Will facing your fears cause them to subside?

[Music Fiend]

Coli bruhs,

Here's a topic I'm really interested in. We all have fears and insecurities. Whither that is that you won't make it where you want to be, fear itself, losing your parents, falling off, not being successful, making the wrong choice.


I'm terrified of change, and moving on in life. I'm terrified of not being the man I think I am/ can be. chasing what I really desire and failing, making a fool of myself. I can't take sitting in the same place, I want to be uncomfortable and grow but it seems like I can't. I care too much what people think and I'm not confident/good enough in my abilities to reach my goals yet so i avoid taking action.

How do you face fears that are opinion based? For example, what if I wanted to become an author, perhaps I love writing but I feel like I'm terrible at it. Let's say I write every night for years, but still feel like what I write is stupid and laughable. Other may say it's ok, but I feel like they are laughing behind my back

Will facing your fears cause them to go away? Are you supposed to take a leap of faith since you'll never be ready and expect just to do well enough? Give me some personal examples too.
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If one were to just go after what they want and leave what they have behind, will that fear of making a big mistake ever fade? How do you stop caring about what others think? (parents, friends, significant others).

 

[old_timer]

this is a topic where a lot of people have gotten rich
writing books and doing seminars
but the honest answer is that you either have it or you don't

social boldness
i'm innately self-assured
it was something i was born with
for better or worse (because there are big downsides to it, too)

you can develop your self-confidence a bit
just like i had to learn to back off and play the background sometimes
but we can't really change who we are

you are too thin skinned to be a writer
pick something else

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

Fear creates danger. Courage dispels it.

 

[Music Fiend]

You may be right brehs

I'm innately self-assured in things I feel I have an internal compass for.

I may be able to read a book and know "this is good". But when I write, things seem like a good idea, hell i may even feel good about it. Then I get other opinions and they aren't what I thought they'd be since I'd expect em to be like this is amazing bruh. Most of the time it's that i'm overdoing it.

Honestly I'm a bit narcisistic in that I honestly believe I can do anything, but the following through with being a perfectionist is hard. Especially when you feel something is dope then you find out they aren't feeling it. So for me my own perfectionism causes me to lack confidence is some areas because I want to be the best.

I guess the point in asking is like if you're a musician/artist/author how important is being good?

Like should one put effort in making whatever they feel, without trying to make it perfect/outside opinions and release it into the world? Wouldn't that be courageous? Feeling the fear and doing it anyway.... I'm just not sure if you release a couple bad projects you feel are good, then who will take you seriously....

 

[JasonSJackson]

Fear is a manifestion of your mind.

Once you stop manifesting it you will stop fearing it.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Yes it helps a lot. I've faced most my fears just so i can say to myself *you're a man*

Every day i go train brazillian jiujitsu i have to face my fears and go.

 

[Music Fiend]

Word! I'm not even sure why id be afriad to put my work out there. I thnk its cu I dont respect the grind and process and want everything to go great first time around. Because I know if I try and it goes wrong and I try more, ultinately ill feel that I've failed myself and my dream.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Fear creates danger. Courage dispels it.

Fear is a manifestion of your mind.

Once you stop manifesting it you will stop fearing it.

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

You appear scurred, breh.

 

[Trillion]

yes

 

[Music Fiend]

Word. Preciate ya bruhs for looking out, Ima stop over thinking and just start putting my work out there. Not sure how I'll grow without others letting me know if someting is good or bad but I guess doing something is better than being stagnant.