Would you date someone for 11 years without getting married?
- Thread starter Sam Peel
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In modern American society, most people marry for love. Historically love has never been a reason for marriage. And when you no longer "love" a person in this society, you get divorced. Historically marriage has never been about love. Which is why marriage is in the state it's in right now where the divorce rate is extraordinarily high.
why?
Love and friendship is great foundation but it's not enough...but it's definitely a must for a beginning...
No
If she good enough to be with, for 11 years, then she's good enough to wife
If not: it's a waste of time, if u want a family
If she good enough to be with, for 11 years, then she's good enough to wife
If not: it's a waste of time, if u want a family
But she could cheat the day after you get married, file for a divorce and take HALF of your money...
Go for it breh!
so she waited 11 yrs, stayed faithful, to get married then cheat?U dude worst than children, sometimes...
Comitting yourself for 11 years with someone you don't plan on marrying is a waste. That's a lot of consideration and compromise for it basically not to be going anywhere.
where does "it" go after marriage, that can't be achieved before marriage?
HoustonHeat
In and out
It's not a waste if legal marriage is never your goal.
Legal marriage holds no meaning to me, especially when we are already mutually committed for life (been with my dude a long time). I have to spend 17k for a wedding and certificate now?
The only reason I would get married at this point is cause if I choose to have a baby, I don't want to hear shyt from my mom about doing it out of "wedlock", and even then, that doesn't bother me too much considering the nasty divorce she went through was more dishonorable to the family than anything I could do.
I'm not sure exactly how to explain how I feel about it but I compare it to being a temporary/contractual employee for a company vs being a full-time one. If my husband lost his job I'd have no problem picking up a 2nd or 3rd job to help support us. If my boyfriend lost his job, I'd keep an eye out for new positions and give him the best pep talk I could muster but I wouldn't do much more than that. I have other examples but there is just a difference to me.
Yeah, this is pretty stupid
So you would change your entire line of thinking because you don't have a ring?
Lucky_Lefty
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