Woman crushed by online dating -Asks Reddit Am I Ugly? (PHOTOS)(Update: she joined the coli pg 88)

[mamba]

So black men and black women are equally yoked.

Most Black women would say no, because most Black men don't go to church!

 

[mamba]

And you are making that judgment based on what? How do you know these elite black men are passing up elite black women due to what black women lack?

How do you know they aren't. I'm an elite Black man. I just recently left an elite Black woman on Bush Avenue because she lacked the basics. She had everything else: degrees, fat ass, nice car, a house. But, she lacked the basics; namely, a pleasant attitude. The basics are key for an elite man with options. I'm telling you how men think. It's up to you to listen or to continue to cover your ears and ignore it.

 

[GiGi]

This is a human characteristic, we're different, we don't always recognize each other's struggle. However, if that struggle is a catalyst for bitterness and hostility, we just stop caring, especially when other options don't come with such baggage.

Other options = More chill black women, or women of difference ethnic backgrounds.

Point is, there really shouldn't be a pattern, yet, a lot of grown black women behave in similar ways.

Not cool.

Which leads me to another observation. Black men are far more willing to deal with unfeminine, shrill, nagging, loud, aggressive, abusive non-black women. Please explain why this is acceptable....as long as the woman is not black.

 

[mamba]

Actually you seem to have all the answers, so you tell me.

I'm not a woman. Why are some Black women bitter?

 

[Yup]

No one deserves anyone. No one is entitled to anyone. You get what you put in the work to get.

If Black women aren't getting what they want in a man, it's probably because they're not putting in the work to get it. That means working on the basics all men desire in a woman. It's not complicated.

If a black offers nothing and black women offer nothing then they are equally yoked. You are equating a man that has a professinal job as elite

Black women also fail to understand what Black men go through. We get the blanket "nikkas ain't shyt", "there are no good Black men" rhetoric.

I see far more understanding from black women than black men

 

[Yup]

I'm not a woman. Why are some Black women bitter?

Right you are not a woman.

 

[mamba]

Which leads me to another observation. Black men are far more willing to deal with unfeminine, shrill, nagging, loud, aggressive, abusive non-black women. Please explain why this is acceptable....as long as the woman is not black.

Correction: Pathetic Black men deal with those types of women. A solid Black man isn't going to deal with that out of a woman.

Those types of nikkas wouldn't be the type of men a Black woman would want anyway, so it's no loss for Black women.

The bigger question is: why do Black women accept certain personality types out non-Black men that keeps their pussies dry when exhibited by Black men?

 

[mamba]

If a black offers nothing and black women offer nothing then they are equally yoked. You are equating a man that has a professinal job as elite

I see far more understanding from black women than black men

Which is why an average person should be fine with settling with an average person. We need more of that in the Black community. We can build more families and stronger communities if people would just be realistic in what they really bring to the table. A Black man working as a plumber isn't expecting to snag a Michelle Obama. But, a Black women working at a call center thinks she's worthy of a Barack Obama. That plumber dude and call center chick should just settle down and start building wealth.

 

[GiGi]

Those women tend to come from patriarchal cultures, something the negro wench feminists are staunchly against, hence the paradox.

Foolish Black women want to smash the patriarchy, yet still want men to give them traditional treatment!

Not a feminist nor "negro wench" (which, btw, underscores your TRUE feeling about black women in general) but black women have no choice about the black community being a matriarchy (or a weak patriarchy) because the black men have vacated their duties. That is a direct reflection on the men.

I come from a household in which my father (grandfathers and uncles) protected me so I expect nothing less in my romantic relationships. And the men that I have dated/been in relationships come from backgrounds in which it is NATURAL for them to protect the woman in their life.

 

[GiGi]

Correction: Pathetic Black men deal with those types of women. A solid Black man isn't going to deal with that out of a woman.

Those types of nikkas wouldn't be the type of men a Black woman would want anyway, so it's no loss for Black women.

The bigger question is: why do Black women accept certain personality types out non-Black men that keeps their pussies dry when exhibited by Black men?

Please expound.

 

[AntiVenom]

No one deserves anyone. No one is entitled to anyone. You get what you put in the work to get.

If Black women aren't getting what they want in a man, it's probably because they're not putting in the work to get it. That means working on the basics all men desire in a woman. It's not complicated.

Cognitive dissonance wont allow them to accept that reality.

Correction: Pathetic Black men deal with those types of women. A solid Black man isn't going to deal with that out of a woman.

Those types of nikkas wouldn't be the type of men a Black woman would want anyway, so it's no loss for Black women.

The bigger question is: why do Black women accept certain personality types out non-Black men that keeps their pussies dry when exhibited by Black men?

 

[Yup]

Which is why an average person should be fine with settling with an average person. We need more of that in the Black community. We can build more families and stronger communities if people would just be realistic in what they Pi thoureally bring to the table. A Black man working as a plumber isn't expecting to snag a Michelle Obama. But, a Black women working at a call center thinks she's worthy of a Barack Obama. That plumber dude and call center chick should just settle down and start building wealth.

I thought you weren't a woman.

 

[mamba]

Not a feminist nor "negro wench" (which, btw, underscores your TRUE feeling about black women in general) but black women have no choice about the black community being a matriarchy (or a weak patriarchy) because the black men have vacated their duties. That is a direct reflection on the men.

I come from a household in which my father (grandfathers and uncles) protected me so I expect nothing less in my romantic relationships. And the men that I have dated/been in relationships come from backgrounds in which it is NATURAL for them to protect the woman in their life.

Black men didn't vacate anything. We've been at war with other men for a a few centuries, now. We've been on the losing end, but to say that Black men willingly vacated our roles as leaders is lame as fukk.

I'd expect that out of a white racist conservative. Would you say that Jewish men vacated their duties when they failed to protect their women from the Nazis? Would you say Palestinian men vacate their duties when they fail to stop Israeli bombs from falling on their heads?

 

[Yup]

Cognitive dissonance wont allow them to accept that reality.

Actually that dissonance has been displayed more times by the men on this site.

 

[AntiVenom]

Actually that dissonance has been displayed more times by the men on this site.

Cute deflection. Lets see you address points and stay on topic.