Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??

[JA_Carter]

This shyt is responsible for many relationships ending (some of mine included)

No, I don’t want to fukking go on an excursion or adventure every fukking weekend. No, I don’t want to go out to see friends or your relatives. I been working all week, I just want to be home with a decent plate of food watching some bullshyt show or playing a fukking video game.

The worst part is you tell them they can go and you’ll be at the crib and they get offended for some reason and it sparks an argument



And everything is exacerbated now because they all in competition and comparing lives with their friends because of socials and expect you to do performative shyt

Literally going through this right now smh social media has ruined dating. There’s a sense of entitlement and lack of gratitude even from ‘good’ women

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

I get lonely sometimes abd then remember going through shyt like this and be grateful


Thats another thing.. I don’t even feel like wasting the time going through the “Me, Mines, I” conversations they always have.



As an exercise… count how many times a chick will say “Me, Mines, or I” in one conversation.

If it’s over 20, she’s probably a narcissist and self-centered. Do this to anyone though.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

This thread is dead on.

My girl always trying to fill up every empty moment in the week, I'm like

We're going to Disneyland Wednesday for 4 hours, my friends are coming over tomorrow. Her dad's on Saturday. And she's always exhausted.


Told her one time. Don't plan shyt for this week. Tomorrow? Nothing. No I don't need to see my friends just fukking relax and chill for an afternoon.

She enjoyed that afternoon.

Nah, couldn’t do it.

Need a chick low-key and chill, not trying to be in faces face all week, especially during the week… I’m not that kind of dude either, I need space and privacy.

So single it is

 

[Born Rich]

She’s very ambitious, smart and is fun to be around. Good sense of humor, can cook. The sex is good. She doesn’t spend a lot of money on me, but the relationship is like 70/40. So she will pay sometimes. But once again, I don’t ask for shyt lmao. I would never ask her to take me shopping.

this is not enough reason to make her your wife, breh…

 

[Nokids]

Saw this last night and the comments are disgusting being “boring” or having no plans is the ultimate strike

TikTok - Make Your Day

fukk how you post this shyt lol

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Saw this last night and the comments are disgusting being “boring” or having no plans is the ultimate strike

TikTok - Make Your Day

fukk how you post this shyt lol

Yeah Breh, you weren’t lying. The comments in that thread

If my marriage doesn’t work out, I’m dying single. Overgrown children.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Saw this last night and the comments are disgusting being “boring” or having no plans is the ultimate strike

TikTok - Make Your Day

fukk how you post this shyt lol

I’m quoting the same post twice because those comments have really pissed me off. These ungrateful C U Next Tuesdays want to be “entertained” every damn second, when they themselves are boring.

If they had actual hobbies, they wouldn’t be complaining. Brehs are out here busting their ass, working 60 hour weeks to provide for their families. God forbid they want to come home and just relax.

But no… “how dare you expect dinner to be ready after a hard day at work. And you just want to relax afterwards and watch the game and play your PlayStation afterwards.”

Being responsible and a homebody is seen as an affront to these clowns. And they wonder why Andrew Tate and his ilk have a chokehold over young boys. It’s this kind of shyt that creates misogynist.

Women will watch a man work himself into ground and they’ll still complain, because they want “excitement”. Morons! I’m glad my missus isn’t like this. Shout out to the wives who appreciate stability over excitement.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Yeah Breh, you weren’t lying. The comments in that thread

If my marriage doesn’t work out, I’m dying single. Overgrown children.

And these motherfukkers be just as boring…


Trips? To fukk where? I don’t take trips like that unless I’m working or moving there.

Maybe once a year or something.. but these peoples idea of fun is this shyt and flossing like they spending money. Motherfukkers need hobbies or a real purpose in life or something.


Stats say most of these motherfukkers broke af too but social media showing them always on a “trip” somewhere. Or always living this “elite” and perfect life.

Where are all these “alpha” nikkas going with all these criminal records and shyt? I could’ve sworn thats not a real thing. So is it Vegas… again. Miami? I lived in Miami… I can move to Vegas and work tomorrow, Vegas isn’t special.

Let’s take a trip to scope out a place we can purchase property or land to build some shyt overseas. I never like to do something for just one reason. These people delusional af if this is the shyt making and breaking relationships.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

And these motherfukkers be just as boring…


Trips? To fukk where? I don’t take trips like that unless I’m working or moving there.

Maybe once a year or something.. but these peoples idea of fun is this shyt and flossing like they spending money. Motherfukkers need hobbies or a real purpose in life or something.


Stats say most of these motherfukkers broke af too but social media showing them always on a “trip” somewhere. Or always living this “elite” and perfect life.

Where are all these “alpha” nikkas going with all these criminal records and shyt? I could’ve sworn thats not a real thing. So is it Vegas… again. Miami? I lived in Miami… I can move to Vegas and work tomorrow, Vegas isn’t special.

