Woman quick pays her unemployed boyfriend to cover their meal. So he marries her 💍

[Peachstate]

Soft life ladies, I hope y'all are taking notes in this thread. All you need to do is swoop in and save the day one time.

 

[AQz]

Unpopular opinion but this seems stupid. Why not plan ahead.

Like how are we going to pay for this? They were going on a double date. It wasn’t a random bump into people outside and let’s go eat thing.

What she did was nice but this could’ve been handled ahead of time.

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

My cousin lost his job. When he got home from a day of interviews, his fiancé was sitting in the living room. She asked him could they go talk in the kitchen. When they got in there, some dude was in there and she went back in the living room like a To Catch A Predator decoy. The dude basically told my cousin to step aside and get himself together and that he will be taking over from there. He promised that she didnt contact him til after he lost his job, so it wasnt any cheating going on.

 

[Sterling Archer]

Because she knew she was paying and wanted the meal to be as cheap as possible,

 

[Scaaar]

Cant flip that story around lol. She said he was always the provider and he said when i get myself together, I'm going to marry you.

I Personally don't think that independent woman shyt is even that major of a statement. If your significant other isn't independent or doesn't possess any of those characteristics, you might just be their caretaker instead of boy/girlfriend

Yeah. If the woman you're talking to claims that they're independent but you're supporting their lifestyle and they can't function without you. That means they're lying to themselves

 

[number21]

Props on her being supportive. I hope they work out.

 

[Sterling Archer]

Now that I think more about it...that shyt feels manipulative.

But hey, it worked

It definitely was. HER friend and her bf are coming into town and want to go out but your bf is conserving his m on by because he’s hit a rough patch. If she knew she was going to pay (which she should, since he don’t know these people) then she could’ve just told him “I’m hosting my friends tonight so don’t worry about the check). Instead she let him gas her up for paying for something she SHOULDVE paid for.

I ain’t mad at her either. Respect the game. She definitely finessed him if this is what locked him in

 

[The Realist Perspective]

This is a great story. But you see how little women have to do? Lmao she paid for a double date she wanted to go to, knowing full well homie didint have it. She better fukking had.

 

[Sterling Archer]

I know everyone is being cordial and nice to each other in this thread and I love that. I like when my threads are peaceful like this. But I can’t help but notice the people that usually mock black women about the ‘independent woman’ shyt are nowhere to be found.

You may be right. But it’s just a dinner my G. If you can’t pay for a dinner, you indigent.

 

[Sterling Archer]

This is a great story. But you see how little women have to do? Lmao she paid for a double date she wanted to go to, knowing full well homie didint have it. She better fukking had.

 

[FluffyEyes]

I mean this is nice. I don't see why this would have to be a secret from him throughout the dinner. Let him enjoy himself if you really okay with paying. Good luck to them and congrats on the marriage though.

It's funny because a lot of ppl balk @ the reciprocal nature of healthy relationships. They want to take, take, take and not give anything. No reciprocity at all. This can apply to both women and men. It's great that this couple seems to understand that.

 

[Shadow]

 

[Geode]

But for real, she should have let him know ahead of time she was paying, since she's the one that really wanted to go despite knowing the financial situation, or sat down right beside him ate that Jimmy Johns with him.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

That's all it took to say she wife material?

I hope she do more

If they happy good for them

 

[Gloxina]

I’m not downplaying this, because she held him down and played her part —he had already proven himself and showed her that he was a provider so this was the right move.

However, y’all know this is an old school move that women have always done? Side money or a card to your man so he can pay for the meal/date so you as the women don’t pull your money out? Now, she was smart because she did this for the RIGHT man, not a bum or “pookie”.

She was rocking with a man who APPRECIATED the woman who was there during the climb. He didn’t drop her or “upgrade” when he made it. Those are the men you hold down when things get sticky.

Congrats to them!