Would It Be Weird to Ask Your Husband to Wear Condoms and/or Get STD Testing Every 6 Months?

[Ello_Vee]

Testing and condoms ensures that the two partners leave the relationship with the same sexual health status that they came in with. Health is much more important than money.

Not necessarily. Condoms break and people cheat between tests, so.
But your point is worthwhile.

Me, personally, not asking my husband to do all that (although I do understand condoms if hormonal birth control makes you sick.) Marriage is different than "being in a relationship". If you chose him as your husband, you ought to have better faith in your decision making abilities and judgement of character. To choose a man you don't trust is not going to give you a healthy marriage. It's just an excuse to have sex with someone if you're on the wait-til-marriage trip.

 

[hotbeezie]

I get tested all the time anyway because I'm a medical laboratory scientist, I deal with a lot of blood and body fluids on the regular so It's probably not a big deal to me...

but I can seriously see how that would be an issue for your future husband especially if he has no history of cheating...

then it's kinda up there with askin your wife for a paternity test even if she no history of cheating.

 

[SunZoo]

How in the fukk do you trust someone enough to legally bind yourself to them but not enough to let him get lost in the sauce? kinda peanut butter and jelly ass shyt is that...

And how long into the marriage is this supposed to be standard procedure?

I can understand not wanting children RIGHT NOW but there are other options for that until it's time. If you're still using rubbers, getting std tests and unsure if you want to have children with this person you probably shouldn't be getting married. Those sound like fukk buddy stipulations.

 

[bcrusaderw]

How in the fukk do you trust someone enough to legally bind yourself to them but not enough to let him get lost in the sauce? kinda peanut butter and jelly ass shyt is that...

And how long into the marriage is this supposed to be standard procedure?

I can understand not wanting children RIGHT NOW but there are other options for that until it's time. If you're still using rubbers, getting std tests and unsure if you want to have children with this person you probably shouldn't be getting married. Those sound like fukk buddy stipulations.

I don't want children ever. I think if STD results consistently come back negative, and that if he gets snipped that we can forego condoms.

 

[Elle Driver]

My husband and I use condoms b/c we don't want no more kids and hormonal birth control makes me literally crazy. But Requesting regular STD tests says you don't trust your partner.

I don't like the idea of prenups either as they indicate the same thing. "I love you and want to share my life with you until were dead, but uh...." It says you're not 100% about somebody and if you're not 100% about somebody YOU DO NOT NEED TO MARRY THEM! The truth is a lot of marriages probably shouldn't have happened.

There's ways of doing these things. Yes marriage is till death do us part, and you should definitely trust your spouse, but making it a thing y'all do together makes it feel like you're not pointing the finger at each other and you are moreso concerned about each other's health.

I use condoms because BC caused me a lot of health issues. Plus, fibroids is most common in black women, which BC can cause. Make it a regular thing with your long term partner and get yourself checked, follow up with your gyno, and don't hide shyt from each other basically.

 

[bcrusaderw]

There's ways of doing these things. Yes marriage is till death do us part, and you should definitely trust your spouse, but making it a thing y'all do together makes it feel like you're not pointing the finger at each other and you are moreso concerned about each other's health.

I use condoms because BC caused me a lot of health issues. Plus, fibroids is most common in black women, which BC can cause. Make it a regular thing with your long term partner and get yourself checked, follow up with your gyno, and don't hide shyt from each other basically.

Breast cancer is common in black women too, and birth control has been linked to breast cancer.

 

[Elle Driver]

Breast cancer is common in black women too, and birth control has been linked to breast cancer.

It's really not a good idea. It gave me complications with my fertility. I would not suggest it. I wouldn't even suggest using an IUD.

 

[CashmereThoughts]

If you gotta do all that why be married to that person?

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

condom thing is weird as fukk

if were married I'm shooting up the club everytime

 

[Miss Lucifer's Love]

There's ways of doing these things. Yes marriage is till death do us part, and you should definitely trust your spouse, but making it a thing y'all do together makes it feel like you're not pointing the finger at each other and you are moreso concerned about each other's health.

Makes it feel like you're not pointing the finger, but you are. Doing it together or not, it still says you don't trust that person and if that's the case you should not be married to them. I trust my husband with my life. Literally and figuratively. If I didn't he wouldn't be my husband.

 

[feelosofer]

Well condoms is a bit much if you're married, but I get tested during my checkups (3 or 4 times a year) so that is fine. But requiring your husband to tested speaks to a general lack of trust.

 

[kittykat89]

Every time I see this headline I just think of how weird of a question this is.

 

[Taadow]

Testing and condoms ensures that the two partners leave the relationship with the same sexual health status that they came in with.

BWAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAAA NO IT DOESN'T!

Whahappen when you use condoms and yo go for a test and you still get something??
Your status has changed, Mon Ami...


Also - one of the greatest selling points of marriage is gettin' to go Raw Diggity Dawg.

and if you don't wanna have a baby, why not do Da Sponge or an IUD?



but whatever - i'm a man, so it doesn't matter. Imma just get bucc over hurr in this corner...

 

[Dreamer]

If he is a possible cheater, if it is really a comitted marriage why waste the money