Let’s take a trip to scope out a place we can purchase property or land to build some shyt overseas. I never like to do something for just one reason. These people delusional af if this is the shyt making and breaking relationships.

shyt, I’ve got time today.

Women HATE spending their own money. Especially on other people. Women don’t even like spending money on their female friends, even if they’ve known each other for decades.

Women want to be spoilt. They could earn six fighters, own homes, cars, take holidays but they won’t feel fulfilled unless another man is giving them that “soft life.”

Gifting themselves that new Mercedes doesn’t hit the same unless a man got it for them. They’ll lie on social media about a made up boyfriend taking them on vacation, buying them a Birkin… all for social media clout. I kid you not, this is extremely common.

This need for attention and validation from strangers is as close to mental illness as you can get. Social media has only exacerbated it. Society wants women in debt and to rack up experiences on a man’s dime. Why? “Because I’m bored.”

bytch, get a hobby, pick up knitting tools, fly a kite, read a book. Stop looking to tik tok to live vicariously through these vapid influencers.

I could go deeper but I’m this is already too many paragraphs.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

shyt, I’ve got time today.

Women HATE spending their own money. Especially on other people. Women don’t even like spending money on their female friends, even if they’ve known each other for decades.

Women want to be spoilt. They could earn six fighters, own homes, cars, take holidays but they won’t feel fulfilled unless another man is giving them that “soft life.”

Gifting themselves that new Mercedes doesn’t hit the same unless a man got it for them. They’ll lie on social media about a made up boyfriend taking them on vacation, buying them a Birkin… all for social media clout. I kid you not, this is extremely common.

This need for attention and validation from strangers is as close to mental illness as you can get. Social media has only exacerbated it. Society wants women in debt and to rack up experiences on a man’s dime. Why? “Because I’m bored.”

bytch, get a hobby, pick up knitting tools, fly a kite, read a book. Stop looking to tik tok to live vicariously through these vapid influencers.

I could go deeper but I’m this is already too many paragraphs.

Nah man, youre pretty much spot on with how a lot of logical men are feeling these days. I also notice my paragraphs increasing, but this shyt gets bottled up and people need releases.


And it is good that more men are waking up and becoming more aware. And these are the “80%” men these hoes claim they never want, even on here and the sister sites.

Awareness kills most of this bullshyt dead in it’s tracks, why do people think the wealthy and powerful hate education as much as they do?

Because for some people, they start becoming aware of things they weren’t aware of before and their minds just naturally begin to change.. all on its own. Things that don’t look, sound, and FEEL right becomes more noticeable.


And I agree. I have a recent story of me loaning my vehicle to my AA female coworker (as a friend, I felt for a lot of the things she was going through and this was one way I could help, even if it was small).

I loaned her my car for almost half a year. She kept up with it though, I trusted her for that. But the one thing I asked her to do, as a favor for my favor, was to pay for something I needed to do and couldn’t if she had the car.


Of course, it did not get done because it would’ve required her to spend money despite loaning the car for free. I did not make a big deal about it, gave her the benefit of the doubt because of her situations (and they always are in some kind of situation), but trust and believe that my subconscious mind put a pin in that with the type of person she might actually be.

Also, added reason why I will continue to not pursue anything outside of friendship.

 

[Morose Polymath]

Thread has truth to it, and some of the responses have hit close to home on the mentaility alot of self sufficient men take once the dating because cyclical.

Yeah, I recently had to cancel a relationship because I quickly realized we weren't on the same page on important issues and compromising was not an option. IIWII.

 

[Nokids]

Yeah Breh, you weren’t lying. The comments in that thread

If my marriage doesn’t work out, I’m dying single. Overgrown children.

Thank you fam! And yea I haven’t even found a wife and this shyt is scary as hell. I found out the real game be in the comments, these hoes don’t have diaries anymore and forgot that anyone can see them too.

Fellas if you meet a new woman and she doesn’t have any hobbies but TikTok.. RUN!!!!

 

[LadyJ2]

Yall need to make sure your wives/girlfriends have quality female friends or hook them up with your female relatives.

I stay outside but my husband is home like 50% of the time I am out. I don’t need him to entertain me I have friends.

Not thot friends but other committed, married women who won’t encourage them to act like bops when you’re not around.

 

[The Guru]

Like three year olds. I want to strap a tablet to her head and play a cocomelon playlist on this woman.

This thread is dead on.

My girl always trying to fill up every empty moment in the week, I'm like

We're going to Disneyland Wednesday for 4 hours, my friends are coming over tomorrow. Her dad's on Saturday. And she's always exhausted.


Told her one time. Don't plan shyt for this week. Tomorrow? Nothing. No I don't need to see my friends just fukking relax and chill for an afternoon.

She enjoyed that afternoon.

This. Want to do everything all the time at the same time -> Be tired and frustrated because of it -> Take it out on everybody around you -> Everybody loses
I want to get some headgear with a tablet strapped to it and run a cocomelon playlist on loop on em.

 

[Strapped]

Females luv spending money it makes them feel good