Women what are the advantages of being upfront and telling you the truth?

[YaBoy]

Respect. My thing is if you can't be honest with me then I know damn sure well that you can't be honest with yourself.
I refuse to entertain a man who chooses to with hold info from me regardless of the outcome.

My thing is, just be real. Just like it takes a certain type of man to stay honest with his female, it takes a certain type of female to be able to be receptive to such said honesty and also be real with her man.

What does this mean? Please elaborate

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Honestly I don't even ask. If we never have a conversation about being together than we are never together. Too many adoring fellas to be trying to wait out a guy who doesn't want me.

 

[SamuraiFlamenco]

Nope, it is a standard question females ALWAYS ask.

Yeah, but it can also be a trap, because she may not feel special and is just "one of your girls". Women want a man to themselves, but a man that other women want means he has "high status". If you can't get bytches, no bytch will want you. If you can get a couple of them, they start to snowball after that.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

amen, it takes a woman who can be not only receptive to it in the beginning,but also APPRECIATE the honesty in the end when shyt don't work out the way she imagined and made up in her mind it would,but how many women is that?. Alotta women can handle it up front but id say MAYBE 5% actually appreciate it once they feelings get involved and get hurt. If im honest and say im not looking for commitment and just wnna have fun,once shes unable to change me she gon swear I stopped dealin with her cuz im a childish dog and just wanted to go fuk other bytches...if I lie and tell her "baby we are commited" I can just lie at the end say "i luhh you but we just not compatible" and shell swear im a saint and appreciate my perceived honest which is really a lie..I in fact just wanna be a dog and fuk these bytches....telling a woman honestly who you are and what you want honestly aint shyt but a weapon she gon use against you later once it go bad it seems

Exactly. There has to be an appropriate amount of maturation for both parties to take and receive the honest truth and to go about their lives amicably. the shyt your talking about actually happened to me years ago. I had an ex I absolutely adored and thought we were going to live happily ever after forever. However, we had a conversation one day about the future and he told me point blank that he has zero desire to ever be married and struggles with consistent monogamy (we were together 6 months at that time). Unfortunately, I desired everything he did not.

We willingly chose to end the relationship because we owed it to ourselves and each other to stay true to what we want and what we believe in individually. See females mess up because they try to change dude to make themselves feel better and to keep what they have because they are internally scared to be alone.

 

[Still Benefited]

It's about being that type person for yourself. It's not about what that other person thinks of you. You need to hold yourself accountable. Being honest with people is really the bare minimum. At the end of the day, do you wanna be known as a liar who can't even meet the bare minimum of human decency?

Listen you wanna bang multiple women then you need to accept the consequences. Hurt feels come from causal sex. If you can't take the heat keep your ass out the kitchen.Don't complain about doing something that you KNOW will have a negative outcome. Again, accountability.

You just admitted I will be known as a liar no matter how honest I am because theres a CONSEQUENCE that comes with fukking multiple women even if she knows uprfront because her feelings got hurt...meanwhile the other option is lying and possibly having ZERO consequences if you her in a nice way before she catches you.....in your honesty scenario I might get villafied and painted as liar regardless if I was honest cuz i hurt a chicks feeling,in the lying scenario if the man don't get caught lying he cant be called a liar.

first part was true about being truthful if you wanna be that type of person for yourself,but in real life if everybody think you a liar because word has got around you a liar,then you a liar....people who are honest I think have a right to hate liars and being lied on. But sound like you justifying that because a bytch got her feelings hurt even though the man was honest...the mans consequence is her lying on him and slandering his honest good name and he should just deal with it

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

Most women aren't gonna be 100 with you, so why be 100 with them? Have you ever been in a relationship with someone that didn't have a filter and was really frank? Don't be that guy, most egos can't take that. Women say they want the truth, but all they want is a good lie.

Example: If your girlfriend has gained 40 lbs (and not in the right places ) and she asks you "Honey, do I look fat in this dress"? The honest reply is "Yeah, but it's not the dresses fault ", but the "correct" answer is: "No honey you look just beautiful ".

That's not the correct answer, it's an appeasing answer for a disingenuous question.... those chicks know they look like whalelephants.

 

[Keep_It_Hip_Hop_Fam]

Yeah, but it can also be a trap, because she may not feel special and is just "one of your girls". Women want a man to themselves, but a man that other women want means he has "high status". If you can't get bytches, no bytch will want you. If you can get a couple of them, they start to snowball after that.

I understand that, but no woman in this day and age expects a man to be dating her and only her prior to a relationship. She expects you to be dating one other and you eventually choose her. Women are very competitive. They won't admit this shyt though.

Any man knows not to put all of his eggs in one basket either.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

What does this mean? Please elaborate

Some men like to live in denial. it makes them feel better and allows them to continue to operate in a child like manner instead of maturing. Some dudes will always lie to females about what they are doing, their true motives, etc out of insecurity or because they would lose too much if they told the truth. So the lies become a lifestyle that makes sure that his needs get met.

