Ay we on the same page lmao
It may be crass but the best way I can explain it is I simply can’t be motivated to really…give my all…eh hem If I’m not attracted.
That’s why I be joking around but serious in those gym threads. I know what it feels like when the world treats you completely differently when you are fit vs not. It’s life changing for a woman, and I know it’s the same for men because fine men live life on easy mode too.
So yea character and intelligence are certainly more important and consequential, but the first thing ppl see/encounter is our looks and I know it’s the first thing that gets me fired up so why be delusional about it.