Would You Date Someone With Multiple Kids If You Had None Yourself?

[Easy-E]

she was scheduled to be married when she had two of em

she seems to have a good head on her shoulders now so who am I to judge someone on past mistakes when she's making the best out of it?

PAST!?

Oh, so the kids are wards of the state, now and she has no responsibility for them?

Ya'll kill me with this "past" stuff.

Breaking a vase is a past mistake.

Gettin' pregnant by two men for three kids is a ever present situation you got the step up and take responsibility for.

She's still having sex with men who ain't married to her. Men who can just go, when the time comes. You know like the last two. That's a pattern, jack.

 

[mamba]

I remember there was this sexy ass black girl in my chemistry lab back in school. She was the only female in our lab and I lucked out because she was slim black girl with a nice ass, naturally long hair and a pretty face. I started spitting game to her, flirting, I got her number and she was all on me until one day she told me she had to leave the library early to go pick up her son. Shyt had me like and I found out she was like 26-27 with like a 3 year old I think. After I found out about the kid, I stopped flirting with her completely. She was hot(Looked like Regina Hall) but I wasn't ready for all of that, especially as a college kid that was barely old enough to drink. It sucked because she was a catch too and would have had so many options had she not had a kid.



Another time I went over to my sister's apartment and there was this pretty ass light skinned girl, skinny with brown curly hair and green eyes. I put my swag on and started spitting game before I heard a baby crying and she said she had to go make sure her son was alright. Seriously that shyt fukked me up. I came over another day and my sister had another fine ass black roommate(my sister had 3 roommates, it was one of those student apartments) before I knew it I found out she had a kid too!



I'm about to flip out because as much as I sympathize for single mothers, I just can't do it. Not at my age.(Maybe in my 30s). We have to do a better job of taking care of our daughters brehs. I've seen too many bomb ass black women sell themselves short in terms of wife material because they get knocked up by bum ass dusty nikkas out of low self esteem. Then these bum ass nikkas ain't even have the decency to wife the broad or raise the kid. They just run away or if the wife is a smut, she doesn't even know who the baby daddy is.

It's crazy, breh. I know a few solid Black women who I'd wife up if they didn't have kids.

 

[joeychizzle]

Regardless of whatever colour she was, multiple kids is baggage I'm not gonna carry.
Tellin me I gotta raise them little mofukkas when they don't even have my goddamn genes??

 

[hotbeezie]

Even her financial situation seem sketchy at best.

She don't believe in child support

I guess she don't get WIC or food stamps either, her kids out here like...


Even if you get with her and you got a lil money the government taking what little benefits she got and then it's all on you. Taking care of 4 damn people, and worse case scenario is that the kids hate ya ass no matter what you do.

Hell nah, fukk that Bullshyt...



























But I'm just on the outside looking in pleighboi

 

[*Angel*]

I can't believe I've read half of another SINGLE MOTHER thread. But, since I'm lurking and dapping, folk;

@O RLY is in lust with an woman in a precarious situation. With three children by two different me; you're set up for a complicated life at a young age, brother.

But, your sprung because your fornicating with her and your emotions are sayin' "COOL." But, logic would say; something's not right.

She's even having sex with you, now. You're on the line up to be Father #3 for kid #4. She's obviously not to worried about another one.

I watched the little back and forth between @TheStripper & @Twyla and I've always been on this;

I want to be with a responsible woman. Your children--if you have no husband--are the most important thing to you. I don't want to have to share you with three other people. But, oh, you'll make time for me?

Nah...

If you have a child; your free time (outside of working for money) should be spent caring for your children. SHE GOT THREE! She doesn't have time for dating!


Again, your lust is clouding your judgement.
If she was past her mistakes, then she'd wait 'til you married her to have sex. You know...to prevent the exact same thing from happening for the 4th time.

Doesn't make any sense. I never said she was past her mistakes. We can agree to disagree already. Children don't = the end of dating or life. I don't care to debate with a diff extreme opinion on this bc its not that deep. And she can be responsible and use protection to prevent the last part.

 

[Solano707]

3 is too many bruh... I would say one, TWO THE MAX! And she better has something going for herself professionally, like a nurse... cause if she ain't, The only thing she is offering you is headaches and huge hole in your pockets.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

No.

 

[Easy-E]

Doesn't make any sense. I never said she was past her mistakes. We can agree to disagree already. Children don't = the end of dating or life. I don't care to debate with a diff extreme opinion on this bc its not that deep. And she can be responsible and use protection to prevent the last part.

That wasn't directed at u

But

This lady has three

And I'm sure she was thinking about protection when BD #2 was with her

And that produced another kid

I'm still trying to figure out how you balance a job, giving the proper attention they deserve (looks like the oldest is barely five), and carrying on with men

Sometimes its time to shut it down and get your self together

Get all them kids in school b4 ur out trying to get men

 

[Tommy Knocks]

 

[Claudex]

Nope.

 

[WeDemBoyz]

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

No way in hell. A chick with 1 kid, maybe a strong maybe, but with 2 or more, she's straight bushes status, it doesn't matter how good she looks or how compatible we are.

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

 

[I_Got_Da_Burna]

OMFG I think I just died yo...

and the OP is a simp ass nikka with no pride.

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

everyone took that line wrong LOL

all i meant was he disappeared from her and the child's life, I was just using my knack for vividly describing situations to make it pop out more

and @Chris.B i think it was you who asked this...in her own words she "doesnt believe in child support" she thinks if the man doesnt want to support his children by his own free will then she will not have him court ordered to do so

Breh, that's a MAJOR red flag, why are you still dealing with this scallywag? How is she surviving without some sort of financial support from her baby fathers? I'd drop her if I was you.