And as far as the denial thing goes, if dude cannot be honest with himself about what he wants, doesnt want, loves, hates, etc out of life, from chicks, from himself then I cannot take him seriously. Being honest and truthful would promote growth that some are not ready for (same goes for females), its risky because there is a lose factor, and it takes concern for himself and others.

 

[SamuraiFlamenco]

That's not the correct answer, it's an appeasing answer for a disingenuous question.... those chicks know they look like whalelephants.

Exactly. They just want you to reassure them and bullshyt them, like all her friends do with each other. The problem is that if you give her the honest answer, she'll get upset and angry at you, call you names, and everyone that she'll tell this to will think you're an a$$hole.

That's our society. You can't say "honey, I just can't get hard when you look like a whale" since that makes you shallow

 

[SamuraiFlamenco]

I understand that, but no woman in this day and age expects a man to be dating her and only her prior to a relationship. She expects you to be dating one other and you eventually choose her. Women are very competitive. They won't admit this shyt though.

Any man knows not to put all of his eggs in one basket either.

A lot of guys will do this though, or they'll want to date a girl they "really" want and a "backup girl" and almost always end up with the "backup girl".

You may be on to something. Women LOVE competing for men. There's tons of single men out there but they only want the ones other girls want. Like this guy

He had a whole harem of bytches trying to get at his dikk because other women were competing for him. I might have to make a topic about this.

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

Exactly. They just want you to reassure them and bullshyt them, like all her friends do with each other. The problem is that if you give her the honest answer, she'll get upset and angry at you, call you names, and everyone that she'll tell this to will think you're an @sshole.

That's our society. You can't say "honey, I just can't get hard when you look like a whale" since that makes you shallow

My friends know not to ask me stuff like that when we go shopping... you know you look like a vienna sausage in those jeggings and so do I, so don't ask me how you look in them. I'm not mean, but I'm not about to soothe your delicate sensibilities by lying and have you out here looking a fool.

 

[Still Benefited]

This is nonsensical woman talk. What exactly is wasting your time. Whether I'm fukking 100 chicks, or just trying to spit at you, it don't mean we gonna click. And if we clickin, I could just as easy dead those other chicks because I found what I wanted. Now if I'm a guy and I put all my time in chasing you and you say nah I ain't feelin you, who wasted their time? Who got to start all over again.

man tryna explain that to chicks is like a working class guy who worked hard to become a millionare trying to explain to a kid born with a silver spoon the value of a dollar...if they leave you tomorrow they got they pick of 100 dudes that's ready to take them out who wanna fuk if she cute. They cant appreciate the value of holding on to your quality roster who knows what you like,cuz basically they don't do no work when tryna hook a man so they cant appreciate it...if we all got on the same page and actually made them start courting us,paying for dates,waiting to fuk....I bet they understand that shyt

 

[Seea]

I can gauge whether I'd be wasting my time or not.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You just admitted I will be known as a liar no matter how honest I am because theres a CONSEQUENCE that comes with fukking multiple women even if she knows uprfront because her feelings got hurt...meanwhile the other option is lying and possibly having ZERO consequences if you her in a nice way before she catches you.....in your honesty scenario I might get villafied and painted as liar regardless if I was honest cuz i hurt a chicks feeling,in the lying scenario if the man don't get caught lying he cant be called a liar.

first part was true about being truthful if you wanna be that type of person for yourself,but in real life if everybody think you a liar because word has got around you a liar,then you a liar....people who are honest I think have a right to hate liars and being lied on. But sound like you justifying that because a bytch got her feelings hurt even though the man was honest...the mans consequence is her lying on him and slandering his honest good name and he should just deal with it

Where did I admit that you would be a liar no matter what? Hurt feeling and being a liar are not the same thing. You know that you are not a liar so what difference does it make what she thinks. You obviously don't care about her anyway so why now are you assigning value to her opinion of you. Anyway if you think lying and creeping add value to your life by all means do you. I've never understood how people aspire to use people and leave a trail of misery but you don't seem to have any moral standard that you hold yourself to so we can't even vibe in this conversation.

I am not justifying anything. You are the one justifying being a liar. What I am saying is that you just typed all the consequences of your actions/potential actions so you know what you are getting yourself into so don't bytch and moan when the consequences come to light. If you want to be a liar just know that it could blow up in your face, accept it and take it like a man. Stop trying to blame the sun and the star for situations you willing get yourself into.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Some men like to live in denial. it makes them feel better and allows them to continue to operate in a child like manner instead of maturing. Some dudes will always lie to females about what they are doing, their true motives, etc out of insecurity or because they would lose too much if they told the truth. So the lies become a lifestyle that makes sure that his needs get met.

And as far as the denial thing goes, if dude cannot be honest with himself about what he wants, doesnt want, loves, hates, etc out of life, from chicks, from himself then I cannot take him seriously. Being honest and truthful would promote growth that some are not ready for (same goes for females), its risky because there is a lose factor, and it takes concern for himself and others.

Pretty much. Arrested Development in the finest form. A lot of these guys won't feel you though b/c they don't aspire to be anymore than a consumer of vaginas.