there are 3 factors that contribute to the state that we are in now regarding relationships:
- the inception of birth control in 1960
- the "no fault" divorce
- having children out of wedlock/being a single mother is no longer taboo
before birth control, the horror of conceiving without being married curbed a lot of pre-marital/causal sex. it still happened, but people were EXTRA careful not to get pregnant or they just had sex to conceive. when birth contorl came out, so did the idea that casual sex was ok. with casual sex came experimentation. with experimentation came curiosity more and more women wanting to experience sex with people other than their partners. with them being on birth control, the scare of getting pregnant during an extra-marital affair was pretty much eliminated. Pre 1960s, women were stepford wives. stay at home, take care of the house and kids, make sure dinner was on the table, take care of husband when he gets home. which brings me to my next point...
the no fault divorce. before the no fault divorce, you had to jump through millions of hoops and fight through mounds of red tape to get unhitched. it was so difficult that most married couples just toughed out the hard times and stayed together. that's why so many of our parents (for older heads here), grandparents, and great grandparents were married so 30, 40, and 50 years plus. this was not because they were soul mates and they loved each other unconditionally. it was because divorce was a hassle. someone had to be at fault to actually get a divorce. now, you can get a divorce for no reason whatsoever. not getting along? divorce. disconnected? divorce. hubby cant put his shoes in the closet and keeps leaving them in the living room? divorce. and on and on and on.... marriage takes work, but people are lazy. we are living in a microwave society. people want instant gratification, and if they can't get it NOW, they divorce and move on. social networking makes it ridiculously easy to do dirt. shyt, technology period makes it easy to do dirt. since everything else is easy, why shouldn't a divorce be? and with divorce comes the breakdown of family structure, leaving tons of single mothers. which brings me to my next point...
having children out of wedlock/being a single mother is no longer taboo. back in the day (70's and before), it was absolutely unacceptable for a woman to have a kid if she wasn't married. if she did, she was a whore, and most likely, the dude that knocked her up was FORCED to marry her or he was getting his ass kicked by the dudes in her family AND the dudes in his family. but now, people are more surprised to find out that a chick DOESN'T have kids. it's so commonplace now, that single mother households have replaced the traditional nuclear family as the norm. it was almost impossible to run from your responsibilities to your family back in the gap. it was a HORRIBLE thing if you did, and NOBODY would cosign that. you would become an outcast. now, it's a badge of honor. men get multiple women pregnant, deny all kids, and get a guest spot on the Maury show. women have sex with so many men and get pregnant and can't even figure out which man is her baby's father. she also gets a spot on the Maury show (as well as child support, govt. assistance, housing, food stamps, reduced cost electric bills, free cell phone service, etc.) who is hurt in the end? the kids and the family structure.
you want to know why women (or people in general) cheat? because is acceptable to do so. people only do what's allowed, and society has told us that being promiscuous, having single mother households, getting divorced, and just being all around selfish is ok. if you watch tv, surf the net, or just observe your surroundings, you'll see that i'm right. and it all starts with attitudes towards sex. easy isn't always better. if you have to work for something, it becomes that much more valuable. nothing has any value anymore. everything is too easy.
aaight, i'm finished. my carpal tunnel syndrome is acting up right now...gotta fall back from the typing for a minute...
this shyt had some pain behind it
...
v!ct!m.... ! put !t !n my s!g but maybe ! need to just need to say !t aga!n...
