Why Is It That?

The Intergalactic Koala

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Folks that are struggling or on their last dollar are the ones that will go out of their way to for another person in the struggle? The reason why I ask this because of this video that showed up in my feed and my own personal experiences:



It legit blows me that the ones that never been there or not humble always toot their noses up at those that are in the struggle. Yet, those that are eating by candlelight or worse will go out of their way to hold you down. I remember my wife's sister damn near treating my wife like a absolute failure because the China situation did not go through, and even called the credit card companies to see her full balance right in front of her.

Hell, the landlord that gave us a chance (like literally...she had to beg the higher ups to get us in before our funds were depleted). Yet, other agencies tooted their noses at us because of the odd income that wasn't stable for the time. The simple fact that folks on here who don't know me from man to gimmick, help my family through the worst time of our lives, while friends and family pretty much abandoned us. It just seems like the world got colder and if you are down on your luck, you are assed out.

The video could be cap, but when ole boy pleaded his struggles to a complete stranger...the dude hit the "hell nah you a fukking man...fukk off with your dusty broke ass". Like how is this acceptable in a time where we need each other the most. Especially as black folks. To this day,

it kills me that folks from a hotel treated us more like family, than those that were our own family. One lady that prayed over our family to get out of the car and into a house versus the shelters that caught attitudes because we were in a disaster. The "pawg" and her mother giving my family and I 20 dollars to get something to eat from Burger King because I was a few dollars short (square biz, I was going to eat four pizza rolls in the freezer, while my wife and son had the dollar menu). The lady that was damn near in the grave (MS) took every single dollar she had and gave my family and I some money, clothes, and gas money to hit up Koalabama, only for the c*nt of my wife's former boss telling her that she could not go because of bullshyt (we left anyway when she fired my wife because the company kept her money hostage while we were damn near on the verge of homelessness in GA).

I know this seems like a crazy rant and I'm not in gimmick *human hacking my account I guess*, but the pandemic, my struggles, and what I seen throughout the years just made me realize that if you are not humble to the woes of another, you will never grow spiritually in life.
 

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My wife and I have always been giving people and we weren't really doing the best financially. It mostly to family and friends and we have always tried to look out for homeless brothers and sisters.

After a while, helping family and friends led us to being down and out and none of the folks we helped were there for us. To me, that's a lesson learned, but it took my wife a much longer time to start being more selective with our help.

We still look out for the homeless and donate to causes we believe in, but it's seldom that we just hand over money to family, especially ones we don't hear from until they need something.

In your case, you were upfront about what you and your family were going through and how it got to that point. People were able to vouch for you and so I had no issues donating to help you out and I'm glad I did it.
 

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My wife and I have always been giving people and we weren't really doing the best financially. It mostly to family and friends and we have always tried to look out for homeless brothers and sisters.

After a while, helping family and friends led us to being down and out and none of the folks we helped were there for us. To me, that's a lesson learned, but it took my wife a much longer time to start being more selective with our help.

We still look out for the homeless and donate to causes we believe in, but it's seldom that we just hand over money to family, especially ones we don't hear from until they need something.

In your case, you were upfront about what you and your family were going through and how it got to that point. People were able to vouch for you and so I had no issues donating to help you out and I'm glad I did it.

Trust. My wife used to give out money off of GP. Even during our last dollar, she was in the upfront involving family and etc. Same with I. I remember doing every and anything for folks from giving away a computer to buying a candy bar because they were hungry. I never asked for anything back, even during my tighter times. I know what it means when folks keep asking and asking, but no progression on their end. My wife learned that so quick when we were living in the hotel. She used to asked her folks and friends for money to helped during our hotel living. While "asked and you shall received", her family treated the situation like it was our fault. Nevermind, my wife damn near putting our funds in a bind two summers ago to see her family (and they didn't even bothered to give a shyt about her renting a car with half of the hotel funds). Its "why my BAbY iN A hOtEl". It never crossed their minds that my wife and even I were trying. Especially with the trip overseas to HELP OUT FOLKS IN NEED:mindblown:

It just feels like cynicism is at a all time high. The whole "I got it and fukk you" mentality becoming the motto of these dire moments. All I know is that once we get to a higher place (the process is trust), we are going to lead by example of helping out those that need it the most despite having it all. I dunno why that video bothered the hell out of me, but it just disheartening to see folks being on some "you a grown ass human...you better holla at a blood bank". When you do not even know the breh's struggle. I had folks tell us to try a blood bank and we damn near wasted gas money just to be told "oh you got to be a resident" and yadda yadda.

Hell, my wife's could have been co worker hit us with that whole "I worked as a waitress and bootstraps" bullshyt. She never been in the shoes of somebody willing to take them off, so it was easy for her to say such things, than being like...I'm going to make sure you will never go through this ever again.
 

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Whether I was poor or rich I always give to random gofundme's, homeless people, charity, etc. I just always had it in me to share the wealth whether I had it or not. I even cashapped some bread to someone on here who needed clothes for a job interview. Coulda been a scam but that's not my concern since I gave out of the kindness of my heart which is all that matters.

I feel the same whenever I give to homeless people as well. Some people say, "oh they're gonna spend it on liquor and drugs". I'm like nikka if I was homeless and sad I'd be spending my bread on liquor and drugs too fukk u talmbout :mjlit:
 

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Whether I was poor or rich I always give to random gofundme's, homeless people, charity, etc. I just always had it in me to share the wealth whether I had it or not. I even cashapped some bread to someone on here who needed clothes for a job interview. Coulda been a scam but that's not my concern since I gave out of the kindness of my heart which is all that matters.

I feel the same whenever I give to homeless people as well. Some people say, "oh they're gonna spend it on liquor and drugs". I'm like nikka if I was homeless and sad I'd be spending my bread on liquor and drugs too fukk u talmbout :mjlit:


Reminds me of this time this homeless dude approached my wife for money. Before she even reached in her wallet, dude was like "aye miss...I'm not going to lie, I am going to use the money to get me some alcohol". Breh, I would had taken him to the nearest ATM and tell him to pick a number. My mans was about goals and honesty :deadrose:
 

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In the last 60 days

Paid like $1400 for a hotel in Miami for moms

Sent my lil cousin $400 cause I found out he had to call his mom for some money

Gave 3k to my partner so he wouldn’t lose a business opportunity he been working for a while to get.

nikkas can’t tell me about charitable contributions lol

At the end of the day you got tighten up out here. Either you gonna be the one helping or the one needing help. Ain’t nobody obligated to help you out here. It’s a cruel world.
 
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