DropTopDoc
20/20 Vision With my Buffs On
Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right. Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.
Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.
I don’t pretend to know her, but it’s a pattern, and it’s either she’s shytty with money or she never has to pay for shyt my solution
Take a long hard look at her and your interactions (good and bad) and ask will it change because i say “i do” ???
Also while y’all out is she engaging? Or face down in her phone or taking selfies because that’s an issue too
Implement the Randy Ratio every 2 weeks we will go out on a date, and every 2 years we will take a big trip and on the years we not going big we can take a weekend trip somewhere. Now here’s the thing explain to her, we are both contributing to these trips (so if the flight plus hotel is 600 then you both put up 300, plus maybe a 100 each for eating) and tell her once a month she has to take you out.
If she balks at this arrangement run do not marry her because you will be in hell my guy
