Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??

[DropTopDoc]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

I don’t pretend to know her, but it’s a pattern, and it’s either she’s shytty with money or she never has to pay for shyt my solution

Take a long hard look at her and your interactions (good and bad) and ask will it change because i say “i do” ???

Also while y’all out is she engaging? Or face down in her phone or taking selfies because that’s an issue too


Implement the Randy Ratio every 2 weeks we will go out on a date, and every 2 years we will take a big trip and on the years we not going big we can take a weekend trip somewhere. Now here’s the thing explain to her, we are both contributing to these trips (so if the flight plus hotel is 600 then you both put up 300, plus maybe a 100 each for eating) and tell her once a month she has to take you out.

If she balks at this arrangement run do not marry her because you will be in hell my guy

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Reading shyt like this gives me PTSD and takes me back in time to when I was younger and tolerated women’s bullshyt with indifference and a dismissive “that’s just how women are” response instead of having dignity and valuing my time, serenity and peace of mind like the current, older, more mature me does now. Women are perpetually dissatisfied and bytching about something. They’re grown ass children, literally. They lack life perspective and need to be constantly stimulated and entertaineded. They have a hedonistic nature to constantly rack up “experiences“ and material possessions (via your dime, of course). They don’t have an appreciation for stillness and health and being debt free and quiet nights and shyt like men do as we age and gain clarity and maturity of what’s REALLY important in this simulation we call life. Just constant chaos and bullshyt. I made the decision to walk away from dating and trying to build with a woman around five years ago and have never been more content. At this stage in my life they are an unwanted and unneeded distraction from my growth and goals at this point…can’t see myself EVER being in another relationship again unless I meet someone TRULY unique and special. At this point, with the advent of social media influence and the scarcity of truly good women left, that seems highly unlikely and improbable

 

[The ADD]

Reading shyt like this gives me PTSD and takes me back in time to when I was younger and tolerated women’s bullshyt with indifference and a dismissive “that’s just how women are” response instead of having dignity and valuing my time, serenity and peace of mind like the current, older, more mature me does now. Women are perpetually dissatisfied and bytching about something. They’re grown ass children, literally. They lack life perspective and need to be constantly stimulated and entertaineded. They have a hedonistic nature to constantly rack up “experiences“ and material possessions (via your dime, of course). They don’t have an appreciation for stillness and health and being debt free and quiet nights and shyt like men do as we age and gain clarity and maturity of what’s REALLY important in this simulation we call life. Just constant chaos and bullshyt. I made the decision to walk away from dating and trying to build with a woman around five years ago and have never been more content. At this stage in my life they are an unwanted and unneeded distraction from my growth and goals at this point…can’t see myself EVER being in another relationship again unless I meet someone TRULY unique and special. At this point, with the advent of social media influence and the scarcity of truly good women left, that seems highly unlikely and improbable

Is it unlikely and improbable because you don’t date or there are no good women left?

 

[Max Power]

Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more.

Definition of POSTPONE

to put off to a later time : defer; to place later (as in a sentence) than the normal position in English; to place later in order of precedence, preference, or importance… See the full definition

www.merriam-webster.com

 

[3rdWorld]

Women dont go out to have fun, they go out to be seen and snap pictures to capture and preserve those fake moments.

 

[richaveli83]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Just going by what you said, is this the woman you want to be married to? Y'all just started living together and she's already getting on your nerves. If it's like that now when you're not married, imagine when you two get married.

 

[jay83]

Women dont go out to have fun, they go out to be seen and snap pictures to capture and preserve those fake moments.

Before social media I think women were way more appreciative.

 

[3rdWorld]

Before social media I think women were way more appreciative.

Everything was great before social media and having to videotape every occassion..

 

[im_sleep]

Boy I feel bad for you young brehs dating chicks raised on Instagram and shyt.

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

This is what capitalism puts the average man through.


You’re gonna have to either:

• Change her mindset over time while keeping her satisfied (toughest option).
• Tell her straight up you ain’t got it and put her to test. (realest option but don’t be surprised if you get your feelings hurt).
• Dump her (easiest option).

 

[jay83]

Everything was great before social media and having to videotape every occassion..

Even travel was different. People take trips literally for the gram. Before it was just for the love or curiosity.

 

[Uchiha God]

This shyt is responsible for many relationships ending (some of mine included)

No, I don’t want to fukking go on an excursion or adventure every fukking weekend. No, I don’t want to go out to see friends or your relatives. I been working all week, I just want to be home with a decent plate of food watching some bullshyt show or playing a fukking video game.

The worst part is you tell them they can go and you’ll be at the crib and they get offended for some reason and it sparks an argument



And everything is exacerbated now because they all in competition and comparing lives with their friends because of socials and expect you to do performative shyt

 

[DraymondT]

This a big reason why most Gen Z men not in relationships not just now but never been or doin anything wit women. Past generations of men knew it was annoying constantly having to do something with they women but it was socially expected and they just went along. There was also no internet for that time.

Gen Z first gen raised entirely in the internet age. Millennials the last that got a healthy dose of both worlds to know ins and outs of both. A lot of these Gen Z men just quit and said nah I ain't doing all that. Let me get to this vape, Internet porn, video games, streaming, anime. shyt a bytch wanna go out to eat? fukk that imma Doordash nikka wanna go out and see shyt? Go on ya Explore Page or YouTube or Tiktok that shyt can do so much without leavin house wit Internet and now we gettin AI and virtual reality ?

It's over

 

[Uchiha God]

the relationship is like 70/40. So she will pay sometimes.

you so stressed you getting your splits fukked up

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

Is it unlikely and improbable because you don’t date or there are no good women left?

I look at dating and finding a good woman like I do playing the lottery. I understand that I can’t win if I don’t play. I get it. But the statistical chances of me winning seems so overwhelmingly against me, I ask myself. Why play at all? If what I perceive to be a good woman comes across my path in my everyday activity, then sure. I’ll entertain her if shes displaying interest from her end. I just don’t have the energy or urge to play the game and go seeking THEM out. Just not where I’m at in life. I’ve made peace with the fact that I may spend the remainder of my life alone and I’ve learned to be ok with that

 

[The ADD]

I look at dating and finding a good woman like I do playing the lottery. I understand that I can’t win if I don’t play. I get it. But the statistical chances of me winning seems so overwhelmingly against me, I ask myself. Why play at all? If what I perceive to be a good woman comes across my path in my everyday activity, then sure. I’ll entertain her if shes displaying interest from her end. I just don’t have the energy or urge to play the game and go seeking THEM out. Just not where I’m at in life. I’ve made peace with the fact that I may spend the remainder of my life alone and I’ve learned to be ok with that