends meet.


But I have a lifeline, but if this shyt fails...I am outta here

 

[eastsideTT]

I stopped giving a shyt too...and I be talking disappearing all the time.

I really am close to getting a one way ticket to Cambodia or some shyt and just living my life backpacking through SouthEast Asia, smuggling heroin to make ends meet.


But I have a lifeline, but if this shyt fails...I am outta here

Read that book I mentioned dude, let me know what you think. im serious

 

[AlainLocke]

Read that book I mentioned dude, let me know what you think. im serious

Yeah bro...Ima read it actually googled it and looking for it right now.

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

Naw you thiink extroverts are more happy because they are more vocal when they are happy. I know too many people, introverts and extroverts, going though life confused and unsatisfied. Plenty of introverts in the world fulfilled tho. They just not letting everybody know b.

 

[parallax]

To the fellow introvert brehs...(not the socially awkward motherfukkers that can't operate social mores...I mean introverts)

You have to understand something about being an introvert...it's not just about how you respond to people, but it's also has to do with motivation.

You are internally motivated. Extroverts are externally motivated.

You as an introvert wanna take your inner world and impose it on the "real" world and extroverts wanna change the outer world to their will.

The sad thing is...this is world is built and made for extroverts. Everything in this world is about external motivation.

Nobody really asks what you want and what you would like to do, they tell you what you want and what you should do. It's bad for introverts...it's a shytty way to live.

But it is fine for extroverts, that's how they normally function.

They see a shiny new car...they want it. They see the baddest bytch or the sexiest man alive...they want it. They see the biggest house in the neighborhood, they want it. They get told the highest grade a student can achieve, they want it. They get told what best college in the world is, they want to get into it.

And when they get the shyt...they feel like they achieved something.

Introverts aren't motivated like that. Introverts are motivated by "becoming". An evolution of our character or being...which has a physical manifestation in the outer world. Which is why we gravitate towards art and science and even sports. Mastering yourself and your craft has a physical manifestation.

Prime an example of an introvert is Kobe Bryant. Watch his interviews and how he approached basketball. He's a fukking introvert.

But there's hardly anytime or space for this...since we are in an extroverted world and we are ultimately made to conform to being extroverted while the more talented of us get into fields like the sciences and the arts and sports...where we can be introverted.

So getting the nice car, the big house, the baddest bytch or sexiest man, the highest grade, going to best college..it doesn't make us fulfilled...don't get me wrong...it's nice, it feeds our ego...but we wouldn't be fulfilled...


So while you are unhappy as fukk being pushed along the extroversion path which starts at elementary school..you think something is wrong with you...you don't feel anything...you feel dead...you aren't motivated to do anything.

You overwhelm yourself with physical sensations...

You overeat or you overexercise

You masturbate a lot or you become promiscuous

You do drugs

You immerse yourself into fantasy worlds via videogames or television...where you can drift away into your inner world


Or even worse...

You end up like Van Gogh...locking yourself away and surrendering yourself to the craft of your choosing at the expense of everything else. Which is cool in some masochistic way...but who wants to starve and paint all day


Find a way to break away from the extroversion. Find a way not to conform. Find your path. Resist extroversion, find your internal motivation and listen to it and pursue it.

this is the realest shyt to me. i feel so broken sometimes just going through the motions. its so tiring.

 

[AlainLocke]

That's basically what you just did. What extroverts want outta life doesn't invalidate what introverts want. You also assume that being an introvert is a shirty way to live. I'd say the opposite. Extroverts constantly need validation, admiration, attention and approval from others or they'll fall apart. Introverts can draw this all from within and keep it pushing. I actually find extroverts to be mentally weaker when faced with adversity too.

Naw you thiink extroverts are more happy because they are more vocal when they are happy. I know too many people, introverts and extroverts, going though life confused and unsatisfied. Plenty of introverts in the world fulfilled tho. They just not letting everybody know b.

I am not saying introverts can't be happier...nor am I saying it is a shytty a way to live. I am saying the world as it is...is picture perfect for an extrovert and kinda shytty for an introvert.

I am saying introversion is not valued in society like extroversion is.

How common is self-directed learning, self-given performance evaluations and grades?

How common is worker-managed places of employment?

Our world is governed by external motivations. Someone gives you a homework assignment. Somebody gives you a work project. You are always working to please someone else or satisfy someone else's criteria of success under the threat of punishment from an external factor.

An introvert is internally motivated and first and foremost is independently driven. We don't need to be handheld and have a carrot on a stick to walk us through life. We want to be able to go do what we wanna do.

