Why is dressing modest or expected to when you're in a relationship seen as controllling?

[wickedsm]

You didn't answer my question

if it will make his partner happier to compromise i dont think its too much to ask.
i dont find it to be a big intrusion on your life liberty and justice as a man to not be able to wear sweatpants out of the house
any more than i think its a big intrusion on your life liberty and justice as a woman to not wear a freak em dress to the grocery store.

thats just me though.
it depends on what is being asked of your partner [is it reasonable and actionable]
and how much you value your relationship.

 

[Neuromancer]

And this is why you won't end up 30+, single, and bitter. You're husband material

Oh I doubt that would have happened anyway. My dad was a player until he passed at 66. (Unrelated to his player ways.) Thank you though.

 

[Piffiztheanswer]

Another thing guys. We need to respect women who dress modestly and treat them well. I don't mean simp. But she is telling you something with her modesty she respects her own form and values it as essential to giving life. Treat it as such. Don't pump and dump these women don't disrespect them because they are showing respect to themselves and while they're with you they respect you as a man by keeping what they offer to you only for you. cherish these women men, honor them as they honor you.

Co-sign!

 

[Neuromancer]

if it will make his partner happier to compromise i dont think its too much to ask.
i dont find it to be a big intrusion on your life liberty and justice as a man to not be able to wear sweatpants out of the house
any more than i think its a big intrusion on your life liberty and justice as a woman to not wear a freak em dress to the grocery store.

thats just me though.
it depends on what is being asked of your partner [is it reasonable and actionable]
and how much you value your relationship.

What grown man wants to walk around wearing sweat pants all day? That shyt just seems wrong.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

if it will make his partner happier to compromise i dont think its too much to ask.
i dont find it to be a big intrusion on your life liberty and justice as a man to not be able to wear sweatpants out of the house
any more than i think its a big intrusion on your life liberty and justice as a woman to not wear a freak em dress to the grocery store.

thats just me though.
it depends on what is being asked of your partner [is it reasonable and actionable]
and how much you value your relationship.

But should it be automatically done as OP implied women should do?

 

[Gimini00]

im far from being a "traditional" women, but I don't understand why so many women get upset about this. Why would you want to bring attention to yourself from men who are not your boyfriend when you're in a relationship?

To me, a women who dresses provocatively like she's in the club regularly gives off the vibe she's seeking a partner. A women who dresses modest, does not.

This entire generation of women and feminists have no concept of respect or compromise.

No wonder divorce rates are growing and relationships are looked at so cynically. Bunch of child like minded individuals in relationships who think it's cool to act the same as a single people

Dressing modestly out of respect for your man (and yourself) is fine. If you don't want to compromise or tweak something about what you do for your partner (as long as it's healthy) then stay single.

These dumb ass feminists gonna end up 45 single and lonely asking themselves what happened or blaming patriarchy cause of their pride and ego

She was already dressed like that before she met you, if you were against her way of dressing, you shouldn't be with her in the first place. So the man is the dumb one thinking he can force someone to change his way because he doesn't like that. It's like you fall in love with a stripper and you mad because she doesn't want to quit her job, is that her fault ? You found her in the strip club in the first place, so why you mad ? Same thing for a girl you find in a club dressing like a hoe, the first time you've met she was already dressed like that, so why you're mad ? It wouldn't be a problem if you chose someone that match your criteria.

 

[StarGirl]

Women, if you are ashamed of your bodies, there are things that can be done. 2017 will be here soon and there will be gym membership discounts.

Love and light :*

Is he from East New York? Cause it sounds like a generalization a white supremacist would make.

How would I know? @The Grendel , let's not fight.

p.s. Isn't ENY gentrifying?

 

[Neuromancer]

But should it be automatically done as OP implied women should do?

What man wants to walk around in sweat pants in the street? Looking like he has no where to go but the Landry?

 

[Malt-O-Meal]

What grown man wants to walk around wearing sweat pants all day? That shyt just seems wrong.

The first thought that came to mind after reading this was Kevin Hart's father lol.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

What man wants to walk around in sweat pants in the street? Looking like he has no where to go but the Landry?

I never said anything about sweatpants. I talked about fitted clothing.

 

[Neuromancer]

Women, if you are ashamed of your bodies, there are things that can be done. 2017 will be here soon and there will be gym membership discounts.

Love and light :*



How would I know? @The Grendel , let's not fight.

p.s. Isn't ENY gentrifying?

Yes and no. I have fam out there and it's still hot. All I'm saying is that's not very "black" of you to say.

 

[wickedsm]

But should it be automatically done as OP implied women should do?

i dont know if the clothing thing should or shouldnt necessarily be done automatically
i do believe we all make adjustments transitioning from single to coupled, may not be clothing
may be any number of things.

if it works for her to automatically adjust that works for her
some people will and some people wont

as long as the 2 people in the couple are satisfied thats all that matters.

 

[Neuromancer]

I never said anything about sweatpants. I talked about fitted clothing.

You mean tight clothes? Oh yeah just wear regular clothes that are your size. I'm a 30-32 waist so I dress accordingly. Also you can get testicular issues if your pants are too tight. Muscle shirts are dumb anyway. Who wears them but Albainians?

 

[StarGirl]

Yes and no. I have fam out there and it's still hot. All I'm saying is that's not very "black" of you to say.

Check the user's thing. Idk what it's called because I don't post on thecoli enough. His "Reppin" says East New York. Like where yours says "Brooklyn, NY".

 

[Ronnie Lott]

I just want you to have some respect for your relationship