A lot of times we don't even have a chance to figure out what we would actually like to do since we spend so satisfying the criteria of other people.

Extroverts wants something to manipulate outside of themselves, they find excitement and fulfillment going out there and reaching goals and attaining status by satisfying external motivations and introverts don't care for that.

For an introvert...we might get achieve goals and attain status on the way to our evolution in our character.


The more talented of us, find places of employment and lifestyles that fits an introvert more. Take those in art and science and sports. People like Kobe, Kanye West (what happens when an introvert just loses his fukking mind to his ego), and Prince (the eccentric introvert). Or Stephen Hawkings. Or Warren Buffet. Or Barack Obama

Or the countless of other non-famous introverts in fields.

Like I said in the OP, a prime example of an introvert is Kobe Bryant. I am pretty sure Kobe Bryant is happy with his life. All he wanted to do is be very good at basketball. All he wanted to do is fukk around with a basketball. Basketball was a way to become who he is. It was self-discovery. Basketball wasn't about..."Yeah, I'ma become rich and famous off this shyt and buy million dollar cars..."

How many of us introverts have that opportunity as normal people? Like I am sure a lot of us...play a video game or some shyt that gives us that feeling. Like all those people that play League and shyt 24/7 because that's the only way they can feel fulfilled as human beings is living vicariously through a virtual character. And then we get roasted for it.

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

I am not saying introverts can't be happier...nor am I saying it is a shytty a way to live. I am saying the world as it is...is picture perfect for an extrovert and kinda shytty for an introvert.

I am saying introversion is not valued in society like extroversion is.

How common is self-directed learning, self-given performance evaluations and grades?

How common is worker-managed places of employment?

Our world is governed by external motivations. Someone gives you a homework assignment. Somebody gives you a work project. You are always working to please someone else or satisfy someone else's criteria of success under the threat of punishment from an external factor.

An introvert is internally motivated and first and foremost is independently driven. We don't need to be handheld and have a carrot on a stick to walk us through life. We want to be able to go do what we wanna do.

A lot of times we don't even have a chance to figure out what we would actually like to do since we spend so satisfying the criteria of other people.

Extroverts wants something to manipulate outside of themselves, they find excitement and fulfillment going out there and reaching goals and attaining status by satisfying external motivations and introverts don't care for that.

For an introvert...we might get achieve goals and attain status on the way to our evolution in our character.


The more talented of us, find places of employment and lifestyles that fits an introvert more. Take those in art and science and sports. People like Kobe, Kanye West (what happens when an introvert just loses his fukking mind to his ego), and Prince (the eccentric introvert). Or Stephen Hawkings. Or Warren Buffet. Or Barack Obama

Or the countless of other non-famous introverts in fields.

Like I said in the OP, a prime example of an introvert is Kobe Bryant. I am pretty sure Kobe Bryant is happy with his life. All he wanted to do is be very good at basketball. All he wanted to do is fukk around with a basketball. Basketball was a way to become who he is. It was self-discovery. Basketball wasn't about..."Yeah, I'ma become rich and famous off this shyt and buy million dollar cars..."

How many of us introverts have that opportunity as normal people? Like I am sure a lot of us...play a video game or some shyt that gives us that feeling. Like all those people that play League and shyt 24/7 because that's the only way they can feel fulfilled as human beings is living vicariously through a virtual character. And then we get roasted for it.

Naw you still wrong b.

The world is perfect for introverts now.

Never before could you work from home on a laptop, send emails instead of cold calling and going door to door to make money.

Post on an online forum and talk to other introverts

Get whatever you needed, delivered to your doorstep

If you aren't fulfilled, it's not because of the world.

It's because you don't understand yourself. Dont confuse depression/soul searching for introversion.

 

[semtex]

Ima order wings tonight

 

[Regular Developer]

Naw you still wrong b.

The world is perfect for introverts now.

Never before could you work from home on a laptop, send emails instead of cold calling and going door to door to make money.

Post on an online forum and talk to other introverts

Get whatever you needed, delivered to your doorstep

If you aren't fulfilled, it's not because of the world.

It's because you don't understand yourself. Dont confuse depression/soul searching for introversion.

Gotta agree with this. I did engineering in school, and hung out and went to class with some of the most introverted set of people you can ever be around. We were all pretty upbeat, aside from the fact that school was kicking our ass, lol.

I remember for our game design class, it was like 11 pm on a friday, we were all in the computer lab just sippin beer, working on our assignments.

 

[TillWeDie]

Subs, I'm in the same boat